Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you harness the power of your mind.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question to boost your brainpower and to become better at solving your own problems.

 

 

THE TIPS

Whether you like it or not, you are destined to encounter problems during your lifetime, it is simply part of the experience of being human.

But for human beings, it is not the problem that is important, but how we go about solving the problem that matters most.

Whether you realized it or not, you are constantly thinking to yourself and solving problems in the form of self-talk.

Think about when you ran into that old friend from high school and you were struggling to remember their name.

When you ask your subconscious to get it for you, it will usually come back with the right answer, although maybe not at the time you are face-to-face.

When you ask your subconscious a question, it has no choice but to return an answer to you. You can use this fact to your advantage. Here's how.

First, make sure that your internal-dialogue is positioned to help solve problems. Monitor the discussion, will this conversation move you closer to what you want?

If not, then the quality of the questions you are asking yourself may be the first place you want to change.

What if you could change your life just by changing the questions that you ask yourself? Yes you can, you were meant to, and you can start training yourself to ask better questions.

The moment you wake up tomorrow morning, and before you begin thinking about your day, ask yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

This question will give you an idea of whether major changes are needed, or perhaps just a tweak here or there will do the trick.

 

"Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." --- Anthony Robbins

Half of your problem-solving power should always be devoted to clearly and accurately defining the problem. An accurate diagnosis is half the cure.

When you know exactly what the problem is, you are already that much closer to implementing a feasible solution.

 

Without knowing the exact nature of the problem, you will not very well-equipped to solve it, no matter what the situation. 

For instance, if you were unsure why a friend was upset with you, and never took the time to understand why, then how easily could you solve the problem?

 

Probably not very well. Luckily the ego will usually rectify this problem, so you don't have to worry about it, through its usual avenues such as justification, blame, denial, anger, etc... 

Some people would write-off the friends behavior as too weird or rude to be bothered with, some people even perhaps would ignore their friend until they "disclosed" the problem.

 

The problem with going this route is that by the time you two actually sit down and talk, there will be an emotional dam between you both that feels like it is about to burst.

Then, the best question from this lowered mind-frame and highly emotional vibrational state, would likely be: "What is your problem anyway!?" 

However, this question often doesn't solve the problem, in fact, it usually makes the situation much worst.

 

The real issue of why your friend is upset needs to be answered from a different level of thinking then what created the problem.

 

The real question is not what their problem is but, rather "How can you solve it?".

Which approach do you personally think would be more effective for you, or if it was used on you? Of course, knowing the problem is half the battle.

Therefore, you can immediately increase your personal effectiveness through the use of critical thinking questions. 

A good question will clearly define the problem, uncover any false assumptions, and help your mind focus on a solution.

When it comes to problem-solving, it is not the problem itself, but your perception of the problem that will make the most impact towards a solution.

 

For example, asking quality questions such as "What do I already know about this person/topic?", or "How have I solved problems like this before?" will help you tap into your existing experiences in order to better brainstorm solutions.

 

You must always focus on how you can be more personally effective, the moment you let up your lower-priority activities will start to consume all of your time, keeping you busy and burned out.

 

The key to personal effectiveness is the quality of questions that you ask yourself. You can take stock on the quality of your current level of questions by asking yourself:

"What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?" 

 

THE SECRET 

The power and affect that quality questions can have on your life is unquestionable. 

First, by thinking about quality questions you become more aware of the (normally unnoticed) conversations that you have with yourself.

 

This awareness will help you observe whether your self-talk is effective towards your goals or not. Are you treating yourself as an unconditional nurturing coach, or a conditional constant critic?

This will help you start to develop a less-biased opinion about whether your actions and self-talk are reinforcing your success, or in fact negating it.

Quality questions will also help you improve the quality of your inner self-talk, the conversations and commentary you have inside your head.  

  

When you master the anatomy of a quality question you become free to explore the future freely, and also where your past choices have taken you. 

