Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will unveil the truth behind your behaviour and set you free from the invisible prison you might be living in.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Am I willing to accept this set-point?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question before as many thoughts, feelings or activities as you can and you'll gain invaluable insight into your behaviour.


THE TIPS

You may or may not have heard the term "set-point" before, perhaps in the context concerning weight loss.

According to Merriams-Webster online dictionary a set-point is defined as: the level or point at which a variable physiological state (as body temperature or weight) tends to stabilize.

When you are young and still growing your weight increases accordingly, until you reach the point in which your weight stabilizes and tops out.

From this set-point you are likely to fluctuate up and down in small amounts say about 5-10lbs pounds.

Chances are high that you have been around the same weight for as long as you can remember right?

No matter how hard you consciously exercise and diet to achieve your "ideal" weight, your set-point regulates and governs your "actual" weight.

Your set-point should be the prime suspect for the yo-yo'ing because over time it will do whatever it takes to get back to its comfort zone.

Just like a thermostat in a house your set-point runs independent of the temperature outside, it only can regulate it inside.

So if you are in the middle of winter and turn your thermostat off, it has no idea that your house will be freezing, it's just listening to your command.

Similarly set-points don't always act in our best interest.

The nature of your set point is regulatory and isn't necessarily in-line with the natural growth instinct and ideals of your higher-self.

Therefore it is your set-point and not your higher-self that will attempt to foil even your most earnest efforts.

If you want to be warm in winter but your thermostat is shut off, then you'll probably freeze despite your best efforts to heat your house with matches, stove, gas, candles, hot water etc...

If left unchecked a set-point could keep you playing small, satisfied with the status quo and have you settle for a life of mediocrity.

So how do you end this vicious cycle of set-point self-sabotage?

For starters, by asking yourself, "Am I willing to accept this set-point?"

Nothing happens without reason, everything has an input and an output.

If you are not willing to accept your current set-point then you must be willing to change your cause.

You must be ready, willing and able to change your cause or input if you expect a different output or result.

Another question you might want to follow up with initially is "how has this set-point" contributed to bettering my being?

A set-point will either have a positive or a negative effect on your energy, vibrations and feelings.

Does the set-point reflect balance, harmony, truth, joy or moderation?

Does it feel happy, natural and in the flow?

Write down all the positive and negative outputs that have resulted from that set-point.

Once you have written them down take a look at your inputs and outputs and ask yourself "Am I willing to accept this set-point?"

One of the most empowering realizations that you can have is experiencing the fact that you actually can change your set-point.


THE SECRET

When it comes a set-point there are many more than just the one that influences your weight.

If you aren't sure if or how set-points affect you just take look in your physical world for clues.

Your set-point will tend to surface and show up in the physical world whenever energy and attention are added to the equation.

Your physical world reflects most of your set-points, although not every set-point will necessary surface or be easy to identify.

For example it is nearly impossible 100% accurately distinguish between an introvert and an extrovert based solely on exterior clues.

However, one thing that's for certain is behind each one of your behaviours is a set-point.

Your set-point controls and influences your choices based on your self-image and beliefs.

Do you continually measure your self, or self-image, against others?

Do you believe yourself to be inferior or superior to other people?

Neither efforts are beneficial because they are both merely illusions.

You cannot compare yourself to others because you cannot be them, it's like comparing the growth of an apple to an orange.

The most qualified person capable of being the very best person you can be is naturally only you.

Therefore the other measuring stick to truthfully hold yourself up to is against your higher self.

Ask yourself "Am I willing to accept this set-point?" in regards to living your highest vision.

Are you doing, creating, loving or behaving to the level in which you are truly capable?

Are you continually finding new ways to grow and become more like your higher-self?

Do you feel that when it comes to your life that you have a lot of choices and options?

Your choices and options are reflected by the amount of money and degree of freedom you experience.

If you don't feel you have a lot of money, freedom, options or choices then you probably aren't stretching your set-points regularly.

