Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you harness the power of your mind.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question to boost your brainpower and to become better at solving your own problems.

 

 

THE TIPS

Whether you like it or not, you are destined to encounter problems during your lifetime, it is simply part of the experience of being human.

But for human beings, it is not the problem that is important, but how we go about solving the problem that matters most.

Whether you realized it or not, you are constantly thinking to yourself and solving problems in the form of self-talk.

Think about when you ran into that old friend from high school and you were struggling to remember their name.

When you ask your subconscious to get it for you, it will usually come back with the right answer, although maybe not at the time you are face-to-face.

When you ask your subconscious a question, it has no choice but to return an answer to you. You can use this fact to your advantage. Here's how.

First, make sure that your internal-dialogue is positioned to help solve problems. Monitor the discussion, will this conversation move you closer to what you want?

If not, then the quality of the questions you are asking yourself may be the first place you want to change.

What if you could change your life just by changing the questions that you ask yourself? Yes you can, you were meant to, and you can start training yourself to ask better questions.

The moment you wake up tomorrow morning, and before you begin thinking about your day, ask yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

This question will give you an idea of whether major changes are needed, or perhaps just a tweak here or there will do the trick.

 

"Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." --- Anthony Robbins

Half of your problem-solving power should always be devoted to clearly and accurately defining the problem. An accurate diagnosis is half the cure.

When you know exactly what the problem is, you are already that much closer to implementing a feasible solution.

 

Without knowing the exact nature of the problem, you will not very well-equipped to solve it, no matter what the situation. 

For instance, if you were unsure why a friend was upset with you, and never took the time to understand why, then how easily could you solve the problem?

 

Probably not very well. Luckily the ego will usually rectify this problem, so you don't have to worry about it, through its usual avenues such as justification, blame, denial, anger, etc... 

Some people would write-off the friends behavior as too weird or rude to be bothered with, some people even perhaps would ignore their friend until they "disclosed" the problem.

 

The problem with going this route is that by the time you two actually sit down and talk, there will be an emotional dam between you both that feels like it is about to burst.

Then, the best question from this lowered mind-frame and highly emotional vibrational state, would likely be: "What is your problem anyway!?" 

However, this question often doesn't solve the problem, in fact, it usually makes the situation much worst.

 

The real issue of why your friend is upset needs to be answered from a different level of thinking then what created the problem.

 

The real question is not what their problem is but, rather "How can you solve it?".

Which approach do you personally think would be more effective for you, or if it was used on you? Of course, knowing the problem is half the battle.

Therefore, you can immediately increase your personal effectiveness through the use of critical thinking questions. 

A good question will clearly define the problem, uncover any false assumptions, and help your mind focus on a solution.

When it comes to problem-solving, it is not the problem itself, but your perception of the problem that will make the most impact towards a solution.

 

For example, asking quality questions such as "What do I already know about this person/topic?", or "How have I solved problems like this before?" will help you tap into your existing experiences in order to better brainstorm solutions.

 

You must always focus on how you can be more personally effective, the moment you let up your lower-priority activities will start to consume all of your time, keeping you busy and burned out.

 

The key to personal effectiveness is the quality of questions that you ask yourself. You can take stock on the quality of your current level of questions by asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?" 

 

THE SECRET 

The power and affect that quality questions can have on your life is unquestionable. 

First, by thinking about quality questions you become more aware of the (normally unnoticed) conversations that you have with yourself.

 

This awareness will help you observe whether your self-talk is effective towards your goals or not. Are you treating yourself as an unconditional nurturing coach, or a conditional constant critic?

This will help you start to develop a less-biased opinion about whether your actions and self-talk are reinforcing your success, or in fact negating it.

Quality questions will also help you improve the quality of your inner self-talk, the conversations and commentary you have inside your head.  

  

When you master the anatomy of a quality question you become free to explore the future freely, and also where your past choices have taken you. 

When you are free to explore your self and experiences, you will now start to develop your natural navigation system, use this to hone in on your dreams.

  

The more valuable questions you ask, the more each quality answer will bring out the capable and confident person inside of you.

The goal of any quality question is to build a framework for success inside your brain, a process to use yesterday's and today's experiences in a positive way tomorrow.

With quality questions you can find a way to win, or at least walk away with one lesson to apply in the future, regardless of whether the experience was good, bad, or ugly.

Asking yourself quality questions is about finding better questions to bring about a better experience for all those involved.

Here is an off-the-cuff example. Imagine for a moment that you have this annoying habit that you want to break, i.e. you tend to talk too much when you are nervous.

You've determined that this isn't working for you and you want to change it, the first question you might ask yourself is: "Why do I over-talk when I am nervous?"

Again, all you need to do is ask your subconscious a good quality question, and then patiently sit back and allow for an answer.

 

Perhaps you will discover that you tend to talk more when you are nervous, because you feel uncomfortable with silence.

What happens when you are not sure what to do with an answer you receive? In this case, all you have to do is ask your subconscious another question.

Continuing with the example, you know that it's feeling uncomfortable with silence that is the problem, now you can ask your subconscious why.

The question you might want to ask now is, "Why am I uncomfortable with silence?" and then allow you sub-conscious to answer.

Maybe the 'reason' that returns to you is that you are uncomfortable with silence because you have low self-esteem.

What could you do at this point? Well you could continue to ask another question, i.e. "why you have self-esteem", and continue to go down the path of your problems.

However, consider now how much more empowering it would be to transport yourself into the realm of solutions?

How about instead of asking "why do I have this problem", you shift your questioning to "what can I do about it"?

In our over-talking example, how about switching from why you are uncomfortable with silence, to "what can I do to not be so uncomfortable with silence?"

Or, instead you could ask yourself, "In what ways can I communicate more confidently and concisely?"

Now you have shifted the emphasis off of diagnosing the problem, and switched on to finding a solution for the cure.

This works better because now you don't even need to solve your low-self esteem, because if when you find a way to be a more powerful and confident speaker, your self-esteem will have to match right?

Can you see how this little shift in thinking can make a huge difference. If not, go back and read it again until you get it!

By asking your subconscious questions you can begin to tap into your true power.

Stuck in a situation right now and still not sure where to start?

How about asking yourself a quality question such as: "What does success look like for me?", or "How can I turn my current situation around to best suit me?", or "What question have I not asked myself, but if I did, would lead to the greatest increase in the quality of my life?"

