Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you stop worrying and start living.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What should I stop doing?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question at least once a day and you will reduce stress and get more done.


THE TIPS

At the end of your evening tonight, or first thing tomorrow morning, ask yourself the question:

"What should I stop doing?"

If you want to get more done it may seem a bit counterproductive to ask yourself this question, but stopping is actually an important part of the process of change.

Everything in our lives is like a door that can open new possibilities for us.

In order to fully move into any new part of life, or create a new reality for our self we must first close the door behind us that holds our old identity.

This is because in order to start one thing one must first stop doing something else, even if that something else was nothing.

For example, in order to be reading these words right now you are giving up the opportunity to do nothing.

You are also simultaneously giving up an opportunity to do something else like read a cartwheel if you were so inclined.

Some people refer to this as an 'opportunity cost', or what you have to give up when you commit to do something else.

Everything has an opportunity cost, the relationships we are in cost us other potential mates, our jobs cost us other opportunities to work somewhere else.

Subconsciously and consciously we are constantly trying to choose the best opportunities to take advantage of.

We decide what is most important in our lives by rewarding it with our time and attention.

Here is where the majority of us make a major error in judgment.

We mistakenly give up the opportunity to do what we "want/desire to do" in place of what we feel we "have to do".

Are you guilty of settling for less than you deserve in an aspect of your life? Chances are you have.

Answer 'yes' or 'no' to the following questions to see if you are spending your time wisely.

- Do you currently believe that "you have to do something", but realize that the something is draining your energy?

- Do you feel trapped by doing things the old way, pressured to perform a certain way, or have obligations that stress you out?

- Are you in a role you are no longer committed to, stuck in an unrewarding relationship, or working a jobs that is not fulfilling?

- Do you seem to find yourself "going through the motions" day in and day out?

If you have answered yes to any of the above questions then it might be time that you take something off your plate.

A great way to start the process of becoming more aware is in the consideration of the question:

"What should I stop doing?"


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "What should I stop doing?" is a great way to empower and enrich your current efforts.

Human nature is that we all want to get more done with as little time, money and energy as possible.

In life this is called 'Return on Energy' and in business it's called 'Return on Capital Expended'.

Whatever you call it at the end of the day the bottom line is that we all want to return more than we have to put out.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more effective and efficient in whatever you do.

After all, who willingly wants to waste their time, take longer than needed, or spend more money than necessary?

Absolutely no one. It's safe to say that 100% of the population would never consciously choose to do any of the above.

Yet how is it that most of us end up overwhelmed, frustrated or broke? What happened?

Were we that off base and delusional that we missed all signs of disaster?

Have you ever heard the old saying "It was the straw that broke the camels back?"

Its an old adage symbolizing a story upon which a camels back gets broken, seemingly all because of a single piece of straw.

Of course, we know it was the accumulation of straw over time that created those dire circumstances.

The same thing happens to us when we pile too many projects on the plate, the system is bound to breakdown.

Our when we take on projects, relationships, goals and jobs that are meaningless.

A part of the problem is that we say 'yes' to way too many things that we could be politely saying 'no thanks' too.

It doesn't help when we fail to see the pattern behind the mistakes that we repeatedly make.

If you are continually failing at something and not feeling motivated to move forward this is a sign to check your commitment.

Perhaps you are no longer interested in investing your time and energy into this, only you can tell. Be honest with yourself.

Every goal to be better, to reach higher, to obtain a new income level will require a new level of you.

You decide what experiences and memories you will fuse into the you that exists right this moment, and which aspects of your life to leave behind.

There is not enough time in our lifetime to spend it doing things that act in direct detriment to the loved ones in our lives.

Therefore it is a good practice to put only the things we truly value and the things we are really passionate about 'on our plate'.

Find areas where you feel over-stressed and discover roles where you are not 100% comfortable or committed.

Take time to record your roles and responsibilities every day. Be thorough and don't leave anything out.

Resolve to become more confident and committed to the roles you decide to keep.

Eliminate whatever roles that you can, and delegate whatever roles that you cannot eliminate.

Delegate and eliminate all the areas in your life that do not bring a good return on your capital, time or energy.

In a case where you have been attached to doing things a particular way for a long time, you may not be able to escape this separation pain free.

Unfortunately, sometimes when you finally decide to take your medicine you may have to amputate your foot in order to save your leg.

The best way to avoid a terrible situation like this is to ask yourself right now "What should I stop doing?" and then immediately begin to cut it out of your life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more fun and freedom.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question to center yourself whenever you become aware of your self-talk.


THE TIPS

Did you have a conversation with yourself today?

The answer is yes because every body in the world talks to them self.

Day-in and day-out we humans exercise our unique ability to talk to our self.

This ability is unparalleled in the animal kingdom, meaning no other species on the planet uses self-talk.

However, the real question to ask is not whether you have talked to yourself, but when was the last time you encouraged yourself while talking?

How often did you encourage yourself last month? How often last week? How about today?

If you are like most people, you can probably use one hand to count how many times.

This is because most people don't encourage themselves on a regular basis.

Why this occurs is a mystery to science and psychology.

One thing is for certain, poor self-talk is certainly not the way that nature intended for us to use this gift.

For example, how would it appear if you walked up underneath a tree and caught it talking to itself the way humans do?

Imagine it saying "Oh no they're falling off again! I must be a bad tree, my own leaves don't even want to stay on me!"

This would be simply ridiculous wouldn't it?

The same thing would happen if any animal acted in this manner wouldn't it?

Yet day in and day-out we continue to have negative and pessimistic conversations with our selves.

It is absolutely incredible that we allow these crazy conversations with our self to continue.

The best way to change this terrible trend of self-talk is to become more aware of how you talk to yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" whenever you find yourself debating, or talking to yourself.

The more you ask this question, the more that you will become aware in future conversations.

The more you become aware of your conversation, the better you can consciously ensure that your self-talk is encouraging.


THE SECRET

In any moment any bodies life on this planet can end.

Nobody really knows when this moment could occur for them, only that it will occur.

The only person that will be around at that time for sure is you.

When this moment happens you will again have a conversation with yourself.

When you speak to yourself during these final moments will you be encouraging to yourself?

Will you be able to look back and reflect in peace with the feelings of joy, adventure and gratitude that you felt for your life?

