Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you harness the power of your mind.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question to boost your brainpower and to become better at solving your own problems.

 

 

THE TIPS

Whether you like it or not, you are destined to encounter problems during your lifetime, it is simply part of the experience of being human.

But for human beings, it is not the problem that is important, but how we go about solving the problem that matters most.

Whether you realized it or not, you are constantly thinking to yourself and solving problems in the form of self-talk.

Think about when you ran into that old friend from high school and you were struggling to remember their name.

When you ask your subconscious to get it for you, it will usually come back with the right answer, although maybe not at the time you are face-to-face.

When you ask your subconscious a question, it has no choice but to return an answer to you. You can use this fact to your advantage. Here's how.

First, make sure that your internal-dialogue is positioned to help solve problems. Monitor the discussion, will this conversation move you closer to what you want?

If not, then the quality of the questions you are asking yourself may be the first place you want to change.

What if you could change your life just by changing the questions that you ask yourself? Yes you can, you were meant to, and you can start training yourself to ask better questions.

The moment you wake up tomorrow morning, and before you begin thinking about your day, ask yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

This question will give you an idea of whether major changes are needed, or perhaps just a tweak here or there will do the trick.

 

"Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." --- Anthony Robbins

Half of your problem-solving power should always be devoted to clearly and accurately defining the problem. An accurate diagnosis is half the cure.

When you know exactly what the problem is, you are already that much closer to implementing a feasible solution.

 

Without knowing the exact nature of the problem, you will not very well-equipped to solve it, no matter what the situation. 

For instance, if you were unsure why a friend was upset with you, and never took the time to understand why, then how easily could you solve the problem?

 

Probably not very well. Luckily the ego will usually rectify this problem, so you don't have to worry about it, through its usual avenues such as justification, blame, denial, anger, etc... 

Some people would write-off the friends behavior as too weird or rude to be bothered with, some people even perhaps would ignore their friend until they "disclosed" the problem.

 

The problem with going this route is that by the time you two actually sit down and talk, there will be an emotional dam between you both that feels like it is about to burst.

Then, the best question from this lowered mind-frame and highly emotional vibrational state, would likely be: "What is your problem anyway!?" 

However, this question often doesn't solve the problem, in fact, it usually makes the situation much worst.

 

The real issue of why your friend is upset needs to be answered from a different level of thinking then what created the problem.

 

The real question is not what their problem is but, rather "How can you solve it?".

Which approach do you personally think would be more effective for you, or if it was used on you? Of course, knowing the problem is half the battle.

Therefore, you can immediately increase your personal effectiveness through the use of critical thinking questions. 

A good question will clearly define the problem, uncover any false assumptions, and help your mind focus on a solution.

When it comes to problem-solving, it is not the problem itself, but your perception of the problem that will make the most impact towards a solution.

 

For example, asking quality questions such as "What do I already know about this person/topic?", or "How have I solved problems like this before?" will help you tap into your existing experiences in order to better brainstorm solutions.

 

You must always focus on how you can be more personally effective, the moment you let up your lower-priority activities will start to consume all of your time, keeping you busy and burned out.

 

The key to personal effectiveness is the quality of questions that you ask yourself. You can take stock on the quality of your current level of questions by asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?" 

 

THE SECRET 

The power and affect that quality questions can have on your life is unquestionable. 

First, by thinking about quality questions you become more aware of the (normally unnoticed) conversations that you have with yourself.

 

This awareness will help you observe whether your self-talk is effective towards your goals or not. Are you treating yourself as an unconditional nurturing coach, or a conditional constant critic?

This will help you start to develop a less-biased opinion about whether your actions and self-talk are reinforcing your success, or in fact negating it.

Quality questions will also help you improve the quality of your inner self-talk, the conversations and commentary you have inside your head.  

  

When you master the anatomy of a quality question you become free to explore the future freely, and also where your past choices have taken you. 

When you are free to explore your self and experiences, you will now start to develop your natural navigation system, use this to hone in on your dreams.

  

The more valuable questions you ask, the more each quality answer will bring out the capable and confident person inside of you.

The goal of any quality question is to build a framework for success inside your brain, a process to use yesterday's and today's experiences in a positive way tomorrow.

With quality questions you can find a way to win, or at least walk away with one lesson to apply in the future, regardless of whether the experience was good, bad, or ugly.

Asking yourself quality questions is about finding better questions to bring about a better experience for all those involved.

Here is an off-the-cuff example. Imagine for a moment that you have this annoying habit that you want to break, i.e. you tend to talk too much when you are nervous.

You've determined that this isn't working for you and you want to change it, the first question you might ask yourself is: "Why do I over-talk when I am nervous?"

Again, all you need to do is ask your subconscious a good quality question, and then patiently sit back and allow for an answer.

 

Perhaps you will discover that you tend to talk more when you are nervous, because you feel uncomfortable with silence.

What happens when you are not sure what to do with an answer you receive? In this case, all you have to do is ask your subconscious another question.

Continuing with the example, you know that it's feeling uncomfortable with silence that is the problem, now you can ask your subconscious why.

The question you might want to ask now is, "Why am I uncomfortable with silence?" and then allow you sub-conscious to answer.

Maybe the 'reason' that returns to you is that you are uncomfortable with silence because you have low self-esteem.

What could you do at this point? Well you could continue to ask another question, i.e. "why you have self-esteem", and continue to go down the path of your problems.

However, consider now how much more empowering it would be to transport yourself into the realm of solutions?

How about instead of asking "why do I have this problem", you shift your questioning to "what can I do about it"?

In our over-talking example, how about switching from why you are uncomfortable with silence, to "what can I do to not be so uncomfortable with silence?"

Or, instead you could ask yourself, "In what ways can I communicate more confidently and concisely?"

Now you have shifted the emphasis off of diagnosing the problem, and switched on to finding a solution for the cure.

This works better because now you don't even need to solve your low-self esteem, because if when you find a way to be a more powerful and confident speaker, your self-esteem will have to match right?

Can you see how this little shift in thinking can make a huge difference. If not, go back and read it again until you get it!

By asking your subconscious questions you can begin to tap into your true power.

Stuck in a situation right now and still not sure where to start?

How about asking yourself a quality question such as: "What does success look like for me?", or "How can I turn my current situation around to best suit me?", or "What question have I not asked myself, but if I did, would lead to the greatest increase in the quality of my life?"

The better questions you ask yourself, the better answers you get, the better results occur, and better quality of life you will live.

Ultimately, quality questions add balance to your way of thinking, nurture your way of doing, and help to discover the consciousness behind being.

You can get a start to discover the power of your questions by asking yourself: "What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"