The better questions you ask yourself, the better answers you get, the better results occur, and better quality of life you will live.

Ultimately, quality questions add balance to your way of thinking, nurture your way of doing, and help to discover the consciousness behind being.

You can get a start to discover the power of your questions by asking yourself: "What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you get to the bottom of any unwanted behavior.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Why do I do what I do?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question whenever you wonder what is at the root of your behavior.


THE TIPS

No matter who you are, or where you live, there is only one measure of success; to be able to live your life in your own unique way.

We all have different ideas of what life as our "ideal" self looks like, but, how many people live up to their own personal standards?

Certainly by the evidence one can see that it's not the majority of people in this world.

Yet, we can all safely contend that no one "intentionally" wants to end up unhappy and not their ideal self, so what happens along the way?

We all have a built-in "ideal-self" meter, which means we know deep down inside if our actions align with our highest vision, or at least we know when our current lifestyle choices do not fulfill our deepest desires.

Research tells us that as many as 7 out of 10 people are working in their jobs "just to pay the bills" or "out of necessity".

If we could fast forward our lives to where we are unhappy, miserable, mid-life crisis, we would learn that sacrificing our self for money is a complete sell-out.

Yet how many of us are doing these right as we speak, saving the excuse their diversion from purpose is a learning experience.

Why not challenge yourself to start this learning experience earlier? How about striving to experience learning who you truly are?

Besides, is it not more a necessity to be who you are and to find a way to prosper from just being?

How would you like to pay the bills by being yourself?

How would you like to do what you loved and get paid for it?

Well yes you can, in fact it's not only your birth right, you can start moving towards it right at this moment.

It's called being in unison, and it means you are living your life authentically, answering your calling, discovering your true purpose.

It's exactly why people like Tiger Woods, Oprah Winfrey, Rachel Ray, and Jimmie Johnson don't work to get paid.

These people wouldn't consider doing what they love as work, they would do it regardless of whether they get paid. This is important.

All these people do is express themselves, live their passion, and they are remunerated and rewarded accordingly. Handsomely, we may as well adds well.

So what is the secret, why is the case of people living in their unison the more exception rather than the rule?

Ask yourself "What really prevents me from living my life authentically?"

Identify and commit to what you will have to do differently to make any changes happen.

Remember, nothing in your life will change until your behavior does.

Therefore, in order to change behavior you need to know why you behave that particular way to begin with.

We are all like computers and our behavior are like software programs.

At any time you can install and update old software versions with new more relevant replacement beliefs.

A good question to start probing into your behavior is to ask yourself: "Why do I do what I do?"

Give yourself permission to explore, and don't be afraid to discover the underlying causes of undesirable behavior.

Be patient with yourself and dig deep until you've found the root.

When it comes to living authentically, and fulfilling your deepest desires, it is never to late to start and always too soon to quit.

The only thing worse than a quitter is a person who is too afraid to begin.

Start today and begin by asking yourself the question: "why do I do what I do?"


THE SECRET

The billion dollar question is why do you behave in the way that you do?

If you don't know exactly why, then how do you ever expect to change, or correct your behavior?

Isn't that like playing a game that you have no idea about the rules?

Try playing chess, tennis, hockey, baseball or any game for that matter completely ignorant of the factors that you can control.

Chances are you would spend all your energy, attention and focus in areas that would bring you little reward or gain.

You would be making errors and mistakes left right and center, and the worst part is you wouldn't even know why.

Now you can see why so many of us are walking around frustrated about effecting positive changes to our behavior. We don't know the rules of the game!

In order to effect positive change to anything in your life you first need to know how to control human behavior.

So what do you really think determines human behavior?

Is it our circumstances? No, we are all dealt with a different hand, it's not the cards but how we play them that counts.

Is it our skill? No, because experience shows that success is due less to ability than it is to attitude.

Is it our parents? No, because our behavior can go either way, we can be alot like them, or a lot not like them.

Is it our personality? No, our personalities reflect our behavior as opposed to changing it.

Is it our habits? No, even the worst habit can be replaced with a more empowering one.

What determines human behavior then?

Ok... if you're stumped let's approach the situation from another angle by asking some other questions:

"If you knew a quicker, safer, hassle-free way to improve your life would you go that route?"

Yes, of course. So your driving behavior is only limited to the navigation system of the driver.

How about "if you knew how to lose weight effectively would you take it and apply it"

Chances are yes, and you would use this knowledge to alter your eating behavior.

What if "you could find out the money blocks that are holding you back from abundant prosperity, would you want to know?"

Again, the answer is absolutely yes! You would immediately apply these lessons to make more money flow into your life.

Would you then also agree that the only reason that you are earning your current level of income is because you don't know how to make more?

Obviously, because why would anyone still choose to make anything less?

No one would. Just like if you knew how to make a billion you wouldn't settle for earning a million. At least Donald Trump and Warren Buffet wouldn't.

So what is the main ingredient that is in all of these above scenarios?

The answer is knowledge. Knowledge is power. Knowledge is the application of information.

Wisdom is the experience of that knowledge.

Therefore, it all begins with an idea, or new information being inputed into the brain.

"Man's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions" - Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.

With better information we make better choices right?

Better choices lead to better beliefs, better decisions, and stronger action.

Our actions repeated over a period of time is what we call behavior.

Information is what allows us to change our behavior and replace our habits.

Awareness is the first and most important step of changing any behavior. You cannot change what you are not aware of correct?

Once we become aware of something that we want to change, we can use that information to make adjustments.

What do we use to make adjustments? More information of course.

Everyday you are either moving towards or away a more authentic life for yourself.

How you recognize, accept and change the information will determine your degree of success in life.

An amazing way to ask for more information to come into your life is through quality questions.

The question to ask yourself to begin with is "Why do I do what I do?"

Write your answers down, discover your triggers, your interests, your conscious contradictions.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you see things more clearly and live with more clarity.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What else could this mean?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question in every instance you are searching for meaning and you will gain new perspectives.

  

 

THE TIPS

Have you ever got confused, angry, sad, hurt, frustrated, nervous, stressed, anxious, or upset?

If you are human then you have definitely have experienced at least one or two of these negative emotions.

Chances are, you may even be experiencing them on a daily basis.