When you are free to explore your self and experiences, you will now start to develop your natural navigation system, use this to hone in on your dreams.

  

The more valuable questions you ask, the more each quality answer will bring out the capable and confident person inside of you.

The goal of any quality question is to build a framework for success inside your brain, a process to use yesterday's and today's experiences in a positive way tomorrow.

With quality questions you can find a way to win, or at least walk away with one lesson to apply in the future, regardless of whether the experience was good, bad, or ugly.

Asking yourself quality questions is about finding better questions to bring about a better experience for all those involved.

Here is an off-the-cuff example. Imagine for a moment that you have this annoying habit that you want to break, i.e. you tend to talk too much when you are nervous.

You've determined that this isn't working for you and you want to change it, the first question you might ask yourself is: "Why do I over-talk when I am nervous?"

Again, all you need to do is ask your subconscious a good quality question, and then patiently sit back and allow for an answer.

 

Perhaps you will discover that you tend to talk more when you are nervous, because you feel uncomfortable with silence.

What happens when you are not sure what to do with an answer you receive? In this case, all you have to do is ask your subconscious another question.

Continuing with the example, you know that it's feeling uncomfortable with silence that is the problem, now you can ask your subconscious why.

The question you might want to ask now is, "Why am I uncomfortable with silence?" and then allow you sub-conscious to answer.

Maybe the 'reason' that returns to you is that you are uncomfortable with silence because you have low self-esteem.

What could you do at this point? Well you could continue to ask another question, i.e. "why you have self-esteem", and continue to go down the path of your problems.

However, consider now how much more empowering it would be to transport yourself into the realm of solutions?

How about instead of asking "why do I have this problem", you shift your questioning to "what can I do about it"?

In our over-talking example, how about switching from why you are uncomfortable with silence, to "what can I do to not be so uncomfortable with silence?"

Or, instead you could ask yourself, "In what ways can I communicate more confidently and concisely?"

Now you have shifted the emphasis off of diagnosing the problem, and switched on to finding a solution for the cure.

This works better because now you don't even need to solve your low-self esteem, because if when you find a way to be a more powerful and confident speaker, your self-esteem will have to match right?

Can you see how this little shift in thinking can make a huge difference. If not, go back and read it again until you get it!

By asking your subconscious questions you can begin to tap into your true power.

Stuck in a situation right now and still not sure where to start?

How about asking yourself a quality question such as: "What does success look like for me?", or "How can I turn my current situation around to best suit me?", or "What question have I not asked myself, but if I did, would lead to the greatest increase in the quality of my life?"

The better questions you ask yourself, the better answers you get, the better results occur, and better quality of life you will live.

Ultimately, quality questions add balance to your way of thinking, nurture your way of doing, and help to discover the consciousness behind being.

You can get a start to discover the power of your questions by asking yourself: "What is the value of the questions that I ask myself?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

 

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you get out of your own way in order to open up the floodgates and let your wildest dreams rush in.

 

THE CHALLENGE

 

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How can I be more allowing?"

 

THE PROMISE

 

Ask yourself this question whenever you meet resistance in your life and it will help reduce your discomfort and attract more success.

 

 

THE TIPS

Most people are familiar with the Law of Attraction made famous by "The Secret", but did you know there is also a Law of "Allowing"?

Don't worry, you are not alone, if you haven't heard of this important universal law.

Yet, those who have heard of it, and applied it into their lives, are happier, more fulfilled and seem to instantly attract whatever they desire into their lives.

Would you like to know how to tap in to the law of allowing in order to bring better results more quickly and easily into your life?

If happiness, joy and abundance is what you really want, then you need to take a moment and consider the question "how allowing am I right now?"

Do you allow others to be who they are? Do you fight against their beliefs? Do you think that if one person gets their way, that you can't get yours? 

How often are you in opposition to the situation? In what ways to you "resist" the people, places and things in your day?

Look at any areas of resistance in your life as prime indicators of areas that are in need of more allowing.