Or will the dialogue be filled with guilt, anger and regret from having an unnecessarily miserable relationship with yourself?

The bad news is that sooner or later one or the other will inevitably happen.

The good news is that starting right now you have the choice to decide which one.

Every moment of self-talk is an opportunity to build a better relationship with yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" to check-in with yourself during the day.

Your goal is to become your own best friend and your own biggest fan.

Figure out ways that you can use self-talk to speak to yourself as if you were head-over-heels in love.

Your challenge is to do the following simple but powerful exercise.

Imagine that you are so in-love with yourself that you can only compliment and encourage yourself.

After you wake up tomorrow say to yourself "congratulations, I must be awesome enough to have another day to be me, what a joy!"

Then you walk to the bathroom, flick on the light and give yourself a mental high-five for hitting the switch your first try.

When you pick up the right toothbrush and turn on the tap say to yourself "another job well-done!"

After you pick out an outfit, how about saying "wow.. absolutely stunning, world watch out for me!"

Continue on throughout your day in this way, complimenting or encouraging yourself at every conceivable opportunity.

The more genuine and honest you are with yourself the more self-confidence and personal power you will gain.

Try it for one day and watch in amazement at the energy you have and the emotions you feel!

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more purpose and integrity.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Do my highest values still serve me?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many opportunities as possible and you will become more valuable, to both yourself and others.


THE TIPS

Tomorrow morning first thing before you get out of bed ask yourself the question: "Do my highest values still serve me?"

Take a few minutes to ponder the question and the answer before your feet touch the ground.

What you are trying to determine is whether or not the values that you hold most dearly support the lifestyle that you most want to live.

To determine whether or not your highest values serve you, you must first figure out what your highest values are.

In order to figure out what your highest values are, you must first determine how you personally define value.

For the purpose of this mindset a value is a system or set of consistent beliefs and measures.

Values are considered subjective, vary across people and cultures and are in many ways aligned with belief and belief systems.

Types of values include ethical/moral values, doctrinal/ideological (political, religious) values, social values, and aesthetic values.

We derive many of our personal values from situations with the external world and these are known to evolve over time.

What you do with your time, how you spend it and who you spend it are but reflections of your values and these values tend to change as we get older.

Ask yourself the question: "Do my highest values still serve me?" to start the process of taking a personal inventory on the values you have accumulated.

For example, if one of your highest values is to be organized, is this reflected in how you live your life? Does being organized serve your life.

If the value supports or serves your life, evidence of this beneficial relationship will be clearly visible.

In the above example, you should be easily able to recognize how the value of being organized has resulted in more peace of mind and less stress in your life.

Since you like feeling less stressed and having more confidence and peace of mind in your life, being organized is a value that serves that need.

Therefore, you would be able to state with confidence and conviction that organization is a value that effectively serves your life.

The point of the exercise is to uncover any unsupportive values that you have adopted over the years that no longer supports the lifestyle you want to live.

Ensure that any values that have been derived from particular groups or systems, such as culture, religion, and political party are still in line with your highest aspirations.

Asking yourself "Do my highest values still serve me?" is the first step to successfully evaluating your values.


THE SECRET

Most of our values and belief systems are determined between the ages of 7 to 11 years old.

As a result, personal values developed early in life may be more resistant to change.

Personal values are influenced by one's family, nation, generation and historical environment.

Personal values are subjective and not universal; always neutral, and are never inherently good or bad.

This is to say that to value peace is not more noble, effective or favorable than the value of making money.

It is our associations with making money and with peace that determine the good or bad feeling of our actions.

This is not to say that the value concepts themselves are not universal, merely that each individual possess a unique conception of them i.e. a personal knowledge of the appropriate values for their own genes, feelings and experience.

Another way to look at whether your values are contributing to the lifestyle that you truly want to live is to switch around the question.

Instead of asking whether or not your highest values still serve your lifestyle, ask yourself whether or not you still serve your highest values.

The question to sit down and honestly ask yourself is: "Do I still serve my highest values?"

"Do you still happily serve the values that best support your life?"

The best way to tell the truth and get an objective opinion is through your actions.

Do your actions indicated that you live in principle with your highest values?

A "principle" is often referred to as a primary source, a rule or code of conduct.

A principle value is a foundation upon which other values and measures of integrity are based.

Therefore to become a person of principle, is to become a person of their word, a person of integrity.

Do your past actions indicate that you live in integrity by the values that you have identified earlier?

Are you willing to act on a daily basis by the values that you hold highest?

In the organization example, are you living by the value of being organized? Is this value reflected in your daily actions?

In the example of being organized... Do you have a place for everything? Can you find everything in its place?

If evidence of these actions are not present, then perhaps you are not serving your values, in this case organization.

Do not become alarmed when you uncover values that no longer serve you or actions that no longer serve your values.

Celebrate the new found information for the gift that it is. The gift is awareness.

Awareness is the first step of change. In order to change one must first become aware of the need to.

When you discover that you are no longer living by your values then awareness become the first step in correcting it.

When you discover that your values are no longer serving your life you can then find new ones that do.

If you are not already acting on your values then the question "Do I still serve my highest values" will help you uncover the gaps and contradictions in your thinking.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live guilt and regret free.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question at every minor and major case you find yourself offended and you will be able to better respond to those situations in the future.


THE TIPS

The next time something or someone rubs you the wrong way, and before you give it too much of your energy and attention, stop and ask yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"

The universal answer to that question is... Never!

Ask yourself "How many times has being offended solved anything in my life?"

And the universal answer to that question is still... Never!

Yet being offended, passing judgement and criticizing situations is something that we all do, many of us on a daily basis.

Being offended does nothing to satisfy the situation, and it certainly doesn't benefit the person or thing that offended you.

It is good to detach yourself from these situations because many times the offender doesn't even know they committed the crime.

Asking "Will being offended solve my problem?" is the first step in effective problem solving.

Instead of focusing on the reasons to be offended, or justifying your revenge, take a look at what is really bothering you here.

Becoming and staying offended cannot help you, but challenging yourself to look at the reason why you were offended in the first place can help you tremendously.

Anytime you are "overly opinionated" about anything it is reason for you to explore deeper.

There is no shame, guilt or regret involved with getting to know what offends you.

