Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more fun and freedom.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question to center yourself whenever you become aware of your self-talk.


THE TIPS

Did you have a conversation with yourself today?

The answer is yes because every body in the world talks to them self.

Day-in and day-out we humans exercise our unique ability to talk to our self.

This ability is unparalleled in the animal kingdom, meaning no other species on the planet uses self-talk.

However, the real question to ask is not whether you have talked to yourself, but when was the last time you encouraged yourself while talking?

How often did you encourage yourself last month? How often last week? How about today?

If you are like most people, you can probably use one hand to count how many times.

This is because most people don't encourage themselves on a regular basis.

Why this occurs is a mystery to science and psychology.

One thing is for certain, poor self-talk is certainly not the way that nature intended for us to use this gift.

For example, how would it appear if you walked up underneath a tree and caught it talking to itself the way humans do?

Imagine it saying "Oh no they're falling off again! I must be a bad tree, my own leaves don't even want to stay on me!"

This would be simply ridiculous wouldn't it?

The same thing would happen if any animal acted in this manner wouldn't it?

Yet day in and day-out we continue to have negative and pessimistic conversations with our selves.

It is absolutely incredible that we allow these crazy conversations with our self to continue.

The best way to change this terrible trend of self-talk is to become more aware of how you talk to yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" whenever you find yourself debating, or talking to yourself.

The more you ask this question, the more that you will become aware in future conversations.

The more you become aware of your conversation, the better you can consciously ensure that your self-talk is encouraging.


THE SECRET

In any moment any bodies life on this planet can end.

Nobody really knows when this moment could occur for them, only that it will occur.

The only person that will be around at that time for sure is you.

When this moment happens you will again have a conversation with yourself.

When you speak to yourself during these final moments will you be encouraging to yourself?

Will you be able to look back and reflect in peace with the feelings of joy, adventure and gratitude that you felt for your life?

Or will the dialogue be filled with guilt, anger and regret from having an unnecessarily miserable relationship with yourself?

The bad news is that sooner or later one or the other will inevitably happen.

The good news is that starting right now you have the choice to decide which one.

Every moment of self-talk is an opportunity to build a better relationship with yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" to check-in with yourself during the day.

Your goal is to become your own best friend and your own biggest fan.

Figure out ways that you can use self-talk to speak to yourself as if you were head-over-heels in love.

Your challenge is to do the following simple but powerful exercise.

Imagine that you are so in-love with yourself that you can only compliment and encourage yourself.

After you wake up tomorrow say to yourself "congratulations, I must be awesome enough to have another day to be me, what a joy!"

Then you walk to the bathroom, flick on the light and give yourself a mental high-five for hitting the switch your first try.

When you pick up the right toothbrush and turn on the tap say to yourself "another job well-done!"

After you pick out an outfit, how about saying "wow.. absolutely stunning, world watch out for me!"

Continue on throughout your day in this way, complimenting or encouraging yourself at every conceivable opportunity.

The more genuine and honest you are with yourself the more self-confidence and personal power you will gain.

Try it for one day and watch in amazement at the energy you have and the emotions you feel!

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live guilt and regret free.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question at every minor and major case you find yourself offended and you will be able to better respond to those situations in the future.


THE TIPS

The next time something or someone rubs you the wrong way, and before you give it too much of your energy and attention, stop and ask yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"

The universal answer to that question is... Never!

Ask yourself "How many times has being offended solved anything in my life?"

And the universal answer to that question is still... Never!

Yet being offended, passing judgement and criticizing situations is something that we all do, many of us on a daily basis.

Being offended does nothing to satisfy the situation, and it certainly doesn't benefit the person or thing that offended you.

It is good to detach yourself from these situations because many times the offender doesn't even know they committed the crime.

Asking "Will being offended solve my problem?" is the first step in effective problem solving.

Instead of focusing on the reasons to be offended, or justifying your revenge, take a look at what is really bothering you here.

Becoming and staying offended cannot help you, but challenging yourself to look at the reason why you were offended in the first place can help you tremendously.