Whenever there is resistance in your life, there will also be accompanying negative emotions.

Resistance is like putting on the emergency or parking brake while trying to drive. Sure you can still drive with it on, but the performance of the vehicle is greatly diminished.

The problem is that many of us fear what we truly want, which is why we put on the brakes to begin with.

We ask, pray, and intend for our desires to be manifested and right before they are, we say "whoa wait-a-minute", "hold-on", "stop".

We think, who am I too have this? Why do I deserve this? Am I even worthy enough? 

Meanwhile, the universe is trying to give you whatever you want, but you are stating to it through your actions that you are unsure if you want it.

Then, when you finally decide that you want something, you decide that you want it yesterday!

However, no matter how skilled or resourceful you are there is always a time lag between the original conception and the manifestation or achievement of the goal. 

Then when it doesn't show up today, you begin to doubt and question whether or not you can even attract it.

A vibrational state like this places counter-thought, and counter-intention, into whatever your trying to attract and acts like a parking brake to your pleasure.

No matter how much you work, and work, you will still not succeed, because the effectiveness of your action is dependent upon your state of being.

This is important to understand, because the more time you put into being against anything, the less time you have to spend bringing positive things into your life!

The creative process takes time! Allowing what is wanted, essentially keeps your attention on the wanted thing, and off of the fact that you don't have it yet. 

Imagine if you could find a way to take your foot off the brake and live life full throttle?

Understanding the law of allowing is easier than you think, but it is the practice of what you know where the challenge lies.

The most important thing to remember is that whatever you focus on will expand into more of it.

If you spend your time, energy and attention focusing on the "resistance" the "disagreement" with whatever is, you are creating a vibrational state to bring you more of the same.

Therefore it is of the utmost importance during the process of manifestation that no matter what happens you remain committed to focusing your energies on that which you intend.

This keeps your vibrational signal oriented in the right direction, and allows you to rendezvous with the people and resources that match up with you.

By not resisting the wanted thing you allow the law of 'like attracts like' to work in your favour.

The law of attraction is able to work more effectively when you don't resist the wanted thing and allow the process to take place, whatever it is.

Do you truly want whatever you want... or are you more concerned about the process in which in manifests?

If you don't care how it comes, only that it eventually comes, then allow your thoughts and feelings about the process to relax. 

By relaxing into your creative process you strengthen your intention and become a more powerful attracting magnet for the things you want, and a more effective co-creator.

For example if you want to be more wealthy and you thought it was going to happen via the lottery, and you ended up getting a promotion would you be upset?

Think about this story and how it parallels in your life. What in your life do you say that you want more of, but are too 'attached' to the details of how it happens?

If you truly desire whatever that is then you will want to spend your time and effort on allowing more.

Even after you bravely recognize the need to become more allowing, you still may get lost in the contemplation of exactly how to do that.

One of the easiest ways to learn is to simply ask yourself the question: "How can I be more allowing?" 

THE SECRET

The art of allowing means you believe it is possible to have challenges, yet at the very same time be absolutely in love with life and excited about the world.

In what areas of your life can you become more allowing?

Can you become more allowing in the relationships you have with your friends, family, co-workers, or even your ex's?

More importantly, it what ways can you be more allowing with the most important relationship of all, the one with your SELF?

Are you your own best friend? How often do you practice allowing yourself to fail, learn and grow without judgment?

Based on the way you have treated yourself for the past week, would you be your own best friend?

If you and your best friend were working together on a project together, would you want them there to support you, or hinder your progress?

The choice is an easy one, of course you would want them in your corner to support you.

The question is then, "Are you offering the best support to yourself as your own best friend?"

Every day that you wake up you are responsible for being a partner in the biggest and most important project of all, your life.

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you criticize or complain about something?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you doubt the creative process?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you constantly notice what is missing in your life?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you question why you don't have it yet?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you spend time blaming or judging people, including yourself?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you carry around all your failures and mistakes from the past?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you feel low energy and negative about something?