In fact there is nothing wrong with being offended, the problem becomes when we don't know or don't care why.

To know why you are offended is a chance for you to get familiar with your values.

Everybody must strive to put our values and motives under the microscope of truth.

Why not? After all we expect to keep our Government and Elected Officials in-check.

Why shouldn't we take the same approach of scrutiny and standards to the main motivator behind our own behaviour?

Ignoring the reasons why you are offended will not shed any insight whatsoever into what to do about it, or how to get over it.

Whenever you feel emotion about something or someone it is more a reflection of yourself than of what you think caused the feelings.

You are responsible for self-governing your feelings and asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" will help you put your thoughts, feelings and behaviour into clearer perspective.


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" helps remind you that being offended is not at all productive.

If you want to be productive one of the first questions to ask yourself whenever you feel offended is "what does this situation say about me?"

What do the thoughts and feelings that you have towards this situation say about you?

Being offended in a situation only shows people the way in which you judge others.

Continuing to remind others of how and why you are offended can only bring you more of being offended.

This can be summed up by the saying "you get out what you put in". Putting in complaints doesn't grow roses.

If you had a banana and you continued to cut it up into pieces, no matter what at the end of the day you would still have a banana.

You would never cut up a banana and expect to have orange slices right?

Being able to see why you were offended and what that insight reveals about what you are made up of on this inside is priceless.

With humility and practice you will develop the ability to respond better and offer a more balanced perspective.

A well-balanced perspective comes from being able to ponder yourself in the equation, both as the problem and as the solution.

This detached state of being is called introspection, or reflection and is generally accomplished through meditation.

With gentle introspection you will see reflections of both the conscious and subconscious programs that operate your world.

Yet for some strange reason many people fear stillness and shy away from taking a serious look inward.

Maybe because unless you grew up with a Yogi next door we were not taught how to meditate or exposed to the value of it.

Whatever the reason, it is an illusion that we can some go through life and avoid getting to know our self.

It is in our best interest to get to know the person we are stuck with no matter what.

No matter where you go, there you are, so the faster you get to know all aspects of your self the better.

Keeping the above metaphor of a self-government in mind, wouldn't you like to know if your elected "body" was doing a good job?

If you wanted to keep things accountable you would definitely require studies and analysis.

Don't be afraid to study your self, your motives, your behaviours, your thoughts and your habits.

Be your own best friend, become tag team partners with your self and together you will wrestle the challenges of life.

The better your relationship with your self, the better results that you will get.

When you are not getting the results that you are looking for, or find yourself emotionally attached to something, ask yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" to move forward faster.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will pump up your problem-solving muscles.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What don't I already know about this?"

THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question whenever you come across a road block and you will solve your problems faster and more easily.


THE TIPS

Whenever the path before you appears blocked, or you come across a mental block, try asking yourself "What don't I already know about this?".

This will help you shift from seeing the problem in the same old ways and tap into the power of your creativity.

The next time you reach an apparent dead-end you must first realize that you have reached this block even though you know what you know.

Therefore, even though you know what you know, what you need to know is what you don't know already.

The best information in a solving a problem that has been plaguing you is by approaching it from a completely different angle.

Asking yourself the question "What don't I already know about this?" will help you uncover some strategic solutions.

Often we make the mistake of believing that we have all the information necessary to deal with a situation, or form an opinion, when we haven't taken the time to dig deeper.

When this happens we tend to make assumptions that eventually hinder our growth and keep us feeling frustrated.

An example is if you have struggled with something like weight management throughout your life.

What you already know about the situation is the gamut of diets, programs, exercises and training systems that you've gone through that don't work.

What you also likely already know is how many months and years you have been trying to lose those last pounds.

The problem with knowing what you already know is that by studying the things above, it won't move you closer to a solution.

Instead, chances are likely that studying what you know has probably lead you to ask yourself something along the lines of "What's wrong with me, how come I just can't get past this?"

You might be tempted to compare your result to others and wonder why "Tae Bo" or the "Atkin's Diet" worked for your best friend but not for you.

Instead of asking yourself a question based on a problem, your challenge is to shift gears by asking yourself a question based on a solution.

By asking yourself "What don't I already know about this?" you will find out new areas and angles to approach your weight management.

Repeatedly asking yourself this question will automatically enlist the help of your creativity in order to try and solve the problem.

You might discover that what you don't know already about your weight management is why you want to manage the weight to begin with.

You might uncover that what you don't know already is how your personality plays a role in your weight management.

You might find out that what you don't know already is why you have chosen to approach the problem in the way that you have.

The more that you ask yourself "What don't I already know about this?" the more easily that you will be able to come up with new empowering answers.


THE SECRET

To really turbo charge your results, when you sit down to ask yourself "What don't I already know about this?", write down your ideas on paper.

You might want to start with listing all the things that you already know about the problem you are trying to solve.

The more you can understand your problem and the better you are able to formulate the question, the better answers you will come up with.

It has been said that a problem well-stated is a problem half-solved.

The best way to solve a problem that has been challenging to you for a while is to make a "creative map", "concept map" or "mind map".

A concept/creative/mind map is a diagram used for linking words and ideas to a central key word or idea.

It is used to visualize, classify, structure, and generate ideas, as well as an aid in study, problem solving, and decision making.

A concept map is a great way to come up with ideas that you may not have otherwise thought of.

Use your creative map in conjunction with the question "What don't I already know about this?" for a very powerful problem-solving combination.

However, you can apply this question and creative-map technique to many other areas of your life, not just problem-solving.

Some areas that are great to apply this question to are your Judgements, Justifications and Tolerations.

When it comes to judging people, places or things, asking yourself that question that might prove helpful before making any false assumptions.

For example, you might be tempted to form an opinion about someone because of something that recently happened.

Before you cast judgement on another, put yourself in their shoe's and ask yourself "What don't I already know about them?" to better understand where they may be coming from.

When it comes to justifying thoughts, feelings and behaviours, asking "What don't I already know about why I do them?" might provide some critical insight.

When it comes to areas in your life that have been continually tolerated, such as a bad relationship, poor organization, work stress, etc, asking yourself "What don't I already know?" might help change your mind about why you are doing it and what you can do about it.

The key is to use the information that you discover to help you re-frame the situation in a more beneficial and positive light.