If you want to reduce the amount of those feelings in your life a great question to ask yourself is: "What else could this mean?"

Human beings see the world first through our brains and then use our eyes to generate a matching perspective.

We see whatever we believe, i.e. seeing is believing... We also ignore what we don't want to believe... i.e. ignorance is bliss.

In general people underestimate their natural abilities and overestimate their weaknesses.

This means that your situation is probably not as bleak as you imagine, and you're more strong and talented than you give yourself credit. 

Yet we tend to think that everybody thinks, feels and acts the same way, or at least they should in most cases.

You think this way if you have ever got upset at someone with a different approach to doing things than you.

If you traveled with 12 of your closest friends on a trip for a month you would quickly spot exactly just how different you are.

But if during that trip you were faced with a problem that took all of you to solve, you may walk away more appreciative of our differences.

Our perspectives are by design as unique as our fingerprints, with no two being the exact same.

There is a beautiful and divine purpose as to why we all think, feel and act differently.

The truth is that it takes all sorts to make the world go round. 

The sooner that we appreciate and believe this then the sooner the conflicts and wars around the world will end.

You can make a big difference in your life and the lives of others simply by asking one question:

"What else could this mean?"

Answering this question will help you gain perspectives, feel empathy and increase awareness.

When was the last time you stopped to consider that there might be another way at looking at the situation?

Here is your challenge for the next week...

The next time you are frustrated, confused, angry or upset ask yourself this power question.

Try asking it the next time that you are stuck on a problem or arrive at a dead-end.

Ask it to yourself the next time you are in the middle of a so-called crisis.

Ask a friend this question the next time they are emotional and distraught over something.

The more that you ask yourself this question the more easily you will be able to come up with alternative ideas.

Remember, the answers that you come up with are not the most important part of the process, rather it is simply the awareness of all your alternatives.

To change anything in your life requires that you choose a new path, because you cannot change what you don't know.

A great question to ask yourself to gain awareness and perspective is: "What else could this mean?"

THE SECRET

We live in a world that is infinitely filled with all sorts, shapes and sizes of information.

Our ability to recognize, access and change information creates endless potential and possibilities for our species.

From cloning mammals to Cuban missiles we have the power to use information to both create and destroy life.

However we must always remember that information itself is neither inherently good or bad. 

For instance the Ying and Yang symbol tells us there is a little bit of good in evil, and a little bit of evil in good.

Information will always make the world go round and it will forever just be information.

Ultimately it is the person who uses the information that applies the purpose and meaning to it.

We can use information to empower and improve our lives, or we can use the same information to hinder and hamper our progress.

This choice is entirely up to us and is determined on the basis by the type and quality of questions we ask our self. 

For a specific example of how this might play into your life consider the following scenario or one like it:

You have arranged to meet your partner or good friend for dinner and you arrive on time at a restaurant. 

After about 10 minutes and the person still hasn't shown up you begin to dialogue with yourself and say “typical, she is always late, she simply has no respect for other people”. 

Stop! Wait-a-minute, immediately taking up a position like this is not going to prove very useful for your emotions is it?

Also, think about the type of evening you are setting yourself up for if and when the person does show up. It's not likely going to be a fun and friendly night will it?

Before you are temped to take your next shower in negative emotions, how about if you asked yourself "What else could this mean?"

Just by asking the question you have now given yourself some choices.

Start brainstorming from the other person's perspective and put yourself in their shoes.

Do you think they are doing this to intentionally hurt or upset you? If so, then perhaps it is time to find some new friends or even family to hang around.

If you realize that they probably didn't do it on purpose, then perhaps you could change the internal dialogue in your head to reflect something more understanding and empathetic.

For example you might think "she must really care about me because she is obviously taking the time to look her best”, or “How thoughtful of me was it to pick a restaurant that is notorious for no parking."

Coming from a perspective like this you can see how you can eliminate the build up of negative emotions and free yourself from "reacting" when they finally arrive.

With that perspective how much easier it would be avoid any arguments, make sure you put in a real effort, and try your best to salvage the rest of the night.

Think and reflect for a moment on the last time that you had an argument with a loved one. 

Try and briefly regain those feelings by seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard and feeling what you felt. 

Now take a moment and recreate the dialogue that was going on inside your head at the time. What are you saying to yourself?

Are you asking questions that are helping or are you asking questions that are likely to exacerbate the situation and lead to an argument? 

At times like this we often disappear inside our heads and look for ways to justify our feelings and support our behaviour.

Would you like to put a hugely positive spin on the situation instead by changing your state and outlook?

The alternative is to ask yourself the question "What else could this mean?" to contemplate new and more powerful perspectives.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you navigate towards a more fulfilling life.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"How did I get to where I am at right now?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as soon as possible and you will become more appreciative of your life's experiences.


THE TIPS

No matter who you are on this planet the quality of your life experience will depend on three things.

1. An ability to ask yourself questions. Quality questions about you, the environment you operate in and the world you live in.

2. An ability to answer your own questions honestly, without judgment or attachment. Let the information speak for itself and lead you to the truth.

3. An ability to recall and apply the answers you discover at the appropriate time.

If you are missing any one or more of these things at any given time then your chances of success are slim to none.

The better the questions the better one's life potentially. A great question to ask yourself to gain more perspective on your life is:

"How did I get to where I am at right now?"

Where are you on the road of your life. If it was represented by an oval race track, how far along the race are you already?

Are you winning? Are you even aware that you are hurling through space of time in the race of your life against time?

The car company Volkswagen were wise beyond their time when they stated in their commercials that "On the road of life there are passengers and there are drivers."

When it comes to feeling alive and in control of life are you a passenger or a driver?

Passengers like to watch other people while wishing they could be, do, or have more and are often jealous or envious of others.

Drivers on the other hand prefer to grab the bull by the horns, take control and steer their own destiny.

So why do people avoid popping the hood from time-to-time and taking a look at our engines?

For some passengers it's because they don't know how.

Yet when you think about it... No one is more qualified to figure out how to drive the custom make and model called 'you'.

Other passengers are reluctant to stop for for directions because they feel they can't afford to waste the time.

However, the logic in that statement is like saying you are too busy to stop for gas, because you are too busy driving.

Sooner or later this delusional thinking is going to catch up to you.

When is the last time you took a look to see where your life was heading?