That's because the more that you raise and challenge your set-points the more options and choices you will earn as a result.

You are either conscious or subconscious in regards to each one of your set-points.

Only when you become consciously aware of an incompetency can you then strive to become more competent.

As you become more competent and confident in your set-points your performance will get better.

As you perform better over time you will become unconsciously competent of that specific task, technique, or trait.

Then you can free up your time and mental energy to focus on the next set-point of interest.

As you work through these set-points record them on paper or a journal, it will prove helpful later as a reference and reminder.

To start a new journey of inner growth and change ask yourself, "Am I willing to accept this set-point?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will put a new spin on the way you think long-term about your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question during as many decisions as possible this week and you will begin to see life from more of a long-term perspective.


THE TIPS

A great question to ask the next time you are faced with a decision that you must weigh the consequences is "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?"

The point of this question is to get you to consider both the short and long-term implications of your decision.

Many times we hastily make rash decisions without considering the effects until after it's too late, or sometimes not considering them at all.

For example, if you were offered a choice between having $1,000 cash in your pocket this very moment or waiting a full year and receiving $1,500, the majority of people would go with the quick money.

What would you choose?

90% of people would choose the smaller amount even though they would get 50% more if they waited and even when they had to do nothing in addition to claim the larger amount.

How does this play out when it comes to saving and investing your money?

The person who picks the $1,000 is more likely to have less savings and investments than the person who chooses to wait for the $1,500.

While there is nothing inherently wrong with choosing the smaller amount to enjoy sooner, the long-term implications of choosing this, means that over time you will find it more and more difficult to choose the larger amount later.

We are constantly building neural networks in the brain, hard-wiring the brain with choices and decisions into associations and identities.

An identity is simply a pattern of thought that you have bought over a period of time.

By continually focusing on a smaller result you may receive the reward sooner but in reality you are strengthening a long-term identity that will hold you hostage and keep you playing small.

This is because when left to it's own choice, the mind has the tendency to want to do the minimal to get by, to avoid rocking the boat and to stay in your comfort zone.

What this translates into is the automatic sacrifice of long-term rewards for a short-term gains.

An example that illustrates this is picturing a hockey game where one team is 100% motivated by defense and no one ever attempts to score on the other team.

While this strategy (if you want to call it one) would lead to short term results, i.e. feeling good that the other team would have a very tough time scoring, the long-term implications are that they would never win a game because they are ignoring the bigger picture and not doing what it takes to win.

How often are you faced with situations that play out like this hockey game?

How often do you continue to allow yourself to play defense only, to not take risks and try and score a goal?

For example, if you are currently single it may seem easier not to talk to that handsome man you run into at the supermarket every week.

It may seem easier not to expose yourself to the possibility of being rejected or having to participate in an awkward conversation.

However, ask yourself "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" to help you break-free of the tendency to remain in your comfort zone.

Perhaps answering the question in this example you might come up with answers such as: "I am giving up the chance to find a significant other" or "I am giving up the potential of meeting my future husband, the father of my kids, or passing by the companion I've been searching for all my life".

When you come up with answers adopted from a long-term perspective it helps reframe the current situation and make new decisions.

Taking time to consider new answers and information is important if you are looking to break-free from an old habit.

In life you have a choice, either attempt to acquire something smaller sooner or wait to develop something that is larger later.

Apply this weeks motivating mindset to areas such as relationships, finances and weight loss and you will be surprised at what type of long-term results you can achieve.


THE SECRET

If you aren't growing in an area of your life then by the contrary you must be dying.

Who would you like to grow yourself into? What areas of your life are important to you? Where are your values placed?

If you aren't sure who, what or where a good starting place is to examine your current history, results and actions.

How do you spend your time right now? Where have you been placing your energy, attention and focus?

Answer this question openly and honestly and you will shed some light on what is most important to you right now.

After you're aware of your life values your next goal is to ensure you devote the proper time and attention to supports these areas.