Anytime you are "overly opinionated" about anything it is reason for you to explore deeper.

There is no shame, guilt or regret involved with getting to know what offends you.

In fact there is nothing wrong with being offended, the problem becomes when we don't know or don't care why.

To know why you are offended is a chance for you to get familiar with your values.

Everybody must strive to put our values and motives under the microscope of truth.

Why not? After all we expect to keep our Government and Elected Officials in-check.

Why shouldn't we take the same approach of scrutiny and standards to the main motivator behind our own behaviour?

Ignoring the reasons why you are offended will not shed any insight whatsoever into what to do about it, or how to get over it.

Whenever you feel emotion about something or someone it is more a reflection of yourself than of what you think caused the feelings.

You are responsible for self-governing your feelings and asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" will help you put your thoughts, feelings and behaviour into clearer perspective.


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" helps remind you that being offended is not at all productive.

If you want to be productive one of the first questions to ask yourself whenever you feel offended is "what does this situation say about me?"

What do the thoughts and feelings that you have towards this situation say about you?

Being offended in a situation only shows people the way in which you judge others.

Continuing to remind others of how and why you are offended can only bring you more of being offended.

This can be summed up by the saying "you get out what you put in". Putting in complaints doesn't grow roses.

If you had a banana and you continued to cut it up into pieces, no matter what at the end of the day you would still have a banana.

You would never cut up a banana and expect to have orange slices right?

Being able to see why you were offended and what that insight reveals about what you are made up of on this inside is priceless.

With humility and practice you will develop the ability to respond better and offer a more balanced perspective.

A well-balanced perspective comes from being able to ponder yourself in the equation, both as the problem and as the solution.

This detached state of being is called introspection, or reflection and is generally accomplished through meditation.

With gentle introspection you will see reflections of both the conscious and subconscious programs that operate your world.

Yet for some strange reason many people fear stillness and shy away from taking a serious look inward.

Maybe because unless you grew up with a Yogi next door we were not taught how to meditate or exposed to the value of it.

Whatever the reason, it is an illusion that we can some go through life and avoid getting to know our self.

It is in our best interest to get to know the person we are stuck with no matter what.

No matter where you go, there you are, so the faster you get to know all aspects of your self the better.

Keeping the above metaphor of a self-government in mind, wouldn't you like to know if your elected "body" was doing a good job?

If you wanted to keep things accountable you would definitely require studies and analysis.

Don't be afraid to study your self, your motives, your behaviours, your thoughts and your habits.

Be your own best friend, become tag team partners with your self and together you will wrestle the challenges of life.

The better your relationship with your self, the better results that you will get.

When you are not getting the results that you are looking for, or find yourself emotionally attached to something, ask yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" to move forward faster.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you overcome limiting beliefs and build unstoppable confidence.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How did I grow today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every day and you will gain confidence, momentum and belief in your own abilities.


THE TIPS

Just before you go to bed today sit down in a quiet place and ask yourself the question: "How did I grow today?"

Paying attention and acknowledging your own growth is a very important skill that you must develop.

After all, only you have a vested interest in your own growth, after all, no matter where you go you'll be bringing yourself.

Unfortunately for whatever reasons, talking about and celebrating growth is a massively over-looked life skill that is not often learned.

Instead we are often taught to conform to the norms and told not to brag or show-off.

Have you ever heard this phrase said right after a compliment was given to you?... "Don't let it get to your head now!"

It's like we aren't allowed to enjoy our celebrations for too long or else it makes us a bad person.

We avoid attracting attention to ourselves to avoid looking conceited, cocky or over-confident.

As a result many of us grow up not knowing how to properly work with positive praise or how to learn from criticism.

This then leads us to experience growth as difficult, a struggle that remains for only positive people to pursue personal growth.

When it comes to living your life you are doing it such a way that is either helping you grow or die, and the best part is the choice is entirely up to you to decide.

Choosing to grow move you towards your hopes, dreams and the life that you know is possible for yourself.

Ask yourself "How did I grow today?" to map and track your rise to the top.

Look for strengths and successes that were revealed throughout the day, if needed keep a pad of post-it notes near you throughout the day.