Drivers ask them self the question "How did I get to where I am at right now?" because it can lead to increased self-awareness.

The better you know the vehicle you are driving the better you can tweak it to perform right?

Therefore the mark of a good driver is their ability to investigate the merits of the beaten path and the road less traveled.

Aristotle said that "the mark of an educated or mature mind is its ability to entertain a thought without accepting it".

Become an observer of your self and begin to write down the skills, habits and attitudes that have brought you to this point in your life.

Good, 'bad', or indifferent the more information you uncover the more you will empower yourself.

The more empowered you become the more you will be able to renovate skills and replace unwanted habits.

If you are already successful or have a list of talents, skills and abilities then perhaps it is time to share them?

Is it possible to find a mastermind group to share your wisdom with, or become a mentor to lend your experiences to somebody who needs you?

If you don't have a big list of assets, or even if you felt you didn't have any at all, isn't it possible to grow some?

The best part about life is that no matter how long you have been on cruise control you can always start driving immediately.


THE SECRET

The true measure of a person's life, regardless of race or religion, is whether they lived in alignment with their purpose.

Did they do the work they were designed to do on this Earth? How well did they faithfully express their energy, passion, love?

There are three ways to measure a person's alignment with their purpose, acceptance, allowance and appreciation.

Acceptance can be regarded as the ability to look into your past and accept the things you cannot change.

A person must get comfortable with past failures and release their regrets before they can really grow.

Allowance is the ability to look into your future and be fully in the moment without resistance.

One of the most crucial ways to let go of resistance is to find a way to forgive. Forgive yourself, whoever, or whatever hurt you at all costs.

Appreciation is the ability to be alive and feel at peace in any moment.

Feel gratitude for all of your experiences and place your intention on perceiving your past in a powerful way.

It is not looking into your past that is important part but the ability to be able to do so freely without identifying with it.

Can you experience your past in a detached manner, away from the feelings or at least associating yourself with them.

Successful people are not afraid to take stock of their inventory of habits, skills and experiences.

They reduce or eliminate judgement regarding their past and put a hold on all assumptions about the future.

You will learn to become grateful about life's ups and downs after realizing that both the 'good' and the 'bad' are needed.

If there was no 'tall' there would be no measure for 'small'. If there was no 'black' there would be no reference for 'white'.

If there was no 'up' the direction 'down' would lose its current spatial significance.

The true nature of reality is that we require all opposites and polarities to balance this universe. It takes all sorts.

Your courage is required to look in the past and clear any unprocessed emotion that is blocking your success.

Your commitment to clarity will help clear confusion and create a path to take you to the next level.

A great question that encourages self-discovery is to ask yourself:

"How did I get to where I am at right now?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will alter the world you see and how you see it.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What new thing did I notice today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and it will help you find new possibilities and potentials.


THE TIPS

Before you close your eyes tonight ask yourself the question: "What new thing did I notice today?" and see what kind of answer you come up with.

Noticing something new is the first step in learning something new, which is a prerequisite for growing.

Everyday you are given the choice to either learn and grow or else recede and die. What do you want to do?

If you want to grow then it is important to stretch yourself and step outside your comfort zone as often as possible.

A good way to measure the growth on a daily basis is by asking yourself "What new thing did I notice today?" and recording your answer.

Everyday there is something new to learn, and sometimes even someone new to learn it from.

The world is constantly providing you new teachers to learn from and grow if you are open for it.

The problem is that far too many people are plagued with closed minds that don't allow them to grow.

You can recognize a person who is afraid to grow by the way they talk about new things.

They will use phrases like "I know that/this/them" and "I already heard about that/this/them" no matter what the subject.

People like this act as though they have discovered everything there is on Earth and know everything about it.

The truth is that these people are attached to a belief-system that equates their knowledge with their worthiness.

They are afraid of looking dumb if they don't know what you are talking about, so they overcompensate by pretending to know-it-all.

Since no one can ever know-it-all their efforts are usually always in vain and they end up looking foolish.

Amazingly, the irony is that looking foolish is the exact thing that these people wanted to avoid in the first place.

You can avoid feeling stupid for being ignorant by excusing yourself as an adventurer who is learning as they go.

Everyday you are journeying further on your adventure, learning things you didn't know before and growing in ways you never thought you could.

When you come across something that you don't know, make it a point to learn it and don't be afraid to ask questions to strengthen your understanding.

There are no stupid questions except for the ones inside your had that you don't ask.

Commit to becoming an adventurer today, and start discovering the world all over again.

Abandon ideas that aren't working for you and find out new ways of doing the same thing.

Make it a point to uncover as many new things you can discover about an old friend.

Fall in love with your spouse, or your loved one all over again and notice what qualities made you fall in love with them in the first place.

Noticing something new in your life can change your world literally.

A great question to keep track of your observations is by asking "What new thing did I notice today?"


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "What new thing did I notice today?" is a great way to notice change.

Noticing something change is important, because it is the visual representation of growth.

If you noticed something new existing without, it can only be due to the growth that took place within.

Growth on the exterior, or outer world is always a reflection of the growth that has taken place inside.

These shifts of growth inside are represented by changes in our attitudes, preferences and perceptions.

Here is an example that you can probably related to:

You pick up a new car, get a new dress, or buy a new cell phone and the moment you got it you started noticing everyone else who had one like yours.

All of a sudden, you see your purchase everywhere you go but can't recall seeing it around even a day before you bought it.

The growth that took place was in a part of the brain called the Reticular Activating Cortex, sometimes referred to as the Reticular Activating System (RAS for short).

Whenever you notice something new, it is because of this part of your brain that acts like an operator switch board for your perception.

Your RAS acts like your personal secretary, a gatekeeper that decides what goes "in" to your awareness and what stays "out".

Before you had your new car your RAS didn't know it was important to you, but now since you have one, your RAS is trained to point out more of what you are looking for.

It searches for more of the people, situations and circumstances that you desire and filters out what it feels is unnecessary.

Your RAS works subconsciously in the background by tirelessly filtering your experience based only on what you programed, it will never let in anything you didn't ask for.

This is important enough to state again, your RAS never lets in anything that you don't ask for.

If you want more happiness, joy, prosperity, friendships, peace, love in your life then you first ask for what you want.

Attracting something new in your life is as easy as imagining it was already there.