After you have discovered what you don't know, ask yourself "how can I use this new knowledge to get better results?".

If you are still drawing a blank or feel blocked then keep in mind that you can always ask a friend to be an objective mirror for you.

As long as you are open and willing you can stand on the shoulders of giants, mentors, coaches, heroes and sheroes to overcome your problems.

The more you practice asking yourself the hard questions in life, the more easy your life will become.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will make you feel love and gratitude.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What do I have to be grateful for?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many times as possible this week and you will be more grateful about your life's situation.


THE TIPS

The first step in counting your blessings is to write down all the things you have to be grateful for.

Before your start this exercise you may think that you don't have a lot in particular to be grateful for, if so you will definitely be surprised.

Start by finding a quiet room away from any distractions.

If you live in a busy place and cannot get complete silence then either wait to do this until you can, or just do the best you can.

You will also need a pen/pencil and note pad of paper, or a journal would be even better if you have one.

Next ask yourself out loud "What do I have to be grateful for?"

Think carefully, take your time and don't let yourself off the hook when it comes to answers.

One way of doing it is to brainstorm as many ideas that come up for you in a five or ten minute period.

Then you would take the ideas you generated and filter them into the type of gratitude expressed.

For example: People | Things | Other

People: Write down all the people that have made a difference in your life.

Things: Name at least 5-10 things that you enjoy doing on a daily basis.

Other: This could be an area where you keep track of miscellaneous things like "feeling grateful for being able to be a great dad"

Take five or ten minutes every day to jot down any new items on this list.

Be selective and choosy of what you put on your list, if you don't feel gratitude don't feel pressured to put up a convincing answer.

It is important to feel the feelings of what you enjoy, as if you were truly enjoying them in the present moment.

The above step is critically under-rated to the success of your ability to manifest using the Law of Attraction.

If you don't feel gratitude when you first do it, there is an extremely slim chance of manifesting more gratitude.

The reason for this is because like attracts like, thoughts become things, and what you focus on expands.

Therefore, if you feel grateful, think about being more grateful, you will inevitably attract more reasons to be grateful.

This is such a straight-up and simple-to-implement strategy for changing lives you probably are wondering why so many people don't it?

Because we seem to want to make things difficult for ourselves by default.

To make things go smoother in your world, start by concentrating on the things you feel grateful for.

Ask yourself the question "What do I have to be grateful for?" to brainstorm ideas.

Keep this list near by you and continue to add to it as you remember more things to be grateful for.

If you are feeling down and out and experiencing a bout of low energy, a great resource you to help "pick you up" is this list or journal.


THE SECRET

The secret to feeling truly grateful for a person, situation or thing is in the way that you express appreciation.

A great question to follow up with the first question is: "How do I express appreciation?"

In order to express appreciation you must first know what exactly you are thankful for, which means taking inventory of your blessings.

The good news is if you have done the work in the first exercise, you will have already written down a lot of blessings.

Now that you have a list of things that you feel grateful for, the next step is to ensure that whatever that is on that list feels appreciated.

Nothing feels better than feeling valued and appreciated, so consider it as the outcome when giving others feedback.

If you are really grateful for a loved-one or friend then consider when the last time you did something special for them to let them know.

We often don't show appreciation or express our true feelings until it's too late, make it a point to not let this happen this week!

You can also show you appreciation for material items, even though a lot of people might think different.

Contrary to popular beliefs it is ok to appreciate material wealth and material goods, in fact the more you appreciate them, the more you get back!

There is nothing wrong with appreciating material items, as long as you make sure that you show gratitude for them by taking care of them properly.

For example, you can not say that you appreciate being able to drive if you never change the oil or perform maintenance on your vehicle.

The currency for showing your true appreciation is your undivided attention.

Attention is energy and when focused is the most valuable and priceless gift that we can offer.

How would any one of your relationships feel if they could have an extra dose of a fully conscious and present you?

Try donating your complete and undivided attention to a loved one as a no-strings attached gift.

See if you can focus your attention for just twenty minutes. How about an hour? Can you make it a full day?

If you aren't sure what to focus on, you could start by showing appreciation of the common things we take for granted:

-Health

-Wealth

-Freedom

-Opportunity

-Relationships

When it comes to spending your attention there are two trains of thought:

A. You can spend your attention on the tried and true avenues of appreciation, the sure winners, perhaps if they like chocolates or flowers.

B. Another effective method to spend attention and show appreciation is simply by asking the recipient: "I'm here to help, please tell me how"

Notice in the last example it isn't "asking" whether or not you can help, that is too often rejected, but rather you are going to help!

Last but not least is it important to show appreciation to the person that we all have in common.

That is, of course, always no matter what above and beyond all instances, remember to respect and appreciate yourself.

When you put yourself into a state of gratitude your frequency changes, which changes your thoughts.

Change your thoughts, change your feelings, change your actions, change your life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help frame the ongoing information in your life into a context from which you can be successful.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How does this information relate to my life?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and it will help you get clear on what matters, what affects you and what you should do about it.


THE TIPS

Information happens.

Humans are constantly bombarded by information whether we like it or not.

We get our information from the sources that are closest to us, such as friends and family members, acquaintances and loved ones.

On top of the information that we choose to listen to, we are also exposed to messages from various media such as news, radio, television and the Internet.

But just because information happens, doesn't make all information beneficial or essential.

Your duty in life is to learn how to disregard all non-essential numbers such as age, weight and height while keeping the important information in front of you.

The next time you are in front of a statistic or a story ask yourself "How does this information relate to my life?"

The next time you hear a far-fetched story don't discount it as simply nonsense, investigate it first.

A good way to determine whether it's fact or fiction is to first trust the source and then verify the facts by asking:

"How does this information relate to my life?"

This is a great habit to get into because it helps filter the ever-increasing amount of new information that continually comes into our lives.

When it comes to information there is neither good or bad information, only information that is beneficial and not beneficial, essential and non-essential.

The helpful information comes in the form of the new scientific discoveries, brilliant ideas, technological innovations and medical breakthroughs.

The unhelpful information comes in many forms such as negative gossip, pessimistic prejudice, biased rumours and unrealistic expectations.

The problem that the majority of us have is sifting out the gold nuggets of truth without experiencing information overload.