Write down any challenge that you overcame, any problem that you solved, advice given, advice taken, or anything that you see as growth.

Find a journal to record all your observed strengths, achieved goals and documented growth.

Your "growth" journal is an invaluable asset in gaining self-confidence and building momentum.

Before you go to bed for the night take a few minutes and journal the answer to "In what ways did I grow today?"

List the ways that you grew today, find at least one way each day and as you get better try and come up with at least three ways per day.

Before you start your day in the morning take a minute to reflect in your journal and take notice of yourself as an amazing being that's always growing.

Celebrate your previous growth, strength and life lesson's by reading and remembering them.

Picture your previous successes in detail and remember how it felt to succeed, feel it as if it were happening again.

From that elevated state of emotion you can begin to tackle your day and any challenges that come along with it.

Whatever the result at the end of the day take a moment to record your new observations and successes.

If you commit to doing the steps laid out in this success cycle you will gain massive confidence within only a couple weeks.

Your self-esteem will improve as you repeatedly write and review the recent victories had over your challenges.

The more you stick to the simple process above the more capable and confident you will see yourself.

Ask yourself "How did I grow?" as many times as possible and watch yourself grow exponentially.



THE SECRET

When asking yourself "How did I grow today?" it is important to remember that growth doesn't always come from winning first place.

Your growth can also be derived from experiences taught from nature or lessons learned from strangers.

Growth often comes from unexpected places, a perfect example of this is your mistakes.

Many people think that growth only comes from acing tests and achieving goals, but failures can help us grow equally, if not more.

The absolute truth is that true growth can come at any place by anyone at anytime, it is only our judgement about the situation that negates the opportunity.

Read that last sentence over again because it is huge!

Every single one of us we're meant to enjoy the experience of our lives, but the single biggest problem for all is that we get in our own way!

The good news is that if you are responsible for being your biggest problem, then you must be equally equipped to provide your best solution.

To become a solution you must first take an honest look at how you are choosing to "grow" right now.

How are you spending the moments of your day, are they spent in ways that allow you to grow?

Are you choosing to move forward in your life on a moment-by-moment basis?

Are you aware that every single moment can and will reveal the path to your joy?

The trick to allowing the path to unfold is to first perceive yourself and your world with full unconditional love.

In order to learn from your mistakes you must be willing to let go of any attachments, expectations, or beliefs that don't serve your highest self.

This is undoubtedly the hardest step for most people to do, primarily because humans have a tendency to judge or label every single situation.

Instead you need to find a way to love yourself no matter who you are, who you were, what happened, what might happen, what should have happened, etc.

Always remember that when it comes to growth, it doesn't matter when, where, or how you start, the only thing that matters is you start.

When people realize the truth, beauty and simplicity of growing they even fall in love with their imperfections.

This symbolizes the first step on a never ending journey back-to-bliss as an unfinished masterpiece in the making.

After you've fallen completely in love with yourself you start to count both your wins and failures as growth opportunities.

You realize that you are always on purpose and that every moment offers the ability to increase knowledge and improve yourself.

What's even better about the whole process of growth is that you don't have to learn all the mistakes yourself.

The ability to learn from the mistakes of others is the magic bullet train to shortcut your fast track to success.

Do you have a support team such of mentors, heroes, coaches, mastermind groups, business partners?

Find people that hold the vision of your higher self for you at all times, eliminate naysayers and negative people at all costs.

This is your life to grow and you can choose who you want to enjoy that process with.

Asking yourself "How did I grow?" alone or in good company is the quickest path to a successful life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will inspire you to surround yourself with the kind of company you can be confident about keeping around.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Who should I be hanging around with?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question when allocating your time to friends and acquaintances and you will soon become more aware of the company you keep.


THE TIPS

The people who you choose to surround yourself with play more of a role on your future than you may first realize.

Ask yourself the question "Who should I be hanging around with?" to take an inventory check on your intimate friends.

This question should gear your thoughts towards "why" you hang out with the people you do versus "who" the people actually are.