Your job is to tell your RAS that these things are important to you and that you want to see more of them in your life.

The way to program your RAS to show you more of what you want in the future is by consciously intending for more of it now.

Your consciousness is the program writer for your RAS, it does this through a number of things including the way you feel and act, and the self-talk that you have with yourself.

For example you can program your RAS by feeling as though you had it, acting as though it was already yours, and talking to yourself as if your desire is now a part of your life.

As the world begins to respond to your desires your next immediate goal is to become aware of the signs and evidence of possibilities and potentials manifesting.

A great question to train your RAS to search for new things is to ask yourself "What new thing did I notice today?".

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help lead you back to a balanced lifestyle.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"How am I spending my attention?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as often as possible to become more aware of your thoughts, emotions and actions.


THE TIPS

Time is our most precious resource.

Time cannot be replaced, renewed. or reversed.

The wealthiest person on this planet is one who has "free" time. Time to spend on what he or she desires.

The only thing that we can use to create, build and change anything in this world is time.

The only currency that we spend our time with is attention.

The next time you are about to devote any time or energy into a situation, a great question to ask is:

"How am I spending my attention?"

The only way to solve a problem is to give it some attention.

The only way to show love to someone else is to devote your undivided attention to them.

The only way we ever do anything in this world is through spending attention.

Yet were you aware that how everybody spends their attention is different?

Attention isn't a single unit of measure, rather it is broken up into three different but related "modes".

The modes in which people spend their attention is by either thinking, feeling or doing.

We spend our attention by choosing to feel some way, think some way, or do some thing.

Throughout the day we relate to the information around us by using one of these modes, usually a combination of two.

Picture three separate "dials" sticking out of your back with the values 0 to 10 on each of them.

A persons' thinking-dial might be turned up to 10, their feeling dial to 7, and their doing dial at 3.

When given something that requires our attention, let's say a problem to solve, we always approach it using our preferred mode.

A person with their thinking and feeling dial turned up like in the example above would be inclined to sit and think about the problem.

Where as the person with their "doing-dial" turned up would be inclined to do something about the problem and think or feel later.

There is no right or wrong way to give your attention in a situation, although the most beneficial way will always stem from being aware.

The next time you are giving attention, considering options or problem-solving ask yourself: "How am I spending my attention?"

When you answer, try to be more aware of the effects of what you are thinking, feeling or doing about the situation.


THE SECRET

What is your default dial?

Do you have a tendency to think, feel or do too much?

People tend to become very dominant using one particular dial, and support that strength with a secondary dial.

When we spend our attention primarily in one or two modes, naturally the third one becomes neglected.

There is no getting around the fact that we make our decisions with two of the three dials turned up.

People will therefore always have a "strong" dial, a "support" dial, and a "weak" dial.

As time goes on this leads to an over-compensation of two dials and an under-utilization of the third.

It is important to focus your attention on all three and avoid overlooking the importance of the dial you tend to ignore.

This is important to be aware of because we are only as strong as our weakest link.

For example, a person who acts primarily without thinking will not see the bigger picture behind their actions.

A person on the other hand who thinks and feels without action, will inevitably run into problems with procrastination.

You can tell which is your strong dial and which on is weakest by observing how you tend to react to new situations and potential problems.

Do you dive-in head first and figure things out along the way? If so, you are a do'er.

If you tend to be more reserved and analytical about the situation then you are a thinker.

Do you wait and see what your gut feels like before responding? If this is you then you are a feeler.

The goal is not to change your mode of spending attention, as that will only result in frustration.

Awareness is the main goal, for only once you have become aware of something can you decide to change it.

Become aware of what dials you use, how they affect your life, and how you can benefit from using your weakest dial more often.

A great question to gain awareness of your behaviour is to ask yourself: "How am I spending my attention?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you ensure you are using your imagination the way it is supposed to be used.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"How will I use my imagination today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question for awareness into the way that you use your imagination.


THE TIPS

When you wake up tomorrow ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

The moment you begin to ponder an answer to that question you will begin using your imagination.

Each answer that you "think" of is visualized as a picture or symbol inside of your mind's eye.

These pictures and symbols trigger other pictures and symbols because they are linked together by "emotional association".

This means that when you think of the picture or symbol you also simultaneously experience emotion.

The combined union of thought and emotion produce what is known as our feelings.

The feelings that we have either enable or dis-enable (disable) our success.

This is because the way that we feel determines the way in which we experience the moment.

When we feel a low-energy, non-confident, confused emotional state we hold ourselves back, reserve our energy and tend to withdraw from life.

When we feel a high-energy, confident and enthusiastic emotional state we will always give more of ourselves, succeed easier and be more connected to life.

This is why it is so important to choose to only empower emotions that enable you to experience the moment as "authentic" as possible.

We experience life authentically when we are fully in the moment without judgment or reservation.

Feeling authentic means feeling purposeful, passionate and playful.

We all live to experience more of these moments in life, so why does it appear to be so difficult?

Because we are confused about what we can control and what we cannot.

We spend to much energy trying to control the things we can't, for example other people or foreign countries.

While we fail to try to control the things that we can, for example our attitude, belief system, and most importantly our imagination.

Imagination is the starting point of success, if you don't understand how this occurs you need to re-read this from the beginning.

When you actually understand how important your imagination is, you will ask yourself "How will I use my imagination today?" everyday.


THE SECRET

Take time and ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

Each one of us was born with an imagination despite the popular belief that people think they are not creative.

Even though the way that each on of us uses our imagination is different, we all have been using our imagination every single day.

However, despite the diversity in ways that we use our imagination, the standard measurement boils down to two things:

We either use our imagination to enable (empower) our lives, or we use our imagination to disable (dis-empower) our lives.

We imagine by associating certain pictures and symbols together and grouping them together based on the way they make us feel.

For example, when you think of the word "Love" you probably picture the word first in your minds-eye.

After picturing the word you then associate that word with a memory, in this case of something that you love.

This picture of what we love then has an emotion associated with that picture.

This emotion embodies the feeling that is associated with the word love.

Providing that we do not have any negative associations such as the experience of heartbreak, before we know it we are fondly reminiscing over memories of a loved one.

Each time we think of the word love this emotional association triggers the memory of the experience almost as if we were experiencing it for the first time.