Developing patience with yourself and with the people that you care about is just as important as experiencing the actual growth itself.

Continually asking yourself the question "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" helps you realize the validity behind the saying "patience is a virtue"

Beware that time is an ongoing illusion that is capable of hiding the small steps we take and the incremental growth we make.

It is easy to make the mistake of believing that you haven't accomplished anything.

It is easy for the results of your efforts to be obscured by the present reality.

Understand that your present reality is merely a reflection of the choices you made previously in your past years, months and days.

In order for your new decisions to take affect and to see external results, you must patiently wait for days, months and even possibly years.

Keep in mind that just because you cannot see the change happening doesn't mean it isn't.

For instance, have you ever seen first-hand the drift between the continental plates?

What about ever witnessing your fingernails growing?

You probably didn't notice either because they both happen at an average growth rate of 0.1 mm each day (1 centimeter in 100 days).

Yet these forces continue to happen undetected as we speak and one day, sooner or later, you may be forced to respond to this growth.

You will probably choose to cut your fingernails when they get too long or there may be an earth quake or tsunami from the plate tectonics colliding.

Seen or unseen everyday life is unfolding before your very eyes.

The direction that your life unfolds takes place in the small and seemingly unimportant choices that you make every day.

Take a moment to write down the skills, talents and higher visions that are unfolding inside of you right now.

You may have heard the say that "Rome wasn't built in a day" well neither should the gifts that you offer the world.

Buying into rewards that are smaller sooner is only an illusion and is not a shortcut that leads to long-term success.

Ask yourself "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" to help you realize your long-term vision.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

Apply today's Motivating Mindset and you will gain power and confidence in dealing with any fears that hold your life back.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Is It True?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every chance you get every day this week and the promise is that you will gain courage and grow greatly in the areas of reasoning and emotional control.


THE TIPS

The seeds of fear, worry and doubt grow to produce pain, drain and anxiety.

The good news is that fear, worry and doubt are beliefs... and you can still choose your beliefs.

If you can choose your beliefs then you can change them.

A belief is basically an evaluation of information relating to a person, place or thing.

You can always change your evaluation of something by considering new information.

The best way to gain new insight when feeling the same fear, worry or doubt is to ask yourself:

"Is It True?"

Reflect further with questions such as:

Is this situation true? Is this the only way of adding up the facts? What are all of the facts?

Fears, worry and doubt are often evaluations of information that are incomplete, inaccurate and incorrect.

What beliefs have you accepted that perhaps aren't true?


THE SECRET

Unfortunately there is no easy way to determine what information that we accept as part of our lives and use to make decisions with has been completely misinterpreted.

Gently laugh at yourself for fostering your limiting-beliefs and give yourself the present of presence when consciously choosing not to continue feeding false fabrications.

Questions to follow up with are: "How do I know this is true?" and "Could I be making any false assumptions?"

The questions are only as good as the answers that you come up with.

You must be willing to gain new information if you want to move past old thought processes.

Your fear, your worry and your doubt all reside in belief systems that you can rebuild and renovate to rule.

"There is nothing to fear except the persistent refusal to find out the truth, the persistent refusal to analyze the causes of happenings." --- Dorothy Thompson

All you need to do is change the way you evaluate something, because then you also change the way you feel about it.

When you change the way you feel about something, even just a little bit, your belief about it has also changed.

Remember to celebrate the small wins in your belief breakthroughs.

You are stronger and more powerful than you can believe.

Seek the truth.

Ask and thou shall find.

Reflect on This...

I am willing to put myself through anything; temporary pain or discomfort means nothing to me as long as I can see that the experience will take me to a new level. I am interested in the unknown, and the only path to the unknown is through breaking barriers, an often-painful process. --Diana Nyad


Question:
How do you deal with the temporary discomfort that happens when you are in danger of stretching your comfort zone? What process, mechanism, or ideal allows you to perservere past those initial growing pains?