For example, do you have friends that are there for you through thick and thin, both good times and rough times?

Do you have friends that inspire you to chase your dreams and go after your goosebumps?

Do your friends help you realize a bigger vision of yourself?

How have your friends made you feel competent and capable lately?

Even though we all have the ability to think and feel independently on our own accord, the people that you surround yourself with still play a major determining part in your life.

From the moment that you wake up and continue on throughout the day you are surrounded by the energy of family, friends and even co-workers.

The energy that you feel from other people stems from the individual "agreements" that have made in each relationship.

Most of your agreements are formed and acted upon subconsciously, which is to say that you are not even aware that you formed them or of your behaviour.

One example is the many parents that unconsciously play an "overly-nurturing" role to their child.

They have formed an agreement that subconsciously states that they are the nurture providers and the child is the nurture receiver.

Nurture can be a good thing, however, when the parents form an "identity" about the role they play over the years this will lead to two things:

1. It will make the parent always feel the need to protect or provide for their child and they might lose some of their sanity when the child leaves home or no longer needs their help . i.e. Empty nest syndrome.

2. It will make the child subconsciously feel the need to be protected and/or provided for by their parents and very possibly manifest into issues of responsibility in their own intimate relationships.

So even though the intention was pure and formed with love the relationship agreement has since become dysfunctional.

Roles and agreements themselves are not inherently good or bad, the problem is continuing to believe and subscribe to them without questioning their effectiveness.

A dysfunctional agreement, role or relationship is one that no longer serves or supports its main purpose.

In a functional relationship both the conscious and subconscious agreements should be in alignment with helping fulfill your greatest dreams and desires.

Do the roles and responsibilities of the people that you hang around most support your highest aspirations? Do you support theirs?

What do you love most about the company that you keep?

By asking yourself "Who should I be hanging around with" based on your highest aspirations will make you more aware of allies you can align yourself with to assist in your achievements.


THE SECRET

Do you plan or aspire to be wealthy? If you answered yes then you better have wealthy friends!

Did you know that researchers estimate that you will earn an income the equals the average amount of your 5 closest associates?

Said differently, people tend to make the same average income of the people that they spend the most time with.

Are the people that you surround yourself with people that are worthy of your time?

The trick is to do anything at all possible to avoid people that belong to the "same-old'" crowd.

These are the people who you meet up with every so often and each and every time you ask them what's new and exciting they answer "the same-old".

You must avoid these people like the plague, not because you are better than them, but because they don't really want to see you happy.

It is not that they don't want to see you succeed because they might, but subconsciously to them if you are anything else then what you are now then it means a change to the relationship agreement that they have with you.

If you change the person that they knew and were used to then your relationship agreement would be different, and for most people change is scary because of fear of the unknown.

Don't let other peoples self-limiting beliefs, doubts and apprehensions determine your future, make it a point to surround yourself with the best team possible.

Either your friends are pulling you up to their level or they are dragging you down to theirs.

Do your 5 closest friends inspire you, make you laugh, or offer an insistent hand to help achieve your dreams?

Said differently, do the people you choose to surround yourself with help you move towards the "biggest" you possible?

Is that so hard to ask for and too unreasonable to expect?

Are you blessed with friends that are there for you every time, every day without question and without fail?

If you already have friends like this make it a point to go out now and celebrate the value of their friendship because it is priceless.

If you don't yet have friends like that no worries, make it a point to find at least one person to build a brand new amazing and supportive relationship with before the years done.

The good news is that the value of one positive and supportive relationship greatly outweighs the effect of several negative and non-supportive relationships.

There are many ways that you can meet like-minded people and farm for those fabulous new friendships.

One way is by joining a local offline group such as found on www.meetup.com where you can find people near you with the same interests and hobbies.

Another way to connect with people is by joining an online group, such as found using an Internet search on "yahoo" or "google" groups.

Alternatively, you could find someone that you admire or that is doing something that you'd like to learn more about and reach out to connect with them.

Ask if you can help them, assist them, volunteer your services in return for them to mentor you.

