Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you lift burdens, clear clutter and feel lighter.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Am I tolerating this situation by default?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every chance you can and you will pave the way for massive changes in your lifestyle.


THE TIPS

Take a quick moment and ask yourself right now, "What am I tolerating?"

This is the same question that was posed as a Monday Motivating Mindset many months ago.

Just in case you have forgotten or aren't sure what a toleration is, the definition we are using is:

A toleration is any person, situation, or action that you put up with that you really don't need to.

A toleration is an undesired consequence, an unfinished agreement or simply a situation that needs re-framing.

This weeks mindset is a derivative of that question, "Am I tolerating this situation by default?"

People get caught up in the illusion believing that they have little or no choice to way they've been doing it.

The problem for most people is that they convince themselves that they need their tolerations to begin with.

The next time you find yourself facing a continual roadblock or swimming against the current ask yourself:

"Am I tolerating this situation by default?"

The feeling that you are swimming against the current is a sure sign of a toleration.

Life is meant to be sailed downstream and tapped into the flow of abundance.

If you don't feel tapped in then it is because you are blocking the flow of it.

So how do you get out of your own way when you are blocking yourself from joy, love and happiness?

You do it by first realizing that the blockage is due to a toleration that is based on an assumption.

What belief system, attitude or approach can you let go of in order to go more with the flow?

Tolerations zap our energy whether we consciously realize it or not.

Tolerations are unresolved demands on your attention, energy and focus.

They can be as simple as tolerating a squeak in the door or neglecting to repair a leaky faucet tap.

Tolerations can also include our relationships with other people, the standards we uphold and the work we do for a living.

Over time people tend to settle in their comfort zones, challenge their beliefs less and gain more tolerations.

The next time you find yourself stuck in a situation you don't enjoy ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?"


THE SECRET

Often the only reason a situation is allowed to endure is the assumption that answer is difficult or even impossible.

For example, a friend recently confided that she finally finished tolerating her old shower head and finally put on a new one.

Before fixing it the shower head would often unscrew and water would launch into the air everywhere.

Even though her and her roommate had already purchased the replacement shower head, in other words already possessed the solution to the problem, it was just not implemented.

When queried why she didn't change it sooner she admitted her assumption that changing over the shower heads would be a long and hard job.

Apparently the shower fixings looked like they were stripped or at least appeared very difficult to take off.

Fearing that there would be problems when removing the old shower head she settled everyday for an annoying shower experience.

However, one particular day the inevitable happened again while taking a shower and the head came off and the hose sprayed everywhere.

Tolerations can only last so long and in this case it was the proverbial straw that broke the toleration.

Finally, after having enough of the daily morning mayhem she grabbed the old fixing with her bare hands and started to unscrew it.

To her complete surprise the fixing came undone easily and without any hassle.

Then she was able to replace the brand new shower head and was showering new and improved again in mere moments!

Most importantly this whole process occurred without all the anticipated fuss and work that she previously worried about.

After enjoying the next couple days in the shower she realized that not only did she avoid the negative feelings associated with a leaky shower head, but she actually felt an increase in her happiness.

Was it because she no longer had to silently account for all the emotional energy that came with the old shower?

Or maybe it was because she could enjoy her morning showers with relaxation and the added benefits of the newer style nozzle.

One thing is for sure is that the next question that she wondered out loud was "why did I put up with this for this long in the first place?"

People often put up with unfinished and unresolved actions that could be addressed with just a little time, effort and attention.

We often walk with a limp because we are taught or convinced to, but when we learn to stand tall and take everything in stride we find out we are even more capable then we first thought.

Ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?" to find out where you can gain some precious energy back.

At the very least what will happen when you brainstorm an answer is that you'll start to attract new information and experiences that will lead you to a higher perspective.

This is important because the higher your perspective in life the less that you will tolerate in your life.

The truth is the only limits that exist are the ones that we hold ourselves down with.

Ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?" in order to stretch your perspective to the sky and never settle for less.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help frame the ongoing information in your life into a context from which you can be successful.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How does this information relate to my life?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and it will help you get clear on what matters, what affects you and what you should do about it.


THE TIPS

Information happens.

Humans are constantly bombarded by information whether we like it or not.

We get our information from the sources that are closest to us, such as friends and family members, acquaintances and loved ones.

On top of the information that we choose to listen to, we are also exposed to messages from various media such as news, radio, television and the Internet.

But just because information happens, doesn't make all information beneficial or essential.

Your duty in life is to learn how to disregard all non-essential numbers such as age, weight and height while keeping the important information in front of you.

The next time you are in front of a statistic or a story ask yourself "How does this information relate to my life?"

The next time you hear a far-fetched story don't discount it as simply nonsense, investigate it first.

A good way to determine whether it's fact or fiction is to first trust the source and then verify the facts by asking:

"How does this information relate to my life?"

This is a great habit to get into because it helps filter the ever-increasing amount of new information that continually comes into our lives.

When it comes to information there is neither good or bad information, only information that is beneficial and not beneficial, essential and non-essential.

The helpful information comes in the form of the new scientific discoveries, brilliant ideas, technological innovations and medical breakthroughs.

The unhelpful information comes in many forms such as negative gossip, pessimistic prejudice, biased rumours and unrealistic expectations.

The problem that the majority of us have is sifting out the gold nuggets of truth without experiencing information overload.

For example, you meet an old friend who happens to be a seller for the "latest and greatest" energy health drink.

If you are like the majority of people you would have already turned, said good-bye to your friend and ran the opposite way.

However, although you may run like Forrest Gump to avoid being caught in these situations does your avoidance answer this one question...

What if that person really did have the previously undiscovered cure for your ailments? Don't you owe it too yourself to find out?

But how do you avoid being "sold", and ending up with useless stuff that you'll never need?

Asking yourself "How does this relate to my life?" will help you sort through the clutter of meaningless and find the meaningful.

Make it a point to only accept complete information that will make you decisively richer, wiser or smarter.

Find and filter information that will allow you to work less and get more done so you can spend more time with loved ones.

Your purpose, as the conscious being responsible for your life, is to seek out and pass along only the best information that will inspire, educate and entertain.

Asking yourself "How does this information relate to my life?" is a great way to determine if the information is helpful or not.


THE SECRET

Start asking yourself "How does this relate to my life?" and you will begin to better recognize whether or not the information could be beneficial.

Asking the following three questions whenever something new comes to your attention will immediately help you establish relevance:

1. What is it?

2. How does it affect me?

3. What should I do about it?

If for instance you hear about a great new cell phone, your next question should relate to how it affects you.

i.e. clearer reception, longer battery life, qwerty keyboard... How if at all does each one affect you?

Lastly, the question you need to ask is "What should I do about it?" in order to find your next action step.

Perhaps there is a sale coming up that you want to make note of, or maybe you need to wait a few months til your existing plan ends.

The goal is to drive your information from fuzzy and vague to definite and decisive knowledge that you can take action on.

Let's take a look at the whole process using the energy drink example mentioned earlier.

The first question to ask yourself is "How does this relate to my life?"

Suppose you are looking to lose that "last 10 pounds" and since you are open to new ideas you have decided to listen and obtain more information.

In order to keep the information relevant to your needs and avoid buying something that you don't need, ask yourself the 3 follow-up questions.

These questions will help to further establish whether it is relevant and allow you to be better informed to make a decision.

1. What is it? - Your friend might answer that it is the top of the line, best of the best, ProductXYZ patented with Substance123.

Since this really doesn't give you the type of information you need to make an educated decision, continue on with question #2.

2. How does it affect me? - Your friend says that ProductXYZ is specifically for people like you, and offers a testimonial of someone similar.

Now you have more evidence that this might work for you, but still, you aren't sure what kind of commitment you might have to make, so continue on to question #3.