You only have to picture a loved one in your mind and have the feelings of "butterflies" in your stomach to confirm this happens.

What is amazing is that this process happens in the blink of an eye and we can repeat it over and over again.

Imagine how great you would feel if you took time every day to only think about joyful, passionate, loving experiences you've had?

Recalling cherished memories and re-living positive experiences are just a couple ways that we can benefit from our imagination.

Unfortunately, the same process of re-living the experience occurs for all other emotions including negative ones.

For example, have you ever found yourself in a bad mood just because you pictured someone who makes you mad?

You don't even have to be in the same room as that person before your blood starts to boil right?

Good, bad or indifferent your imagination acts like a switch board, whose job is to summon experiences that support the picture we hold in our mind.

Therefore, your only job in each moment is to consciously create the type of experiences and emotions that will be worthy of re-living in the future.

If you only picture great things coming into your world and learn to see them as great when they appear, then you will create future memories that will be fondly remembered.

You will either use your imagination to empower the creation of positive new experiences or not, the choice is entirely yours.

When you wake up tomorrow ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will inspire you to reclaim the confidence to move forward in your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and it will help you breakthrough tough mental roadblocks and limiting-beliefs.


THE TIPS

Ask yourself the question "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?" to help you move forward whenever you feel stuck.

This naturally does not feel good because being stuck is the opposite of the reason we were born on this planet to begin with.

Human beings are born to express themselves and they primarily do this two ways.

First, all human beings aspire to accomplish something that they value.

We want to contribute to something meaningful that we can be proud of.

Second, humans also desire to feel valued by the people that they value.

We want to feel like important members within our circle of influence.

No matter what tribe, community, race or culture you belong to, these two yearnings are universal.

There is a very specific reason that we are hardwired this way.

When we are contributing (being valuable) to something we value, the human body rewards us by generating feelings.

The feelings that people most commonly experience when doing the above are peace, passion, enthusiasm and joy.

When we accomplish something of value the human body rewards us with favorable emotional states.

Some of the common terms that people use to describe these emotional states are: bliss, fulfillment, happiness and success.

So if everyone wants to contribute to some thing of value and also to feel valuable, then what is the problem?

There are two reasons why the majority of people you know are not expressing the feelings or experiencing the conditions:

1. We cannot uncover or discover what we wish to contribute.

2. We know what we wish to contribute but cannot uncover or discover a way to contribute it.

Ask yourself the question "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?" and see what category you fall into.

The more you give yourself permission to ask yourself exploration questions, the more of yourself you will uncover.

The more of yourself that is uncovered, the more informed you are about yourself and what you are meant to do.

The more informed you are about what you want to do, the more informed you can become on how best to do it.

Start your path to success by simply asking yourself: "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?"


THE SECRET

Just because you ask the question: "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?" doesn't mean that you will give yourself an honest answer.

The mind is known to be tricky. This trickiness can sometimes be described as if there were a little angel and little devil on your shoulders.

Sometimes the angel answers and sometimes the devil, the universal question that plagues us all is how to tell them apart.

For example, you have an important goal to manage your weight but somehow you just aren't going to the gym.

This would be a great opportunity to ask yourself the question: "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?"

However, the little devil on your shoulder may answer the question before the little angel and it might say something like:

"You shouldn't exercise (even though you know you should) because... [insert cleaver excuse here]"

The excuse might come in the form of a reasonable sounding thought like, "what if the people at the gym make fun of you?"

Entertaining a thought like this may hinder your confidence to move forward and sabotage your desire to go to the gym.

The next time this happens and you aren't sure whether it is the little devil answering ask yourself this follow-up question:

"How do I know this to be true?" and give yourself time to debate both sides of the story.

In the example of the gym excuse, asking yourself "How do I know this to be true?" is a great follow-up question.

If you insist on believing that whatever is holding you back is true, the next best question to ask yourself is " What would happen if it wasn't true?"

In the going to the gym situation you might discover through simple brainstorming that other possibilities exist.

For example, you might see the possibility that you could befriend a work out buddy or even better, a future mate that understands your unique challenges.

The excitement of this possibility might even help you breakthrough the limiting-belief about people at the gym that held you back in the first place.

Give yourself permission to explore your roadblocks and belief barriers, and with practice the mind will become your greatest problem solving ally.

If you need help getting started, asking a honest friend or hiring a coach that you trust is your best bet to get a realistic view of your current results.

When you have determined a realistic view of your situation ask yourself the question: "What is really keeping me from accomplishing what I want right now?" to take yourself to the next level.

Be open with process and honest with your progress and you will eliminate any barriers that stand in your way.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more fun and freedom.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question to center yourself whenever you become aware of your self-talk.


THE TIPS

Did you have a conversation with yourself today?

The answer is yes because every body in the world talks to them self.

Day-in and day-out we humans exercise our unique ability to talk to our self.

This ability is unparalleled in the animal kingdom, meaning no other species on the planet uses self-talk.

However, the real question to ask is not whether you have talked to yourself, but when was the last time you encouraged yourself while talking?

How often did you encourage yourself last month? How often last week? How about today?

If you are like most people, you can probably use one hand to count how many times.

This is because most people don't encourage themselves on a regular basis.

Why this occurs is a mystery to science and psychology.

One thing is for certain, poor self-talk is certainly not the way that nature intended for us to use this gift.

For example, how would it appear if you walked up underneath a tree and caught it talking to itself the way humans do?

Imagine it saying "Oh no they're falling off again! I must be a bad tree, my own leaves don't even want to stay on me!"

This would be simply ridiculous wouldn't it?

The same thing would happen if any animal acted in this manner wouldn't it?

Yet day in and day-out we continue to have negative and pessimistic conversations with our selves.

It is absolutely incredible that we allow these crazy conversations with our self to continue.

The best way to change this terrible trend of self-talk is to become more aware of how you talk to yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" whenever you find yourself debating, or talking to yourself.

The more you ask this question, the more that you will become aware in future conversations.

The more you become aware of your conversation, the better you can consciously ensure that your self-talk is encouraging.


THE SECRET

In any moment any bodies life on this planet can end.

Nobody really knows when this moment could occur for them, only that it will occur.

The only person that will be around at that time for sure is you.

When this moment happens you will again have a conversation with yourself.

When you speak to yourself during these final moments will you be encouraging to yourself?