Are you offering the best support to yourself when you offer resistance to whatever shows up in the moment?

These are only 8 of the many ways that you can check-in with your self. 

Use them to determine how aligned your thoughts and actions are with your intention.

Is it possible that you need to learn how to be more allowing, accepting and/or forgiving?

Are your thoughts, feelings, and actions in vibrational harmony with what you seek to attract?

If you seek to support your self then it is vital to maintain a pure creative vibration aligned precisely to your desire.  

The law of allowing works hand-in-hand with the law of attraction, meaning whatever you place your attention on you get more of. 

As mentioned earlier, if you focus on something positive, something that you are passionate about, related opportunities come to you. 

When your thoughts, your focus and your intent are exclusively on what is wanted, you feel relaxed, joyful and lighthearted about the goal.

Paradoxically, the more joyful you are, the less hard you have to work, and the more powerful and effective are your actions.

In short, allowing is the aligning of your vibration with that of your desire. 

A great question to ask yourself to be more in the moment and go more with the flow is:

"How can I be more allowing?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more purpose.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What do I want to change in the world?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question everyday until you find an answer, and then ask it everyday after that to make sure you stay the course.


THE TIPS

Everywhere in this world there is change.

We exist in a world where change is the only thing that is constant.


So if change is the only constant, then ask yourself, is it a good idea for you to have a constant approach to life?

Said differently, does it make any sense to try and stay the same in a world that is forever changing?

Of course not, yet isn't that exactly what we do when we spend all our time and attention thinking, feeling, and doing things the same way?

We call the preference to view life from the perspective of the mind our "identity".

Our identity is a collection of attitudes, biases and beliefs systems that we construct our view of the world with.

Some peoples identity is compatible with their reality, while the majority of other people's paradigms hold them hostage.

The desire to maintain our identity can keep us from fully embracing change.

However when it comes to accepting, handling, and dealing with change, including our ability to change our identity, Henry Ford had the best answer when he said...

"Whether you think that you can, or think that you cannot, either way you are right".

Is your current view of reality getting the job done?

Are you happy with the world that you live in?

If you are not happy, a great question to ask yourself is "What do I want to change in the world?"

Humans have all been given unique problem-solving powers beyond any other biological being on Earth and yet still we complain.

Out of all the unnecessary things in this world, nothing is more annoying than a person who continually grieves and grumbles about their problems.

Why? Because we have been given a mouth to vocalize opportunity, eyes to seek out solutions, and a body to bring us forward into action.

Our ability to reason, analyze, interpret, intuit and imagine are unprecedented and unparalleled in the animal kingdom.

These gifts have been bestowed upon every one of us living on this planet and far too often these go unnoticed and unused.

Everyday we have a choice, to either become part of the problem, or choose (even by default) to become part of the solution.

Not many people are prepared to do what they need to do today, in order to make a better tomorrow possible for them self.

In order to be the change you are meant to be in the world you need to follow your passion, find your power and live your purpose.

"You must be the change you seek in the world." --- Mahatma Gandhi

Now is the time to speak your truth, create your community and be good to each other.

Do not look outside yourself for your leader, become a mentor to your self and to others, lead by example.

As U.S. President Barack Obama suggested during one of his inspirational presidential candidate speeches, "we must become the difference that this world needs."

The Ancient Hopi Prophecy tells us that "We are the ones we've been waiting for."

There are many opportunities to get involved in your area, community, country or even continent.

One possible way to get started is by visiting http://www.change.org/ where there they ask the question "What do you want to change in the world?"


THE SECRET

Change does not happen by itself. You cannot change the world without first changing yourself.

We are all connected and no person can exist independently as an island unto themselves.

Yet for some reason we tend to think we are alone, isolated, and independent from the need of others.

But if you become sick, get hurt, or have an accident, don't you need some one else to take care of you?

A lot of people have grand intentions to save the world who cannot even save them self.

If you want to change the world you must change the view of your self.