3. What should I do about it? - Your friend explains that you can buy a trial bottle and they'll call you in a week, if you happen to like it you can buy more then.

Now you are more informed than if you would have walked away in the beginning, and more educated than had you bought without asking these questions.

Other potentially helpful questions that you could ask in a situation like this are:

"What are the alternatives to ProductXYZ?"

"So this Substance123 that makes ProductXYZ so great, what makes Substance123 so different from the competitors?

"What happens if I don't do anything about it?"

Always remember, the details behind a persons answers are less important than the inherently feeling you will get.

Does this new information that the person is offering make you better informed?

Does it feel like it is truthful, does it feel like this is right for you?

Call it your gut instinct or intuition, but if you trust yourself to "feel" the truth, then the truth will speak for itself.

Again, one of the primary questions to ask yourself when seeking the truth is "How does this information relate to my life?"

The better that the questions are that you learn to ask translates into the better answers that you will receive in return.

The better answers that you obtain means the more informed your decision will be.

The more information behind your decision also equates to the more comfortable you will be making them.

The more comfortable you are with dealing with new information the better you will be able to make use of it.

The better informed decisions that you make the more you will also learn tips, tools and techniques that can help others.

The more you help others reach their goals and dreams the faster that you will reach yours.

When you find good information that can make a difference, acknowledge your blessings and cherish it for all it's worth.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will add energy and happiness to your life as quickly as you can apply it.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What am I tolerating?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question throughout the days of this week and the promise is that you will manifest what you do want faster, attract better situations and favored opportunities will arrive more freely.


THE TIPS

If you are ready to clean and clear out old stagnant energy that is holding you back and ready to move in fresh new energy to support you then you will want to read on carefully.

Today's tip is all about identifying and becoming aware of the things in your life that steal your energy.

The only way to build your own energy up is to first learn how to reserve and grow your own energy.

If everytime you encounter a situation you automatically react rather than respond than the situation is a toleration.

Take a moment to reflect over all major aspects of your life, areas such as your career & job, personal & spiritual fulfillment, family & relationships, health and wealth.

Look over these different parts of your life and remember to ask yourself the question, "What am I tolerating?"

As you find answers to this question you will likely begin to generate either feelings, be with the feelings and write your experience down in as much detail as possible.

Try to be kind to yourself and avoid the tendency to immediately place judgement on your situation.

Looking over sometimes sensitive areas of your life can make you feel both positive and negative, mixed feelings are common.

Identifying mixed feelings will also help you uncover areas of your life that you are tolerating.

Simply put, a toleration is the big and little things you put up with in your life without realizing how much they are costing you.

An example of a toleration could be the numerous sticky notes that might be plastered on your desk, in your day-timer or on your fridge.

Everytime you look at one of those post-it notes, whether you specifically read a message or not, you have expended some mental energy.

One might not think it's a big deal, but throughout the day this subliminal sign language steals your precious energy acting like a perpetual to-do timer.

Each time you walk by it interrupts the moment you were in to signal to your subconscious, here is a "to-do", and "look-at-this", "this could be important"!

You then have a choice to either re-read the message again for the x number of time, or choose to ignore the note until it catches your attention next.

Unaddressed post it notes, unfinished projects, unwanted interactions and even unspoken words can remain hidden in background of tolerations.

Then out of no where they seem to break up the moment you were in prior by taking your time and attention to re-address something you continue to not address.

Whenever a tolerations allows you to lose the moment you also lose energy and cannot gain "momentum".

If you want to build yourself up and become the person you know you are capable of then stop the vicious cycle of energy and attention spent unnecessarily.

Honestly, openly and seriously ask yourself "What am I tolerating?" and then be prepared to do some habit renovations.


THE SECRET

Not sure how to uncover your tolerations?

Take note of all your thoughts and feelings and be sure to record any ideas that come up for you during this exercise.

When you think about how you spend your time and what your day composes of where does your energy seem to soar skyward and where does your energy sink down?