Will you be able to look back and reflect in peace with the feelings of joy, adventure and gratitude that you felt for your life?

Or will the dialogue be filled with guilt, anger and regret from having an unnecessarily miserable relationship with yourself?

The bad news is that sooner or later one or the other will inevitably happen.

The good news is that starting right now you have the choice to decide which one.

Every moment of self-talk is an opportunity to build a better relationship with yourself.

Ask yourself "Is this conversation I'm having with myself encouraging?" to check-in with yourself during the day.

Your goal is to become your own best friend and your own biggest fan.

Figure out ways that you can use self-talk to speak to yourself as if you were head-over-heels in love.

Your challenge is to do the following simple but powerful exercise.

Imagine that you are so in-love with yourself that you can only compliment and encourage yourself.

After you wake up tomorrow say to yourself "congratulations, I must be awesome enough to have another day to be me, what a joy!"

Then you walk to the bathroom, flick on the light and give yourself a mental high-five for hitting the switch your first try.

When you pick up the right toothbrush and turn on the tap say to yourself "another job well-done!"

After you pick out an outfit, how about saying "wow.. absolutely stunning, world watch out for me!"

Continue on throughout your day in this way, complimenting or encouraging yourself at every conceivable opportunity.

The more genuine and honest you are with yourself the more self-confidence and personal power you will gain.

Try it for one day and watch in amazement at the energy you have and the emotions you feel!

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more peace and love in your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Am I a lover or a fighter?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will become more conscious of how you radiate emotion and energy in your environment.


THE TIPS

If you are looking to find more love in your life, a great question to ask yourself is... "Am I a lover or a fighter?"

Re-stated a bit differently, the question could be asked as, "How do I contribute to this world, through cooperation, or coercion with others?"

Do you add joy in the world, or do you contribute to the anguish?

Does your heart pump stronger than your fist?

Do you make the people around you feel idolized or intimidated?

If the former is the case versus the latter, then indeed you may be a lover.

Why is being a lover important?

First of all, being "a lover not a fighter" is not just a good idea referenced in the lyrics of a Micheal Jackson song.

Here's why... Each and every moment of our lives, every single one of us are faced with a question.

Although this is a single question, the outcome that results from how this question is answered is as varied as the individuals answering it.

Everything that you see in the world, the love, the war, and the indifference, was created out of people answering this single question.

The one question that we continually are challenged with is whether to create out of fear, or to create out of love.

When people create, do and act out of love, the power of their passion reflects the bliss and beauty of life.

If you ever watched Tiger Woods play golf or listened to Pavarotti sing opera you would see a demonstration of this.

Other examples of the transcendental quality of beauty of nature when created out of love are expressed through classical art, music and poetry.

You are instantly connected when you come in contact with energy that has been molded from the fabric of love.

To feel love, or as some refer to it as, to feel God, satisfies our innate desire to experience everything in this world that is wonderful and great.

Therefore to feel "good", which basically just adds an extra "o" to the word God, also refers to seeking this connection to supreme source.

Feeling good, feeling God and feeling love should be the answer that you choose to express at all times.

The way to remember where the focus your creations resides is by asking yourself the question "Am I a lover or a fighter?".


THE SECRET

Human beings are energetic entities, which means that we are all made of energy and we require energy to survive.

You probably learned, if you remember way back that in school, that energy cannot be created nor destroyed.

However, what you probably weren't taught is that not all energy was created equal to begin with.

Some energy appreciates and supports our lives, while other forms of energy deplete and depreciate our lives.

Many people inadvertently feed on energy that depreciates their lives because they don't know any better.

For example, if you constantly watch the news, participate in rumours or gossip, or spread negative stories.

The energy that it takes to maintain those acts above should give you an indication of whether the energy is good for you.

It is important to pick good sources of energy because there is no getting around the fact that we need it.

Human beings are complex energy systems that require different types in order to function and feel good.

For example, we require food in the form of carbohydrates to fuel our physical self. If you don't eat in 3 weeks you'll die.

We require energy in the form of sleep and oxygen to regulate and maintain the mental aspects of our self, for things such as analysis and calculation.

The energy that our emotional self feeds on comes in the form of feelings, and the feeling that trumps them all is love.

Love is an emotion that makes the giver, the receiver, and even the observer, feel more powerful as a result of its expression.

Being able to express love and feel powerful is important to everyone because of one very special reason.

People inevitably tend to go where there emotions (feelings) take them, and not necessarily in the direction of their dreams.

Therefore, to get better results in life what we need to continually practice learning is how to experience more love.

By developing a loving relationship with your emotions you will develop your intuition and feel like you are able to follow your dreams.

The decision to act from love is so powerful that it can manifest instant change and bring about expressions like peace, harmony, and joy.

Just imagine how the world would be if everybody loved what they did for a living and felt blessed to be able to do it?

How much better would the world be if people did things because they loved to, and not just because they had to?

A world like this is not too far from the reality that we live in now, in fact it is only as far away as your imagination puts it.

To start living with more love, begin by imagining yourself putting more love into your day, your actions, and your daily interactions.

Check-in with your intentions by asking yourself the question "Am I a lover or a fighter?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will empower your everyday living.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What truly improves my life?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will fast-track your path to success and happiness.


THE TIPS

The New Year always brings with it many hopes for new directions to take, old dreams to pursue and overall improvements to make.

If you are looking to make improvements to your life the first question to ask yourself is "What truly improves my life?"

If you feel down on your luck, with no energy to motivate yourself and improve your life than you are normal.

In fact, when it comes to people there is something that over 70% of the population has in common, that being, the propensity to settle for less than they deserve.

In Canada and America for example, nearly 7 out of 10 people work 9-5 jobs just to pay the bills!

But if you work just for the money, you may be rewarded by the ability for physical fulfillment, that meaning the access to physical goods and tangible services.

However without passion behind your payroll, your chosen work occupation will not provide any spiritual, emotional, or mental satisfaction.

Said differently, people are spending 1/3 of their lives doing something that provides them with 1/4 the fulfillment in their lives.

To make matters worse, the 1/4 that money can provide doesn't always work out to be the case, many people go to work full-time, or have two jobs and cannot still meet their expenses and commitments.

If this is the case, then you could look at it in the way that people are spending 33% of their time in an area that produces less than 25% of their happiness.