The ancients taught us that "In order to heal others you must first be healed yourself, that "Healing Yourself IS Healing others".

Incidentally like all good things in life, this must be practiced to completion in order to understand it.

When you have completed healing yourself there will no longer be a world in need of healing rather a world of absolute perfection.

Free to live your life without fear, guilt, regret, or shame. Now you can reconnect with the purpose of why you are here in the first place.

Each one of us was born for a reason, whether that is to be an answer to a question, or a solution to a problem.

The next time you are alone ask your heart the question: "What do I want to change in the world?" and see what comes up for you.

Have you recently stopped to reconsider Where you are living, How you are living, Why you are living and What you are doing with your life?

What could you begin to change today that would result in the largest improvement to the quality of your life and/or those surrounding you?

Changes can happen on many different levels such as in social institutions, in the social behaviour or the social relations of a society, community of people, and so on.

When behaviour pattern changes, in large numbers and is visible and sustained it results in what is referred to as social change.

Among many forms of creating social change are theater for social change, direct action, protesting, advocacy, community organizing, community practice, revolution, and political activism.

What would you change if you knew you could make a difference?

Would you change the way people eat, work, play, think, feel, act, laugh, live, love?

You might wonder if you, your friends or a small group of people can possibly make a difference in such a large and complicated world.

"Never underestimate the power of a small group of committed citizens to change the world. Indeed, it has never been done otherwise." - Margaret Mead

You have the power within you to be the difference that makes the difference.

Even though you may not be aware of it, at any given point in time you may literally be the proverbial "straw that breaks the camels back", or the deciding factor.

An example of such simple things that can make a difference are: a smile, a warm hug, a candy, a toy, a note, a poem, a tune, an encouragement, a meal, gift, or gesture.

It is these small and seemingly unimportant things that add up to make significant changes in the overall outlook of the people surrounding us.

This is important because a significant deviance from culturally inherited values may result in a rebellion against the established system.

Isn't it amazing to think that your efforts could ultimately lead to the change in society that we have been looking for?

If you choose to, you can, and do, make a difference.

Once you decide to make that choice the next question to ask yourself is: "What do I want to change in the world?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you use your imagination the way it was intended to be used.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Is this the best use of my imagination?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as soon as possible and you will become better able to harness the true power of your imagination.


THE TIPS

Did you know that your Imagination is the most powerful thing you possess?

Here are just a few of the reasons why it's so important...

For one thing your imagination controls your perception.

It's called your 'minds-eye', and if you don't see something in it first, you will not be able to see it in "real life".

This is why for humans seeing is believing, and we only see what we believe.

Your imagination is literally creating the world you live in based on a set of programming instructions that you call reality.

Another reason your imagination is key is because it influences your emotions.

Your imagination stores the pictures, symbols and images of the memories that trigger all of your emotions.

Without these being perceived in your minds-eye, nothing would cause a emotional reaction or generate feelings.

In case you haven't heard the news or stopped to think about it yourself, we are all motivated by emotions.

This is powerful because 99.99% of the time we do what we feel right?

Ask yourself now.. "what determines your emotions?"

Because if you are serious about changing your actions then you must first learn how to change the emotions that are driving your behavior.

If you look at whatever makes you sad, miserable or upset, you will uncover that your imagination (perspective) is what pulls you down.

Contrarily, whenever you have accomplished something that makes you happy, you will discover that your imagination also lead you there.

Therefore in order to take control of your emotions you need to take control of your imagination.

What we do over time is what creates our results, and why we do what we do is based on our reality.

Both your results and reality are governed by your imagination, which means you have the power to change either of them at any time!

When you come to understand the power of that statement, you will also fully realize the eloquence of Albert Einstein when he said:

"Imagination is everything, it is more important than knowledge".

Have you ever stopped to consider that right now you are either using your imagination for better or worse?

Now that you know the importance of your imagination the best question to ask yourself is: "Is this the best use of my imagination?"


