Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you get to the bottom of any unwanted behavior.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Why do I do what I do?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question whenever you wonder what is at the root of your behavior.


THE TIPS

No matter who you are, or where you live, there is only one measure of success; to be able to live your life in your own unique way.

We all have different ideas of what life as our "ideal" self looks like, but, how many people live up to their own personal standards?

Certainly by the evidence one can see that it's not the majority of people in this world.

Yet, we can all safely contend that no one "intentionally" wants to end up unhappy and not their ideal self, so what happens along the way?

We all have a built-in "ideal-self" meter, which means we know deep down inside if our actions align with our highest vision, or at least we know when our current lifestyle choices do not fulfill our deepest desires.

Research tells us that as many as 7 out of 10 people are working in their jobs "just to pay the bills" or "out of necessity".

If we could fast forward our lives to where we are unhappy, miserable, mid-life crisis, we would learn that sacrificing our self for money is a complete sell-out.

Yet how many of us are doing these right as we speak, saving the excuse their diversion from purpose is a learning experience.

Why not challenge yourself to start this learning experience earlier? How about striving to experience learning who you truly are?

Besides, is it not more a necessity to be who you are and to find a way to prosper from just being?

How would you like to pay the bills by being yourself?

How would you like to do what you loved and get paid for it?

Well yes you can, in fact it's not only your birth right, you can start moving towards it right at this moment.

It's called being in unison, and it means you are living your life authentically, answering your calling, discovering your true purpose.

It's exactly why people like Tiger Woods, Oprah Winfrey, Rachel Ray, and Jimmie Johnson don't work to get paid.

These people wouldn't consider doing what they love as work, they would do it regardless of whether they get paid. This is important.

All these people do is express themselves, live their passion, and they are remunerated and rewarded accordingly. Handsomely, we may as well adds well.

So what is the secret, why is the case of people living in their unison the more exception rather than the rule?

Ask yourself "What really prevents me from living my life authentically?"

Identify and commit to what you will have to do differently to make any changes happen.

Remember, nothing in your life will change until your behavior does.

Therefore, in order to change behavior you need to know why you behave that particular way to begin with.

We are all like computers and our behavior are like software programs.

At any time you can install and update old software versions with new more relevant replacement beliefs.

A good question to start probing into your behavior is to ask yourself: "Why do I do what I do?"

Give yourself permission to explore, and don't be afraid to discover the underlying causes of undesirable behavior.

Be patient with yourself and dig deep until you've found the root.

When it comes to living authentically, and fulfilling your deepest desires, it is never to late to start and always too soon to quit.

The only thing worse than a quitter is a person who is too afraid to begin.

Start today and begin by asking yourself the question: "why do I do what I do?"


THE SECRET

The billion dollar question is why do you behave in the way that you do?

If you don't know exactly why, then how do you ever expect to change, or correct your behavior?

Isn't that like playing a game that you have no idea about the rules?

Try playing chess, tennis, hockey, baseball or any game for that matter completely ignorant of the factors that you can control.

Chances are you would spend all your energy, attention and focus in areas that would bring you little reward or gain.

You would be making errors and mistakes left right and center, and the worst part is you wouldn't even know why.

Now you can see why so many of us are walking around frustrated about effecting positive changes to our behavior. We don't know the rules of the game!

In order to effect positive change to anything in your life you first need to know how to control human behavior.

So what do you really think determines human behavior?

Is it our circumstances? No, we are all dealt with a different hand, it's not the cards but how we play them that counts.

Is it our skill? No, because experience shows that success is due less to ability than it is to attitude.

Is it our parents? No, because our behavior can go either way, we can be alot like them, or a lot not like them.

Is it our personality? No, our personalities reflect our behavior as opposed to changing it.

Is it our habits? No, even the worst habit can be replaced with a more empowering one.

What determines human behavior then?

Ok... if you're stumped let's approach the situation from another angle by asking some other questions:

"If you knew a quicker, safer, hassle-free way to improve your life would you go that route?"

Yes, of course. So your driving behavior is only limited to the navigation system of the driver.

How about "if you knew how to lose weight effectively would you take it and apply it"

Chances are yes, and you would use this knowledge to alter your eating behavior.

What if "you could find out the money blocks that are holding you back from abundant prosperity, would you want to know?"

Again, the answer is absolutely yes! You would immediately apply these lessons to make more money flow into your life.

Would you then also agree that the only reason that you are earning your current level of income is because you don't know how to make more?

Obviously, because why would anyone still choose to make anything less?

No one would. Just like if you knew how to make a billion you wouldn't settle for earning a million. At least Donald Trump and Warren Buffet wouldn't.

So what is the main ingredient that is in all of these above scenarios?

The answer is knowledge. Knowledge is power. Knowledge is the application of information.

Wisdom is the experience of that knowledge.

Therefore, it all begins with an idea, or new information being inputed into the brain.

"Man's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions" - Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

With better information we make better choices right?

Better choices lead to better beliefs, better decisions, and stronger action.

Our actions repeated over a period of time is what we call behavior.

Information is what allows us to change our behavior and replace our habits.

Awareness is the first and most important step of changing any behavior. You cannot change what you are not aware of correct?

Once we become aware of something that we want to change, we can use that information to make adjustments.

What do we use to make adjustments? More information of course.

Everyday you are either moving towards or away a more authentic life for yourself.

How you recognize, accept and change the information will determine your degree of success in life.

An amazing way to ask for more information to come into your life is through quality questions.

The question to ask yourself to begin with is "Why do I do what I do?"

Write your answers down, discover your triggers, your interests, your conscious contradictions.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you get out of your own way in order to open up the floodgates and let your wildest dreams rush in.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How can I be more allowing?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question whenever you meet resistance in your life and it will help reduce your discomfort and attract more success.