This is a major problem since we seek to experience fulfillment on all four of these levels in order to feel balanced, in harmony and successful.

When it comes to improving your life you must consider all four levels to lived a balanced life no matter what category you are trying to improve.

How can you be more emotionally, spiritually and mentally involved with your work to help balance out the equation?

When you are finished finding and testing ways to improve your results in one area then it is time to move on to another "category" of improvement.

Some common categories that people choose for improvement include: Health, Wealth, Relationships, Personal, Career, etc..

Asking yourself "What truly improves my life?" will help you brainstorm a more balanced approach in existing areas and also improve the overall categories that contribute to your success and happiness.


THE SECRET

Improving your life is really about being able to get better results in the existing areas of your life.

There are many ways to improve your life, but they all start with a choice to do better in order to get better results.

You must empower yourself to make better choices by understanding the power of your attitude towards any improvements you wish to make.

If you believe the change(s) will be hard, long and difficult then guess what, you are right!

Alternatively, if you choose to believe that the change(s) will be easy, fast and effortless then guess what type of experience you will attract.

As Henry Ford once said "Whether you think you can or think you cannot, either way you are right."

The question "What truly improves my life?" will help you brainstorm areas that will truly make a difference.

If you come up with lots of different areas for improvement than you will want to stick to just one or two at a time.

The best way to focus your time and attention is to ask yourself: "What area of my life, if changed for the better, would make the biggest impact to improve the quality of my life?"

Once you have determined a good area to focus your efforts and before you go to work to change it, consider the following questions:

"How does this improve my life?"

"What will this improvement add to my life that is missing now?"

"If the proposed idea doesn't work, how can I tweak it to still make improvements?"

Asking yourself these questions will give you a little bit of insight as to whether or not this improvement will work out as good as you imagine it would.

There are two things that have consistently improved the quality of life for people throughout the ages.

One of those things is "technology", and it's ability to allow us to do things more effectively and more efficiently.

Technology is a car that enables you to get from point A to point B faster. Technology is an e-mail that you can use to communicate with others in the comfort of your own home.

Technology will continue to improve life if implemented with care and consideration. What is the purpose of the technology? What is the technology enabling for you?

With the right research technology is something that has the potential to improve lives.

The second thing that has improve the quality of life for people throughout the ages was once described in a Beatles song.

The title was "All You Need Is Love" and it is a fitting title for the universal secret for improving lives for everyone involved.

When you do some thing out of love then the rest of your life will tend to fall into place as well.

An example of this is the famous artists, musicians, actors and athletes that make massive amounts of money doing what they love.

Passion or a love for what you do is only equalled by the purpose for which you do it.

Doing something you enjoy for yourself is good. Doing something you enjoy for yourself that benefits others is even better.

Your purpose in life is to find some place, some thing or some one that you are passionate about.

In order to zero in on your passion, ask yourself the question "What truly improves my life?".

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will discover the secret of how to create more happiness whenever, wherever no matter whatever happens.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Will I cherish the memories I am creating in this moment?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will be able to live with less regret and more peace of mind.


THE TIPS

Most of us talk to ourselves a lot, in fact we do it day-in and day-out.

We talk ourselves into doing things and we talk ourselves out of doing things.

The problem is that we often get these two mixed up, that is, we talk our-self out of growth opportunities in order to spend our time doing things that keep us playing small.

We justify doing this for various reasons such as fear, lack and keeping within our comfort zone, etc.. but the bottom line is that giving up on dreams doesn't feel good.

One way to challenge your mental chatter, is to ask yourself the question "How can I find a way to cherish the memories I am creating in this moment?".

If you cherish the moments as you create them in the moment then they will become cherished memories in the future.

Yet how many times do we use the moment instead to think about all sorts of personal robbing and confidence stealing scenarios?

One such confidence stealer is worry.

It makes no sense to choose to spend your time in the moment worrying about some memory that has yet to happen.

Will your worrying produce a cherished memory that you will look back on in time and say "yeah, that was time well-spent?"

The answer is probably not because 99% of the time our worries never manifest, at least in the horrendous way that we fore-casted.

Another personal power robber is judgement.

Have you ever wondered where bad ideas and stupid mistakes come from?

There is no thing as a "bad" idea as long as we learn from the experience.

These are just labels in judgement, unflattering descriptions of the events that unfolded.

They all come from our imagination, merely fictions that we create.

What time teaches us is that often what we thought was the worst thing to happen to us was really a blessing in disguise.

Asking yourself "How can I find a way to cherish the memories I am creating in this moment?" will help you see the blessing faster.


THE SECRET

How often do you have to ask yourself the question "How can I find a way to cherish the memories I am creating in this moment?"

The answer is only as often as there are moments, only as consistent as you want to be empowered in those moments.

There is a moment every second, there are 60 seconds to a minute, 60 minutes to an hour, 24 hours in a day, 30 days in a month, 12 months in a year.

The standard measurement of these unique moments are what's known as experiences.

What type of experiences and unique moments did you cherish this year?

Our experiences accumulate as memories, which ultimately shape and influence our future experiences and memories.

How can you use the cherished memories of last year to influence the memories that you want to create this year.

The moments that make up the existence of our reality pass by for everyone equally at the rate of one second per second, what we do with those moments is what separates us all.

If you are 30 years old today, then since you were born you would have accumulated 3,153,600 hours worth of potential memories, how have you used them so far?

Many people feel that they are forced to accept people, places and situations, basically that they have no choice.

Thinking that you never have a choice is always an illusion because you always have a choice.

We may not like our choices and in some cases we may even be restrained from "physical" action in a situation.

However the choice that always remains is your attitude about the present moment.

You have a choice to decide if your attitude resists the moment or goes with the flow.

The biggest skill you can teach yourself is allowing the present moment to unfold in a symbiotic and loving way?

When you learn to adjust the attitude on the fly, your life will begin to become easier, lighter, less stressful.

"When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Going" is a popular song originally recorded by Billy Ocean in 1985.

It is also an over-popularized cliché quoted by mentors, managers and motivators.

Basically it means that when situations in life become difficult, strong people show their strength by rising to the occasion.

The next time you are caught in a situation that you would rather not be in, before you take action ask yourself "How can I find a way to cherish the memories I am creating in this moment?" and then "get going"!