Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help sky-rocket your confidence and success.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What did I learn?" or said differently, "How did I grow?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question after every activity or challenge you do every day this week and the promise is that you will gain insight, build self-esteem and celebrate more wins in the game of life!


THE TIPS

Self-talk is the name for the dialogue that all of us hear talking inside of our heads.

The voices can sometimes be encouraging in nature, however for most people their self-talk seems to be a negative chatter.

Some people call this negative chatter the "mono loco" or crazy monkey inside their head. Other people have used the analogy of an "Angel" and a "Devil" on your shoulder, whispering "good" or "bad" things into your ear.

How often do you recall hearing these voices? For most of us it is all of the time.

You will usually hear the voice try and stop you before you start a job, while you are working on the task and even when you have completed the work.

The voice will sound like fear, doubt and uncertainty which if listened to will leave you feeling weak, afraid and powerless.

The voice tends to take away our personal power from the situation, it will tell you what is missing and what you could have done differently instead to make it better.

The crazy monkey is never satisfied and it usually looks for perfection.

Winning first place, breaking new ground, shattering new personal records and undertaking new adventures do not matter to the crazy monkey. The mono-loco wants you to fail so it can remain safe and unchanged inside of you.

Listening to the monkey's self-talk will leave you weak, tired, frustrated and feeling like a failure no matter if you just finished winning a Gold in the Olympics.

Next time when the monkey comes to chat regarding your experiences, ask yourself today's question... "What did I learn?" or "How did I grow?" and it will help you find the "wins" in your world.

Finding and celebrating the small victories helps ensure you are focused on the elements of an experience that will allow you to grow.

Even if the only thing you figure you have found out is a new way of doing something "wrong" then asking yourself today's question will help find a way to reframe the situation so that you feel good about it.

The more you ask yourself these questions the more you will develop a mental database of memories in which you are a winner.

The more instances and examples you have in the back of your mind where you learned something the more you will feel like you are growing with each new experience.

Self-esteem is basically how you like, trust and respect yourself, and in life the more you build a base of learning and growth the more you feel confident to handle new situations.


THE SECRET

The secret to instilling today's habit to build a life of confidence and adventure is by keeping track of your progress.

You can keep track of your progress many different ways such as:

Writing it online such as a web blog or video blog. Keeping track by e-mailing yourself or recording a video to your blog whenever you come across a win.

Do you carry a cell phone with you most of the time? Why not try to text message yourself notes as they happen? You could also use the "notes" feature that is found in most mobiles.

You can also use good old fashion sticky notes or can create a special "winners" journal for yourself to record all your victories.

Feel free to experiment to find the method and combination of tools that work best for you.

Your job is to log all instances of winning and answers to the questions so that you will have a diary or record of your achievements.

If you ever feel like a loser all you need to do is revisit your journal for a whole history of wins.

After asking yourself the questions and recording the answers your final job is to party!

Celebrate your growth along every step of the way because your growing should be the adventure of your lifetime not the destination.