One last idea for finding that supportive relationship to nurture your dream is to find and work with a Life Coach.

A coach can help you get in touch with your values and what is really important to you before you spend the time and energy to attract new friends.

Like energy attracts like energy, so if you are a miserable person chances are your friends are too because who else would want to put up with you?

With a simple shift in attitude you can begin to attract amazing new abundant friends and acquaintances into your life.

It is your responsibility to "be" the type of friend that you yourself would love to be friends with and be around.

In some relationships you might be the jester or joker, always playing pranks and keeping people laughing and having fun.

In other relationships you might take on the role of being the brain, the analytical thinker that always has thought provoking questions.

Yet in another relationship you might play the role of cheerleader, encouraging and motivating others to do their best.

These are only some of the various examples of roles that you play in your relationships, there are many others so try and discover the ones that work best in your relationships.

Ask yourself the question "Who should I be hanging around with?" to uncover gaps in your circle of friends and to find missing pieces of the puzzle.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you feel more grateful for your life and act with more appreciation of your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What problems am I blessed with?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many times as you have problems this week and the promise is you will laugh more and experience more gratitude in your life.


THE TIPS

Whenever you find yourself upset, unmotivated, ungrateful, pessimistic, doubtful, or just having an old fashioned "bad day", stop for a minute and ask yourself "What problems am I blessed with?" to help you shift gears and move away from that state.

People often mistakenly believe that the "grass is greener" on the other-side of the fence.

We are tempted to feel like people have more than us, live better lives than us and that no one has to go through the trials and tribulations we do.

We can also feel like failures in our own lives, like our problems are bigger than our ability to overcome them.

Applying today's mindset of "what problems am I blessed with" can help you put things into a more positive perspective.

First, instead of focusing all your energy on resisting a negative situation or something that you don't have be prepared to do the opposite.

That is to say, practice your ability to surrender to the current state of your affairs, learn to yield to situations and empower yourself.

You may have difficulties at first trying to surrender and uncover the "good" out of a "bad" situation but trust that this ability will only grow with practice.

With time and practice you will begin to see the "truth" behind reality, that situations, circumstances and even problems are not inherently good or bad.

The concept of good or bad are just mental images that we affix to a people, places and things.

That is to say, nothing is either good or bad by itself, there is no such thing as a "bad gun" or a "good lottery", these are subjective terms we've applied.

Take for instance a sporting event such as a Football game where the two teams are competing against each other.

During the play the offense wants to do something that moves their team forward and closer to their goal, such as run or pass and catch the ball.

However, simultaneously and parallel to that reality is the reality and objectives of the opposing team, who does not want to allow the other team to advance, run or pass and catch the ball.

Pretend that the offense snaps the ball and the quarterback drops back and releases a long-bomb.

If the receiver catches the ball the team on offense will jump up and down thinking that was a "good" play and the team on defense will jump up and down thinking that was a "bad" play.

If the defender deflects the pass and stops the team on offense the team on defense will jump up and down and think it was a "good" play and the team on offense will think the opposite.

There are two realities both containing "good" and "bad" existing in one outcome.

Only one reality will unfold and yet both outcomes will manifest.

Circumstances in and of themselves are not good or bad but rather our assessment and action towards them.

Learning to view your situation in more neutral perspectives will increase your ability to respond versus react to problems and situations.

When we react to a perceived problem it doesn't serve us, however if we choose to respond to a perceive problem then we can move forward.

When problems start to happen ask yourself the question "What problems am I blessed with" and list at least 5 problems that you are happy to have.

The more basic you can breakdown your happiness the more things you will find to be grateful for.

Start with your breathing and notice your breath. Breathe is the essence of live because we need it to survive, are you happy you are breathing to begin with?

Next consider your senses, do you have all of them in good working order? Many people with disabilities would give anything to be able to experience life with your level of sense.

What about your physical body, is it too in good working order?

Move down to your belongings, do you have a shelter over your head? How about a vehicle to drive to work?

Now think about your problem in terms of someone else's shoes. How many people on Earth at this very moment would love to be you?

I bet there are more people that you can imagine!