For example an area of joy in my life is my love for long baths and hot morning showers, therefore just thinking about a bath or a shower could potentially add excitement to my day.

However, I've recently noticed that my energy can also sink down when thinking about showers when I recall the details of a particular water test I viewed.

This test demonstrated how the chlorine, a chemical used to treat the water, is pumped into the water system of the city I live in and is immediately subsequently sucked up by human skin.

Of course this demonstration didn't make me feel excited about showering anymore, in fact, I sometimes shudder at the thought of how much chemicals I've absorbed.

Bombarding chemicals into my body is not a positive feeling, yet it is a choice I must consciously make everytime I draw a bath or take a shower.

So for me a major area of joy in my life has now somehow become a dangerous deal and to solve the problem I must purchase a special water filter for my shower head.

Easy right? Easy minus the fact that cleaning and clearing tolerations can only be paid with the currency of time, attention, and work.

The only problem that most people find with putting in time, attention and work is actually putting in the time, attention and work.

Hence the reason tolerations exist in the first place, because they conveniently wouldn't correct or go away themselves.

Do you get caught up in simuliar situations that desperately require your time, attention and work?

Ask yourself "What am I tolerating?" and record all your answers in a master journal.

Day-by-day and one-by-one is the way to take time to tackle your tolerations, so be patient with yourself and positive with your progress.

Most importantly, remember to celebrate as you strike each one off your list!

Are you committed to becoming even incrementally better? If so, by taking your tolerations into full consideration you will quickly become exponentially better.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help put an end to the spring cleaning fever and welcome in fun under the summer sun.

THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Do I love this?" or asked differently, "Does this _____ support me right now in feeling great?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every chance you get every day this week and the promise is that you will live more freely with less headaches and hassles, and be ripe and ready for opportunity.


THE TIPS

If you want to create a new habit, a new life or a new belief a great tool to assist that change is to first change your surroundings and environment.

You don't need to throw away everything and start over again, the idea is to use this weeks questions "Do I love this?" and "Does this ______ support me right now in feeling great?" as you check and double check for any "clutter" in your environment that can be removed.

Clutter represents items on the still-to-do list, tolerances and unconscious agreements we have made with our self.

Clutter zaps our emotional energy, our creative juices and takes up needed space.

When you clear the space for new things the universe works like a vacuum to fill it.

Clearing clutter will help make new room for new relationships with work, money and can even help you attract a dream mate if you so desire.

Be sure to check the bathroom, kitchen and your office for clutter as well.

When you look in the environments where you spend your time every day, do they reflect what is most important?

If it doesn't excite you anymore, or you don't adore it like you used to then perhaps it is time to have this move on from your life.

This could mean a new job or relationship, but I am proposing a smaller start to your de-cluttering days.

Check your closet, the number one culprit of clutter and confusion.

Provide people that would love your wardrobe a chance to get some free demos before sending them to the consignment shop, or provide a donation to your thrift store.

Clearing out the proverbial closet will make you feel good.

Making good use of your clutter will make you feel even better.

The new clothes, relationships, money that will come into your life as a result will make you feel the best!


THE SECRET

Have you de-cluttered your bedroom?

The bedroom is one of the most powerful influences on your subconscious and affects your sleep more than you probably realize.

Make sure your bedroom helps bring your mind to a peaceful, relaxing, or joyful state.

Avoid crazy colors that play on your emotions every time you experience them.

Check for symbols of what you are NOT seeking, be sure they are NOT represented anywhere.

Immediately remove any symbols of low worth, dis-organization and toleration you have around.

Surround yourself with symbols of what you most want more of.

Seeking friends? Try hanging pictures of the ones you are already thankful for.

Seeking love, surround yourself with items from your imagination that you adore.

