Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live guilt and regret free.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question at every minor and major case you find yourself offended and you will be able to better respond to those situations in the future.


THE TIPS

The next time something or someone rubs you the wrong way, and before you give it too much of your energy and attention, stop and ask yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"

The universal answer to that question is... Never!

Ask yourself "How many times has being offended solved anything in my life?"

And the universal answer to that question is still... Never!

Yet being offended, passing judgement and criticizing situations is something that we all do, many of us on a daily basis.

Being offended does nothing to satisfy the situation, and it certainly doesn't benefit the person or thing that offended you.

It is good to detach yourself from these situations because many times the offender doesn't even know they committed the crime.

Asking "Will being offended solve my problem?" is the first step in effective problem solving.

Instead of focusing on the reasons to be offended, or justifying your revenge, take a look at what is really bothering you here.

Becoming and staying offended cannot help you, but challenging yourself to look at the reason why you were offended in the first place can help you tremendously.

Anytime you are "overly opinionated" about anything it is reason for you to explore deeper.

There is no shame, guilt or regret involved with getting to know what offends you.

In fact there is nothing wrong with being offended, the problem becomes when we don't know or don't care why.

To know why you are offended is a chance for you to get familiar with your values.

Everybody must strive to put our values and motives under the microscope of truth.

Why not? After all we expect to keep our Government and Elected Officials in-check.

Why shouldn't we take the same approach of scrutiny and standards to the main motivator behind our own behaviour?

Ignoring the reasons why you are offended will not shed any insight whatsoever into what to do about it, or how to get over it.

Whenever you feel emotion about something or someone it is more a reflection of yourself than of what you think caused the feelings.

You are responsible for self-governing your feelings and asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" will help you put your thoughts, feelings and behaviour into clearer perspective.


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" helps remind you that being offended is not at all productive.

If you want to be productive one of the first questions to ask yourself whenever you feel offended is "what does this situation say about me?"

What do the thoughts and feelings that you have towards this situation say about you?

Being offended in a situation only shows people the way in which you judge others.

Continuing to remind others of how and why you are offended can only bring you more of being offended.

This can be summed up by the saying "you get out what you put in". Putting in complaints doesn't grow roses.

If you had a banana and you continued to cut it up into pieces, no matter what at the end of the day you would still have a banana.

You would never cut up a banana and expect to have orange slices right?

Being able to see why you were offended and what that insight reveals about what you are made up of on this inside is priceless.

With humility and practice you will develop the ability to respond better and offer a more balanced perspective.

A well-balanced perspective comes from being able to ponder yourself in the equation, both as the problem and as the solution.

This detached state of being is called introspection, or reflection and is generally accomplished through meditation.

With gentle introspection you will see reflections of both the conscious and subconscious programs that operate your world.

Yet for some strange reason many people fear stillness and shy away from taking a serious look inward.

Maybe because unless you grew up with a Yogi next door we were not taught how to meditate or exposed to the value of it.

Whatever the reason, it is an illusion that we can some go through life and avoid getting to know our self.

It is in our best interest to get to know the person we are stuck with no matter what.

No matter where you go, there you are, so the faster you get to know all aspects of your self the better.

Keeping the above metaphor of a self-government in mind, wouldn't you like to know if your elected "body" was doing a good job?

If you wanted to keep things accountable you would definitely require studies and analysis.

Don't be afraid to study your self, your motives, your behaviours, your thoughts and your habits.

Be your own best friend, become tag team partners with your self and together you will wrestle the challenges of life.

The better your relationship with your self, the better results that you will get.

When you are not getting the results that you are looking for, or find yourself emotionally attached to something, ask yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" to move forward faster.