If you woke up relatively healthy under a roof in a bed and ate breakfast before you drove to work then congratulations, you've just lived the dream life of thousands of immigrants who would love to have the opportunities you have.

Life is a blessing in disguise, the sooner you practice seeing through the illusions the longer you can appreciate it's true beauty and wonder.

Asking yourself "What problems am I blessed with" will help you realize that there is nothing in life that you must "do" but enjoy being you.


THE SECRET

Even though the numbers are only approximate the following written by an anonymous author puts today's motivating mindset into perspective.

If we could shrink the earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all the existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look something like the following.

There would be:

57 Asians
21 Europeans
14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south
8 would be Africans
52 would be female
48 would be male
70 would be non-white
30 would be white
70 would be non-Christian
30 would be Christian
6 people would possess 59% of the entire world's wealth and all 6 would
be from the United States.
80 would live in substandard housing
70 would be unable to read
50 would suffer from malnutrition
ONE would be near death; ONE would be near birth
ONE would have a college education
ONE would own a computer.

When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, you recognize that you are indeed among the fortunate......


And, therefore . . .
If you woke up this morning
with more health than illness,
you are more blessed than the
million who won't survive the week.

If you have never experienced
the danger of battle,
the loneliness of imprisonment,
the agony of torture or
the pangs of starvation,
you are ahead of 20 million people
around the world.

If you attend a church meeting
without fear of harassment,
arrest, torture, or death,
you are more blessed than almost
three billion people in the world.

If you have food in your refrigerator,
clothes on your back, a roof over
your head and a place to sleep,
you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank,
in your wallet, and spare change
in a dish someplace, you are among
the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If your parents are still married and alive,
you are very rare,
especially in the United States.


If you hold up your head with a smile
on your face and are truly thankful,
you are blessed because the majority can,
but most do not.

If you can hold someone's hand, hug them
or even touch them on the shoulder,
you are blessed because you can
offer God's healing touch.

If you can read this message,
you are more blessed than over
two billion people in the world
that cannot read anything at all.

You are so blessed in ways you may never even know.

Ask yourself "What problems am I blessed with?" and remind yourself to be thankful for all your blessings in disguise.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more fun, appreciation and a better overall attitude.


THE CHALLENGE

The Mindset challenge I am proposing this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What three people have contributed most to my success?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will uncover important life lessons, discover new opportunities and attract exciting people into your life.


THE TIPS

Before you begin your day today ask "What three people have contributed most to my success?"

The follow up questions could be "What specifically did they teach me?" and "How as their teaching benefited my life?"

Think back to your teachers, your parents and your family. What about the people you have worked with, the new friends you've met, old friends you've reconnected with? How about a spouse or a loved one? A work mentor, manager or colleague?

A good test to determine whether the person you are thinking of is in your top three, ask yourself "Where would I be today if I did not learn ______ from this person?"

If you would still be essentially the same person, then perhaps search for someone who possibly has made a more meaningful or significant contribution to your life.

If you would not be where you are today or who you are today as a direct result of dealing with this person then there's a good chance that they rank in your top three.

Try and come up with at least three people, even if this exercise takes a couple days to really think through. You may however have many more than three top teachers, in fact, this is going to be more likely as you get more and more successful.

People who are a success become successful by walking on the shoulders of giants. What that means is that successful people, before becoming a success realize the importance of standing on the shoulders of the people that they respect and admire.

In fact, here is a brief list of famous mentor - mentee relationships that you might recognize:

Huey Lewis mentor to Bruce Hornsby
Don Henley mentor to Sheryl Crow
Mel Gibson mentor to late Heath Ledger
Maya Angelou mentor to Oprah Winfrey
Stevie Wonder mentor to India.Arie
Earl Nightingale mentor to Bob Proctor
Socrates mentor to Plato
Mark O'Meara and Butch Harmon mentors to Tiger Woods

Did a couple of those names you just read surprise you? Yes, mentoring has been around since before Socrates and Plato and some of the most successful people in the world have mentors.

Why does the greatest golf player in the history of the sport require mentors and coaches?