 

 

THE TIPS

Most people are familiar with the Law of Attraction made famous by "The Secret", but did you know there is also a Law of "Allowing"?

Don't worry, you are not alone, if you haven't heard of this important universal law.

Yet, those who have heard of it, and applied it into their lives, are happier, more fulfilled and seem to instantly attract whatever they desire into their lives.

Would you like to know how to tap in to the law of allowing in order to bring better results more quickly and easily into your life?

If happiness, joy and abundance is what you really want, then you need to take a moment and consider the question "how allowing am I right now?"

Do you allow others to be who they are? Do you fight against their beliefs? Do you think that if one person gets their way, that you can't get yours? 

How often are you in opposition to the situation? In what ways to you "resist" the people, places and things in your day?

Look at any areas of resistance in your life as prime indicators of areas that are in need of more allowing.

Whenever there is resistance in your life, there will also be accompanying negative emotions.

Resistance is like putting on the emergency or parking brake while trying to drive. Sure you can still drive with it on, but the performance of the vehicle is greatly diminished.

The problem is that many of us fear what we truly want, which is why we put on the brakes to begin with.

We ask, pray, and intend for our desires to be manifested and right before they are, we say "whoa wait-a-minute", "hold-on", "stop".

We think, who am I too have this? Why do I deserve this? Am I even worthy enough? 

Meanwhile, the universe is trying to give you whatever you want, but you are stating to it through your actions that you are unsure if you want it.

Then, when you finally decide that you want something, you decide that you want it yesterday!

However, no matter how skilled or resourceful you are there is always a time lag between the original conception and the manifestation or achievement of the goal. 

Then when it doesn't show up today, you begin to doubt and question whether or not you can even attract it.

A vibrational state like this places counter-thought, and counter-intention, into whatever your trying to attract and acts like a parking brake to your pleasure.

No matter how much you work, and work, you will still not succeed, because the effectiveness of your action is dependent upon your state of being.

This is important to understand, because the more time you put into being against anything, the less time you have to spend bringing positive things into your life!

The creative process takes time! Allowing what is wanted, essentially keeps your attention on the wanted thing, and off of the fact that you don't have it yet. 

Imagine if you could find a way to take your foot off the brake and live life full throttle?

Understanding the law of allowing is easier than you think, but it is the practice of what you know where the challenge lies.

The most important thing to remember is that whatever you focus on will expand into more of it.

If you spend your time, energy and attention focusing on the "resistance" the "disagreement" with whatever is, you are creating a vibrational state to bring you more of the same.

Therefore it is of the utmost importance during the process of manifestation that no matter what happens you remain committed to focusing your energies on that which you intend.

This keeps your vibrational signal oriented in the right direction, and allows you to rendezvous with the people and resources that match up with you.

By not resisting the wanted thing you allow the law of 'like attracts like' to work in your favour.

The law of attraction is able to work more effectively when you don't resist the wanted thing and allow the process to take place, whatever it is.

Do you truly want whatever you want... or are you more concerned about the process in which in manifests?

If you don't care how it comes, only that it eventually comes, then allow your thoughts and feelings about the process to relax. 

By relaxing into your creative process you strengthen your intention and become a more powerful attracting magnet for the things you want, and a more effective co-creator.

For example if you want to be more wealthy and you thought it was going to happen via the lottery, and you ended up getting a promotion would you be upset?

Think about this story and how it parallels in your life. What in your life do you say that you want more of, but are too 'attached' to the details of how it happens?

If you truly desire whatever that is then you will want to spend your time and effort on allowing more.

Even after you bravely recognize the need to become more allowing, you still may get lost in the contemplation of exactly how to do that.

One of the easiest ways to learn is to simply ask yourself the question: "How can I be more allowing?" 

THE SECRET

The art of allowing means you believe it is possible to have challenges, yet at the very same time be absolutely in love with life and excited about the world.

In what areas of your life can you become more allowing?

Can you become more allowing in the relationships you have with your friends, family, co-workers, or even your ex's?

More importantly, it what ways can you be more allowing with the most important relationship of all, the one with your SELF?

Are you your own best friend? How often do you practice allowing yourself to fail, learn and grow without judgment?

Based on the way you have treated yourself for the past week, would you be your own best friend?

If you and your best friend were working together on a project together, would you want them there to support you, or hinder your progress?

The choice is an easy one, of course you would want them in your corner to support you.

The question is then, "Are you offering the best support to yourself as your own best friend?"

Every day that you wake up you are responsible for being a partner in the biggest and most important project of all, your life.

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you criticize or complain about something?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you doubt the creative process?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you constantly notice what is missing in your life?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you question why you don't have it yet?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you spend time blaming or judging people, including yourself?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you carry around all your failures and mistakes from the past?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you feel low energy and negative about something?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you offer resistance to whatever shows up in the moment?

These are only 8 of the many ways that you can check-in with your self. 

Use them to determine how aligned your thoughts and actions are with your intention.

Is it possible that you need to learn how to be more allowing, accepting and/or forgiving?

Are your thoughts, feelings, and actions in vibrational harmony with what you seek to attract?

If you seek to support your self then it is vital to maintain a pure creative vibration aligned precisely to your desire.  

The law of allowing works hand-in-hand with the law of attraction, meaning whatever you place your attention on you get more of. 

As mentioned earlier, if you focus on something positive, something that you are passionate about, related opportunities come to you. 

When your thoughts, your focus and your intent are exclusively on what is wanted, you feel relaxed, joyful and lighthearted about the goal.

Paradoxically, the more joyful you are, the less hard you have to work, and the more powerful and effective are your actions.

In short, allowing is the aligning of your vibration with that of your desire. 

A great question to ask yourself to be more in the moment and go more with the flow is:

"How can I be more allowing?"