For example, you meet an old friend who happens to be a seller for the "latest and greatest" energy health drink.

If you are like the majority of people you would have already turned, said good-bye to your friend and ran the opposite way.

However, although you may run like Forrest Gump to avoid being caught in these situations does your avoidance answer this one question...

What if that person really did have the previously undiscovered cure for your ailments? Don't you owe it too yourself to find out?

But how do you avoid being "sold", and ending up with useless stuff that you'll never need?

Asking yourself "How does this relate to my life?" will help you sort through the clutter of meaningless and find the meaningful.

Make it a point to only accept complete information that will make you decisively richer, wiser or smarter.

Find and filter information that will allow you to work less and get more done so you can spend more time with loved ones.

Your purpose, as the conscious being responsible for your life, is to seek out and pass along only the best information that will inspire, educate and entertain.

Asking yourself "How does this information relate to my life?" is a great way to determine if the information is helpful or not.


THE SECRET

Start asking yourself "How does this relate to my life?" and you will begin to better recognize whether or not the information could be beneficial.

Asking the following three questions whenever something new comes to your attention will immediately help you establish relevance:

1. What is it?

2. How does it affect me?

3. What should I do about it?

If for instance you hear about a great new cell phone, your next question should relate to how it affects you.

i.e. clearer reception, longer battery life, qwerty keyboard... How if at all does each one affect you?

Lastly, the question you need to ask is "What should I do about it?" in order to find your next action step.

Perhaps there is a sale coming up that you want to make note of, or maybe you need to wait a few months til your existing plan ends.

The goal is to drive your information from fuzzy and vague to definite and decisive knowledge that you can take action on.

Let's take a look at the whole process using the energy drink example mentioned earlier.

The first question to ask yourself is "How does this relate to my life?"

Suppose you are looking to lose that "last 10 pounds" and since you are open to new ideas you have decided to listen and obtain more information.

In order to keep the information relevant to your needs and avoid buying something that you don't need, ask yourself the 3 follow-up questions.

These questions will help to further establish whether it is relevant and allow you to be better informed to make a decision.

1. What is it? - Your friend might answer that it is the top of the line, best of the best, ProductXYZ patented with Substance123.

Since this really doesn't give you the type of information you need to make an educated decision, continue on with question #2.

2. How does it affect me? - Your friend says that ProductXYZ is specifically for people like you, and offers a testimonial of someone similar.

Now you have more evidence that this might work for you, but still, you aren't sure what kind of commitment you might have to make, so continue on to question #3.

3. What should I do about it? - Your friend explains that you can buy a trial bottle and they'll call you in a week, if you happen to like it you can buy more then.

Now you are more informed than if you would have walked away in the beginning, and more educated than had you bought without asking these questions.

Other potentially helpful questions that you could ask in a situation like this are:

"What are the alternatives to ProductXYZ?"

"So this Substance123 that makes ProductXYZ so great, what makes Substance123 so different from the competitors?

"What happens if I don't do anything about it?"

Always remember, the details behind a persons answers are less important than the inherently feeling you will get.

Does this new information that the person is offering make you better informed?

Does it feel like it is truthful, does it feel like this is right for you?

Call it your gut instinct or intuition, but if you trust yourself to "feel" the truth, then the truth will speak for itself.

Again, one of the primary questions to ask yourself when seeking the truth is "How does this information relate to my life?"

The better that the questions are that you learn to ask translates into the better answers that you will receive in return.

The better answers that you obtain means the more informed your decision will be.

The more information behind your decision also equates to the more comfortable you will be making them.

The more comfortable you are with dealing with new information the better you will be able to make use of it.

The better informed decisions that you make the more you will also learn tips, tools and techniques that can help others.

The more you help others reach their goals and dreams the faster that you will reach yours.

When you find good information that can make a difference, acknowledge your blessings and cherish it for all it's worth.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will inspire you to surround yourself with the kind of company you can be confident about keeping around.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Who should I be hanging around with?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question when allocating your time to friends and acquaintances and you will soon become more aware of the company you keep.


THE TIPS

The people who you choose to surround yourself with play more of a role on your future than you may first realize.

Ask yourself the question "Who should I be hanging around with?" to take an inventory check on your intimate friends.

This question should gear your thoughts towards "why" you hang out with the people you do versus "who" the people actually are.

For example, do you have friends that are there for you through thick and thin, both good times and rough times?

Do you have friends that inspire you to chase your dreams and go after your goosebumps?

Do your friends help you realize a bigger vision of yourself?

How have your friends made you feel competent and capable lately?

Even though we all have the ability to think and feel independently on our own accord, the people that you surround yourself with still play a major determining part in your life.

From the moment that you wake up and continue on throughout the day you are surrounded by the energy of family, friends and even co-workers.

The energy that you feel from other people stems from the individual "agreements" that have made in each relationship.

Most of your agreements are formed and acted upon subconsciously, which is to say that you are not even aware that you formed them or of your behaviour.

One example is the many parents that unconsciously play an "overly-nurturing" role to their child.

They have formed an agreement that subconsciously states that they are the nurture providers and the child is the nurture receiver.

Nurture can be a good thing, however, when the parents form an "identity" about the role they play over the years this will lead to two things:

1. It will make the parent always feel the need to protect or provide for their child and they might lose some of their sanity when the child leaves home or no longer needs their help . i.e. Empty nest syndrome.

2. It will make the child subconsciously feel the need to be protected and/or provided for by their parents and very possibly manifest into issues of responsibility in their own intimate relationships.

So even though the intention was pure and formed with love the relationship agreement has since become dysfunctional.

Roles and agreements themselves are not inherently good or bad, the problem is continuing to believe and subscribe to them without questioning their effectiveness.

A dysfunctional agreement, role or relationship is one that no longer serves or supports its main purpose.

In a functional relationship both the conscious and subconscious agreements should be in alignment with helping fulfill your greatest dreams and desires.

Do the roles and responsibilities of the people that you hang around most support your highest aspirations? Do you support theirs?

What do you love most about the company that you keep?

By asking yourself "Who should I be hanging around with" based on your highest aspirations will make you more aware of allies you can align yourself with to assist in your achievements.


THE SECRET

Do you plan or aspire to be wealthy? If you answered yes then you better have wealthy friends!