THE SECRET

Are you are stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated, hopeless, complacent, or bored with life?

Could the only reason you are not getting everything you deserve possibly be you?

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.” -- Oscar Wilde

You first dream and envision your happiest future with your imagination.

You then use your imagination to motivate you through the tough times until you succeed.

You set your target on your next goal and seek out the next opportunity with your imagination.

This is the never-ending cycle of creation. This is the expression of your true self, the journey of your soul.

If somehow, somewhere you mixed up along the path then a powerful question to ask yourself is: "Is this the best use of my imagination?"

What is one good way to use your imagination you might ask?

How about beginning by using it to imagine all the things that you want in life.

Not the superficial things that don't bring you any joy, only the type of things that tug on your heart strings.

Start imagining these things in your minds-eye more often, picturing what it would be like to have them right now.

If you are serious and actually want to start manifesting this reality then you better start feeling it with your heart while you do it as well.

Keep picturing your greatest joy, being thankful and patient about the process.

The very worst that will happen is that you spend a lot of time feeling the joy and appreciation.

Nothing sends that something faster into your hands than the feeling of gratitude.

The favorite thing for God or the Universe to do is to fulfill our fantasies and wishes.

We get what we believe we deserve, which is why it should go without saying, it is important to be careful what you ask for.

Ingrid Bergman knew this in 13 simple words, "Success is getting what you want and Happiness is wanting what you get."

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you stop worrying and start living.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What should I stop doing?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question at least once a day and you will reduce stress and get more done.


THE TIPS

At the end of your evening tonight, or first thing tomorrow morning, ask yourself the question:

"What should I stop doing?"

If you want to get more done it may seem a bit counterproductive to ask yourself this question, but stopping is actually an important part of the process of change.

Everything in our lives is like a door that can open new possibilities for us.

In order to fully move into any new part of life, or create a new reality for our self we must first close the door behind us that holds our old identity.

This is because in order to start one thing one must first stop doing something else, even if that something else was nothing.

For example, in order to be reading these words right now you are giving up the opportunity to do nothing.

You are also simultaneously giving up an opportunity to do something else like read a cartwheel if you were so inclined.

Some people refer to this as an 'opportunity cost', or what you have to give up when you commit to do something else.

Everything has an opportunity cost, the relationships we are in cost us other potential mates, our jobs cost us other opportunities to work somewhere else.

Subconsciously and consciously we are constantly trying to choose the best opportunities to take advantage of.

We decide what is most important in our lives by rewarding it with our time and attention.

Here is where the majority of us make a major error in judgment.

We mistakenly give up the opportunity to do what we "want/desire to do" in place of what we feel we "have to do".

Are you guilty of settling for less than you deserve in an aspect of your life? Chances are you have.

Answer 'yes' or 'no' to the following questions to see if you are spending your time wisely.

- Do you currently believe that "you have to do something", but realize that the something is draining your energy?

- Do you feel trapped by doing things the old way, pressured to perform a certain way, or have obligations that stress you out?

- Are you in a role you are no longer committed to, stuck in an unrewarding relationship, or working a jobs that is not fulfilling?

- Do you seem to find yourself "going through the motions" day in and day out?

If you have answered yes to any of the above questions then it might be time that you take something off your plate.

A great way to start the process of becoming more aware is in the consideration of the question:

"What should I stop doing?"


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "What should I stop doing?" is a great way to empower and enrich your current efforts.

Human nature is that we all want to get more done with as little time, money and energy as possible.

In life this is called 'Return on Energy' and in business it's called 'Return on Capital Expended'.

Whatever you call it at the end of the day the bottom line is that we all want to return more than we have to put out.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be more effective and efficient in whatever you do.

After all, who willingly wants to waste their time, take longer than needed, or spend more money than necessary?

Absolutely no one. It's safe to say that 100% of the population would never consciously choose to do any of the above.

Yet how is it that most of us end up overwhelmed, frustrated or broke? What happened?