Cruical Tips To Clearing Clutter

Cruical Tips on Clearing Clutter

We must constantly clear clutter to expand and grow by creating space for the new and moving away from things that don’t work for us. Holding onto things will most likely result in self-sabotage, because by focusing in the past it keeps us who we used to be, which in turn makes creating lasting change unlikely. Ideally everything in our environments should raise our energy and inspire us to be the person we truly are. It is our responsibility to create a vacuum internally and externally to create room to attract what we want in our life. It is then the role of the Universe to fill the void with good fortune and abundance.

Start with assessing your physical clutter. Make a plan and schedule time to start in one portion of one room, somewhere you’ll feel the biggest difference when it’s done. Set a timer, put the music on and go for it. Even 20 minutes a day will add up to something big. Clearing physical clutter will support you in clearing other kinds of clutter. Use the following points to create your action plan.

These are 6 kinds of clutter – how many of these can you relate to?

1. Everyday Clutter: unused, unloved, unnecessary, messy, extra stuff, dust. Result: emotional constipation.

Look at your belongings and ask yourself honestly: Do I love it? Do I use it? Does it make my heart sing? Does it fit into my current lifestyle as I am currently living it? Does it bring me joy and ease? Does it inspire me to live my best life?

2. Body Clutter: feeling off track with your eating and bogged down physically. Result: feeling sluggish, low energy.

Get yourself back on track with some kind of cleanse. Please check with your medical practitioner before starting as for some people and some conditions it’s not recommended. The principle is that by giving your body a break periodically from dealing with some of today’s unhealthy junk food, it has a chance to renew and repair.

3. Symbolic Clutter: unconscious negative messages, gloomy artwork, unfinished projects, things that remind you of a bad experience, broken stuff. Result: energy being pulled downwards.

Take note of your emotions around certain items in your home or workspace. What is your artwork saying to you? Does this support you? Are you really going to finish that quilt? If so, create a plan to do it and if it doesn’t happen give it another home. Are you going to fix your broken part? Can the item be delegated? Can the item be bartered? Is this action/item truly needed?

4. Invisible Cord Clutter: unresolved emotional issues, people/clients who drain your energy, something you’re not saying, someone you haven’t forgiven, incomplete relationships. Result: you remain attached to the very person you don’t want to be attached to and you give them a lot of power over you.

What is it costing you to hold onto resentment? Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. It doesn’t mean what the other person did was right. It means you are putting yourself first and moving on with your life without dragging a load of dead weight behind you. What are the stories you’re telling yourself about someone else? Are they the same stories you told yourself when you loved them or were friends with them? Holding onto resentments has a high price. Cut the cord and free yourself to get on with your life and your dreams.

5. Living in the Past Clutter: books and stuff from a past career or interest, files kept longer than necessary, wedding dress from your first marriage, things kept ‘just in case’, clothes you don’t fit into any more, old collections. Result: stops you being fully committed to the present and moving forward.

What do you really want to be committed to in your life? Holding onto things that remind us of the good old times will not support us in living the lives we dream of. And holding onto things because we might need them one day is coming from fear and lack. We need to cultivate trust – trust we’ll have everything we need when we need it.

6. It’s in your Mind Clutter: stuff to remember (to-do’s and information), stuff to forget (worries and grievances), too much TV, too much busy time, unchallenged beliefs, crowded Inbox. Result: keeps your mind foggy and stops creativity

We cannot possibly take in the entire information coming our way, or keep hold of it ‘just in case’. What would happen if we cut off the stimulation for a time? We’d get in touch with ourselves, our hearts, and make space for our own creativity and inspiration to emerge. We’d move through transition times in our lives more easily and emerge stronger. Imagine having a sabbatical with space to explore some long cherished dream or goal. Imagine having the space to get clear about your journey through life. Long before you feel stretched and out of touch with yourself, it’s time to schedule a mini sabbatical – a renewal day or half day. Turn off the computer, TV, phone too if that’s an issue for you, and arrange childcare. This is your time to do whatever you like.

Take back your minutes! Take back your day! Take back your life!

Let me know if I can help…

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