Did you know that researchers estimate that you will earn an income the equals the average amount of your 5 closest associates?

Said differently, people tend to make the same average income of the people that they spend the most time with.

Are the people that you surround yourself with people that are worthy of your time?

The trick is to do anything at all possible to avoid people that belong to the "same-old'" crowd.

These are the people who you meet up with every so often and each and every time you ask them what's new and exciting they answer "the same-old".

You must avoid these people like the plague, not because you are better than them, but because they don't really want to see you happy.

It is not that they don't want to see you succeed because they might, but subconsciously to them if you are anything else then what you are now then it means a change to the relationship agreement that they have with you.

If you change the person that they knew and were used to then your relationship agreement would be different, and for most people change is scary because of fear of the unknown.

Don't let other peoples self-limiting beliefs, doubts and apprehensions determine your future, make it a point to surround yourself with the best team possible.

Either your friends are pulling you up to their level or they are dragging you down to theirs.

Do your 5 closest friends inspire you, make you laugh, or offer an insistent hand to help achieve your dreams?

Said differently, do the people you choose to surround yourself with help you move towards the "biggest" you possible?

Is that so hard to ask for and too unreasonable to expect?

Are you blessed with friends that are there for you every time, every day without question and without fail?

If you already have friends like this make it a point to go out now and celebrate the value of their friendship because it is priceless.

If you don't yet have friends like that no worries, make it a point to find at least one person to build a brand new amazing and supportive relationship with before the years done.

The good news is that the value of one positive and supportive relationship greatly outweighs the effect of several negative and non-supportive relationships.

There are many ways that you can meet like-minded people and farm for those fabulous new friendships.

One way is by joining a local offline group such as found on www.meetup.com where you can find people near you with the same interests and hobbies.

Another way to connect with people is by joining an online group, such as found using an Internet search on "yahoo" or "google" groups.

Alternatively, you could find someone that you admire or that is doing something that you'd like to learn more about and reach out to connect with them.

Ask if you can help them, assist them, volunteer your services in return for them to mentor you.

One last idea for finding that supportive relationship to nurture your dream is to find and work with a Life Coach.

A coach can help you get in touch with your values and what is really important to you before you spend the time and energy to attract new friends.

Like energy attracts like energy, so if you are a miserable person chances are your friends are too because who else would want to put up with you?

With a simple shift in attitude you can begin to attract amazing new abundant friends and acquaintances into your life.

It is your responsibility to "be" the type of friend that you yourself would love to be friends with and be around.

In some relationships you might be the jester or joker, always playing pranks and keeping people laughing and having fun.

In other relationships you might take on the role of being the brain, the analytical thinker that always has thought provoking questions.

Yet in another relationship you might play the role of cheerleader, encouraging and motivating others to do their best.

These are only some of the various examples of roles that you play in your relationships, there are many others so try and discover the ones that work best in your relationships.

Ask yourself the question "Who should I be hanging around with?" to uncover gaps in your circle of friends and to find missing pieces of the puzzle.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will put a new spin on the way you think long-term about your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question during as many decisions as possible this week and you will begin to see life from more of a long-term perspective.


THE TIPS

A great question to ask the next time you are faced with a decision that you must weigh the consequences is "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?"

The point of this question is to get you to consider both the short and long-term implications of your decision.

Many times we hastily make rash decisions without considering the effects until after it's too late, or sometimes not considering them at all.

For example, if you were offered a choice between having $1,000 cash in your pocket this very moment or waiting a full year and receiving $1,500, the majority of people would go with the quick money.

What would you choose?

90% of people would choose the smaller amount even though they would get 50% more if they waited and even when they had to do nothing in addition to claim the larger amount.

How does this play out when it comes to saving and investing your money?

The person who picks the $1,000 is more likely to have less savings and investments than the person who chooses to wait for the $1,500.

While there is nothing inherently wrong with choosing the smaller amount to enjoy sooner, the long-term implications of choosing this, means that over time you will find it more and more difficult to choose the larger amount later.

We are constantly building neural networks in the brain, hard-wiring the brain with choices and decisions into associations and identities.

An identity is simply a pattern of thought that you have bought over a period of time.

By continually focusing on a smaller result you may receive the reward sooner but in reality you are strengthening a long-term identity that will hold you hostage and keep you playing small.

This is because when left to it's own choice, the mind has the tendency to want to do the minimal to get by, to avoid rocking the boat and to stay in your comfort zone.

What this translates into is the automatic sacrifice of long-term rewards for a short-term gains.

An example that illustrates this is picturing a hockey game where one team is 100% motivated by defense and no one ever attempts to score on the other team.

While this strategy (if you want to call it one) would lead to short term results, i.e. feeling good that the other team would have a very tough time scoring, the long-term implications are that they would never win a game because they are ignoring the bigger picture and not doing what it takes to win.

How often are you faced with situations that play out like this hockey game?

How often do you continue to allow yourself to play defense only, to not take risks and try and score a goal?

For example, if you are currently single it may seem easier not to talk to that handsome man you run into at the supermarket every week.

It may seem easier not to expose yourself to the possibility of being rejected or having to participate in an awkward conversation.

However, ask yourself "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" to help you break-free of the tendency to remain in your comfort zone.

Perhaps answering the question in this example you might come up with answers such as: "I am giving up the chance to find a significant other" or "I am giving up the potential of meeting my future husband, the father of my kids, or passing by the companion I've been searching for all my life".

When you come up with answers adopted from a long-term perspective it helps reframe the current situation and make new decisions.

Taking time to consider new answers and information is important if you are looking to break-free from an old habit.

In life you have a choice, either attempt to acquire something smaller sooner or wait to develop something that is larger later.

Apply this weeks motivating mindset to areas such as relationships, finances and weight loss and you will be surprised at what type of long-term results you can achieve.


THE SECRET

If you aren't growing in an area of your life then by the contrary you must be dying.

Who would you like to grow yourself into? What areas of your life are important to you? Where are your values placed?

If you aren't sure who, what or where a good starting place is to examine your current history, results and actions.

How do you spend your time right now? Where have you been placing your energy, attention and focus?

Answer this question openly and honestly and you will shed some light on what is most important to you right now.

After you're aware of your life values your next goal is to ensure you devote the proper time and attention to supports these areas.