The world's most successful people have long realized that the more people that they learn from the better and faster that they will grow. It is impossible to make all the mistakes you need to learn all in your own lifetime so leverage the lessons of others to skyrocket your success.


THE SECRET

There is no "right" or "wrong" answer because the person and premise is completely decided upon by you. If you don't feel someone is worthy of mention, then simply don't mention them.

The truth is that we ALL have something to learn from one another. Every person that comes into your life, whether yesterday, today or tomorrow has something to teach you.

Try and get in the habit of finding a "Sensei of the Day". Sensei is a Japanese word meaning teacher, so Sensei of the day is simply a Teacher of the Day.

Every relationship that we hold with our self reflects an agreement about the nature of the relationship that we have made with ourselves.

Learn from the people that are in your life whether you perceive them to be a positive or negative influence.

If you feel that they are a positive influence try to identify one or two areas that they do well in and implement a similar strategy into your life. Don't be afraid to approach someone that you admire and ask them for some quick words of advice. All successful people had help along the way, the more you ask for it the more you can receive.

If you feel that they are a negative influence try to identify one or two reasons why you think they are behaving or acting out in this manner and gain understanding as to what specifically bothers you about their actions. This is a contrast to what you do like, but sometimes we need to know what we don't like in order to help determine what we do. The next time you find someone demonstrating a behaviour you don't like, silently thank them for the gift of awareness of contrast and endeavour never to act like them.

When you become thankful for the people that are in your life you naturally start to attract more of them to be thankful for. Appreciate the lessons of life and the teachers they come from and you will be ripe and ready for relationship riches!

This Moments Thought

Good day to you,

Thank you for joining me on another day full of the potential to create anything you want.

Here is This Moments Thought brought to you by the Buddha himself.

Whoever makes love grow boundless, and sets his mind for seeing the end of birth, his fetters are worn thin. If he loves even a single being, Good will follow. But the Noble One with compassionate heart for all mankind, generates abounding good. - Buddha...

The Success Sensei Says:

I challenge you to take the next few moments after reading these words and reflect on how you can be more compassionate towards others.

Forward Towards Success

How to "Life Coach" Yourself

How to Life Coach Yourself and Take Back Control of Your Life

There are many different books, audios and movies regarding The Law of Attraction . A great deal of the material covers the laws that govern this principal, but not too many talk about how to govern the mental state that allows for the LOA to work. Yet without the proper mental game to match your intentions, no force in the world, including the Law of Attraction will help you.

So instead of concentrating on areas of manifestation where you powers are not strong, i.e. the 'how-to' details, and controlling other peoples actions, why not gain control in the areas of your life in which you actually have influence. The area to focus on that will bring the most noticeable results the quickest is your attitude. Improving your attitude is the first step in attracting your dream life.

How to Improve Your Attitude in 6 Steps

If you want to take control of your attitude, here's a simple six-step process to do it:

Step 1. Get clear what your attitude is. If your results reflect your attitude, then its probably pretty clear what thoughts, beliefs and vision are creating your current reality.

Step 2. Understand how your attitude is affecting your altitude. This might require some information from a trusted advisor. This could be your mastermind group, coach or by listening to audio programs on other successful people.

Step 3. Write out on an index card with what the desired attitude is that will achieve your desired altitude. Start by gathering clues from other’s who have achieved that kind of success. You might want to emulate their attitude.

Step 4. Practice your new attitude. When situations come up, try on the new attitude and notice you react differently. Make up a “new story” about the situation based on your new way of seeing things.

Step 5. Evaluate your results. What’s different? How is it working? Do you need to further refine your attitude for a great altitude shift? Do you need more support from your trusted advisor to reflect blind
spots?

Step 6. Continue the cycle. This is not something you do once and forget. No way José. This is a process you continue over and over again, each time getting closer and closer to the gold. Take a minute out of your day today to implement this new strategy and tomorrow you will be in a better space tomorrow.

Learn more great ideas from Calgary Life Coach Russell Small by visiting his website:

http://www.RussellSmall.com