Developing patience with yourself and with the people that you care about is just as important as experiencing the actual growth itself.

Continually asking yourself the question "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" helps you realize the validity behind the saying "patience is a virtue"

Beware that time is an ongoing illusion that is capable of hiding the small steps we take and the incremental growth we make.

It is easy to make the mistake of believing that you haven't accomplished anything.

It is easy for the results of your efforts to be obscured by the present reality.

Understand that your present reality is merely a reflection of the choices you made previously in your past years, months and days.

In order for your new decisions to take affect and to see external results, you must patiently wait for days, months and even possibly years.

Keep in mind that just because you cannot see the change happening doesn't mean it isn't.

For instance, have you ever seen first-hand the drift between the continental plates?

What about ever witnessing your fingernails growing?

You probably didn't notice either because they both happen at an average growth rate of 0.1 mm each day (1 centimeter in 100 days).

Yet these forces continue to happen undetected as we speak and one day, sooner or later, you may be forced to respond to this growth.

You will probably choose to cut your fingernails when they get too long or there may be an earth quake or tsunami from the plate tectonics colliding.

Seen or unseen everyday life is unfolding before your very eyes.

The direction that your life unfolds takes place in the small and seemingly unimportant choices that you make every day.

Take a moment to write down the skills, talents and higher visions that are unfolding inside of you right now.

You may have heard the say that "Rome wasn't built in a day" well neither should the gifts that you offer the world.

Buying into rewards that are smaller sooner is only an illusion and is not a shortcut that leads to long-term success.

Ask yourself "What am I giving up by seeing only the short term?" to help you realize your long-term vision.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you appreciate yourself more, attract healthier relationships and be an overall better person.


THE CHALLENGE

Your mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself: "Would you date yourself?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will gain a more accurate reflection of yourself and a better understanding of your fears.

Next time that you have a few minutes alone to think ask yourself "Would I date myself?"

You might be wondering the relevance of this question if you already have a significant other but, regardless of relationship status, a careful consideration of this question can provide insight into what you contribute to your relationships.

If you answered "Yes" that you would date yourself, then the next question is why? What kind of reasons came to mind that make yourself a worthy prize?

When taking a personal inventory the answers you learn might even surprise you!

Could you fall in love with yourself? What traits of yours are you most proud? Are you a constant source of support? What about your communication skills? Are you always finding good things to comment about your significant other?

Do you find yourself thinking "I wish my partner..." or "If only my significant other...."? If so, these might be the best signs that you need to look in the mirror first.

"What would you change/improve if you were dating yourself?" "What specifically do you love about yourself?" If you aren't excited about dating yourself then how do you expect anybody else to be?

It is important to note that your partner or significant other must also agree with your self-assessment. If you think you are the worlds best communicator and your partner thinks otherwise, then any adjustments made would be based on a false assessment and thus likely prove counter-productive.

A relationship should for the most part be 50/50 in terms of contribution. What strengths do you contribute? Do they equal your share of the 50%? How do the strengths that you identified help make the relationship strong in your partners opinion?

Use what you've learned from this exercise to build on your strengths and identify any areas where you might have the opportunity to provide more value in your relationships.


THE SECRET

Looking at yourself through an open and honest mirror requires courage and willingness to see yourself objectively in a new way.

It is the mark of a true leader to be able to acknowledge their shortcomings and build upon the strengths that they recognized for.

If for some reason you cannot uncover any areas of improvement for yourself then look at the areas of resistance, friction and conflict in your relationships.

In what situations do you feel most uncomfortable? Pay attention to your discomfort because there is always a hidden gift within.

Your discomfort often shows you the areas in your life that you should review and revise any belief systems that no longer continue to serve you.

"What do you need to improve within yourself so that you become a more effective attractor of your desired results?"

Put yourself in the other persons shoes, see things from their perspective and appreciate the gift of awareness as an opportunity to be the change you want to see in the world.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more fun, appreciation and a better overall attitude.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What three people have contributed most to my success?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will uncover important life lessons, discover new opportunities and attract exciting people into your life.


THE TIPS

Before you begin your day today ask "What three people have contributed most to my success?"

The follow up questions could be "What specifically did they teach me?" and "How as their teaching benefited my life?"

Think back to your teachers, your parents and your family. What about the people you have worked with, the new friends you've met, old friends you've reconnected with? How about a spouse or a loved one? A work mentor, manager or colleague?

A good test to determine whether the person you are thinking of is in your top three, ask yourself "Where would I be today if I did not learn ______ from this person?"

If you would still be essentially the same person, then perhaps search for someone who possibly has made a more meaningful or significant contribution to your life.

If you would not be where you are today or who you are today as a direct result of dealing with this person then there's a good chance that they rank in your top three.

Try and come up with at least three people, even if this exercise takes a couple days to really think through. You may however have many more than three top teachers, in fact, this is going to be more likely as you get more and more successful.

People who are a success become successful by walking on the shoulders of giants. What that means is that successful people, before becoming a success realize the importance of standing on the shoulders of the people that they respect and admire.

In fact, here is a brief list of famous mentor - mentee relationships that you might recognize:

Huey Lewis mentor to Bruce Hornsby
Don Henley mentor to Sheryl Crow
Mel Gibson mentor to late Heath Ledger
Maya Angelou mentor to Oprah Winfrey
Stevie Wonder mentor to India.Arie
Earl Nightingale mentor to Bob Proctor
Socrates mentor to Plato
Mark O'Meara and Butch Harmon mentors to Tiger Woods

Did a couple of those names you just read surprise you? Yes, mentoring has been around since before Socrates and Plato and some of the most successful people in the world have mentors.

Why does the greatest golf player in the history of the sport require mentors and coaches?

The world's most successful people have long realized that the more people that they learn from the better and faster that they will grow. It is impossible to make all the mistakes you need to learn all in your own lifetime so leverage the lessons of others to skyrocket your success.


THE SECRET

There is no "right" or "wrong" answer because the person and premise is completely decided upon by you. If you don't feel someone is worthy of mention, then simply don't mention them.

The truth is that we ALL have something to learn from one another. Every person that comes into your life, whether yesterday, today or tomorrow has something to teach you.

Try and get in the habit of finding a "Sensei of the Day". Sensei is a Japanese word meaning teacher, so Sensei of the day is simply a Teacher of the Day.

Every relationship that we hold with our self reflects an agreement about the nature of the relationship that we have made with ourselves.

Learn from the people that are in your life whether you perceive them to be a positive or negative influence.

If you feel that they are a positive influence try to identify one or two areas that they do well in and implement a similar strategy into your life. Don't be afraid to approach someone that you admire and ask them for some quick words of advice. All successful people had help along the way, the more you ask for it the more you can receive.

If you feel that they are a negative influence try to identify one or two reasons why you think they are behaving or acting out in this manner and gain understanding as to what specifically bothers you about their actions. This is a contrast to what you do like, but sometimes we need to know what we don't like in order to help determine what we do. The next time you find someone demonstrating a behaviour you don't like, silently thank them for the gift of awareness of contrast and endeavour never to act like them.

When you become thankful for the people that are in your life you naturally start to attract more of them to be thankful for. Appreciate the lessons of life and the teachers they come from and you will be ripe and ready for relationship riches!

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will get more serious about having fun in the game of life.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What would you trade for $50,000?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question after every activity or challenge you do every day this week and the promise is that you will be well on the way to discovering your purpose and living your passion.


THE TIPS

When you wake up tomorrow, ask yourself the $50,000 dollar question: "What would I trade for $50,000?" and see what kind of answers your mind comes up with.

First off your mind will typically try to determine the value of the offer in question... In this case how much is $50,000 worth to you?

Your mind may or may not think that $50,000 is a lot of money depending on your background and how much money you earn a year.

For example, if you earned a million dollars a year then $50,000 may seem like a little less money than to a person who earned $20,000 a year.

However, when determining what to trade for the $50,000 your mind will come up with logical answers, such as you are willing to trade any monetary amount under $49,900.

Why not trade $49,900 for $50,000 if you can make a profit off $100 right?

In fact it makes dollars and sense to trade money for money as long as you make money right?

But what about when it comes to trading $50,000 in exchange for non-monetary items?

What personal belongings of yours would you trade for $50,000?

Would you trade your eye-sight in for $50,000? What about an arm or a leg?

How about just a thumb or your big toe?

If you are like most people you probably realize that it doesn't make much sense to trade ANYTHING of yours for $50,000, especially a body part that you use often.

If you wouldn't trade $50,000 for any body part of yours then ask yourself this question...

"What would you trade for your life?"

You may agree that what your life is worth cannot be replaced in monetary terms, in fact there is no amount of money that can replace the value of your life because it is priceless.

So why have you been asking yourself this seemingly straightforward question?

Because what you have done with your yesterdays and what you plan to do tomorrow is exactly what you have been trading your life for.

Since you began your first job, entered your first relationship and accepted your first agreement you have been trading your time in for the wages and emotional returns that you have received.

Have you been trading your life in for $50,000 per year? $500,000 per year? How about a few million dollars every year?

It isn't your yearly revenue that is important but the reflection of happiness, joy, excitement and wonder that the way you spend your time brings back to you.

It is senseless to trade the priceless emotions of your life for any amount of money which is why it is so important to align your heart with your mind and follow your passion's in life.


THE SECRET

To gain more instant insight into your attitudes, behaviours and habits ask yourself...

"What am I trading for life right now?"

Look at your results, your lifestyle, your behaviour, your relationships, your finances, your investments and your risks.

Be honest with yourself... is this how you pictured life could be? Are you excited to trade your time in today for exactly what you are doing with it?

If you had one day to live, would you continue to do what you were going to do today? Would you continue to do the same thing you plan to do this week, this month or this year?

When you realize what you have been trading for your life next ask yourself, "is it worth it?"

If it is worth it keep doing what you are doing and know you can now act with added confidence that you are doing what you enjoy and love.

If it is not worth it, stop and ask yourself, "what would I rather be doing with my life?" and then immediately resolve to work towards making that the guiding force in your life.

Do what you love and love what you do and stop treating time like its worth what you paid for it.

We may not get to choose how long we get to stay as tourists on this shiny blue planet but we have every say as to how we choose to enjoy our visit.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

By taking the application of today's Motivating Mindset you will live a life that is more purposeful.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting yourself in the habit of asking yourself the following question:

"How many days left?" or asked differently... "Could today be my last?"


THE PROMISE

Do this every day for this week and the promise is that you will make giant strides towards living with less regret and more purposefully!


THE TIPS

Today's question refers to the number of days you have remaining in your life.

Do you know how many days left on this Earth you have left?

Unfortunately while no calculator or person can ever give you the exact answer, the answer could come today, a week from today, or many many years from today.

Regardless of whether you accept it or not, the fact is that we all must return to sender one day.

The sooner that you accept and deal with the fragility of life the sooner you will be on your way to improving your life.

It may seem like a grim outlook to start your Monday but don't be mistaken, only those who have understood and accept this fully can take control and power back into their lives.

In fact, understanding and accepting this question allows you to immediately create more purpose and passion in your life.

The more you fully accept that your time here is finite the more that you will strive to live your life to the maximum.

You live to the maximum when you pursue your hearts desires.

You live with heartbreak when you don't fully live your life.


THE SECRET

Try asking yourself this question at the beginning and end of the day.

Keep asking this question when you find yourself in conflict with other people.

Are you communicating with others the way you would spend your time and energy if you knew it was your last day?

How can you treat people you come across today as if this was the last time you were ever going to spend time with them?

How would you like your friends, family and loved to remember their last moments with you?

You have the ability to treat each day as if it were your last. What is stopping you from doing this?

Who is your best friend?

Who is your best friend?

What kind of relationship do you and your best friend have together?

Feeling stuck in your current relationship but want to work it out? Perhaps you just want to take your relationship to the next level? Living by the following 3 keys, will help you fully enjoy the benefits of having a best friend.

1. Pay attention to what you say to your best friend

2. Pay attention to what your best friend is saying

3. Give your best friend unconditional love

Here's the twist...

All successful people have the SAME best friend!

You know it now right? YOU!

If you didn't answer yourself that is ok, we are sure you meant to anyway.

Well now that the secrets out of the bag, does it change any of your answers?

Re-read the top 3 keys and put 'yourself' as the best friend in question.

Love ya! You're the best!