Were we that off base and delusional that we missed all signs of disaster?

Have you ever heard the old saying "It was the straw that broke the camels back?"

Its an old adage symbolizing a story upon which a camels back gets broken, seemingly all because of a single piece of straw.

Of course, we know it was the accumulation of straw over time that created those dire circumstances.

The same thing happens to us when we pile too many projects on the plate, the system is bound to breakdown.

Our when we take on projects, relationships, goals and jobs that are meaningless.

A part of the problem is that we say 'yes' to way too many things that we could be politely saying 'no thanks' too.

It doesn't help when we fail to see the pattern behind the mistakes that we repeatedly make.

If you are continually failing at something and not feeling motivated to move forward this is a sign to check your commitment.

Perhaps you are no longer interested in investing your time and energy into this, only you can tell. Be honest with yourself.

Every goal to be better, to reach higher, to obtain a new income level will require a new level of you.

You decide what experiences and memories you will fuse into the you that exists right this moment, and which aspects of your life to leave behind.

There is not enough time in our lifetime to spend it doing things that act in direct detriment to the loved ones in our lives.

Therefore it is a good practice to put only the things we truly value and the things we are really passionate about 'on our plate'.

Find areas where you feel over-stressed and discover roles where you are not 100% comfortable or committed.

Take time to record your roles and responsibilities every day. Be thorough and don't leave anything out.

Resolve to become more confident and committed to the roles you decide to keep.

Eliminate whatever roles that you can, and delegate whatever roles that you cannot eliminate.

Delegate and eliminate all the areas in your life that do not bring a good return on your capital, time or energy.

In a case where you have been attached to doing things a particular way for a long time, you may not be able to escape this separation pain free.

Unfortunately, sometimes when you finally decide to take your medicine you may have to amputate your foot in order to save your leg.

The best way to avoid a terrible situation like this is to ask yourself right now "What should I stop doing?" and then immediately begin to cut it out of your life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will alter the world you see and how you see it.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"What new thing did I notice today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and it will help you find new possibilities and potentials.


THE TIPS

Before you close your eyes tonight ask yourself the question: "What new thing did I notice today?" and see what kind of answer you come up with.

Noticing something new is the first step in learning something new, which is a prerequisite for growing.

Everyday you are given the choice to either learn and grow or else recede and die. What do you want to do?

If you want to grow then it is important to stretch yourself and step outside your comfort zone as often as possible.

A good way to measure the growth on a daily basis is by asking yourself "What new thing did I notice today?" and recording your answer.

Everyday there is something new to learn, and sometimes even someone new to learn it from.

The world is constantly providing you new teachers to learn from and grow if you are open for it.

The problem is that far too many people are plagued with closed minds that don't allow them to grow.

You can recognize a person who is afraid to grow by the way they talk about new things.

They will use phrases like "I know that/this/them" and "I already heard about that/this/them" no matter what the subject.

People like this act as though they have discovered everything there is on Earth and know everything about it.

The truth is that these people are attached to a belief-system that equates their knowledge with their worthiness.

They are afraid of looking dumb if they don't know what you are talking about, so they overcompensate by pretending to know-it-all.

Since no one can ever know-it-all their efforts are usually always in vain and they end up looking foolish.

Amazingly, the irony is that looking foolish is the exact thing that these people wanted to avoid in the first place.

You can avoid feeling stupid for being ignorant by excusing yourself as an adventurer who is learning as they go.

Everyday you are journeying further on your adventure, learning things you didn't know before and growing in ways you never thought you could.

When you come across something that you don't know, make it a point to learn it and don't be afraid to ask questions to strengthen your understanding.

There are no stupid questions except for the ones inside your had that you don't ask.

Commit to becoming an adventurer today, and start discovering the world all over again.

Abandon ideas that aren't working for you and find out new ways of doing the same thing.

Make it a point to uncover as many new things you can discover about an old friend.

Fall in love with your spouse, or your loved one all over again and notice what qualities made you fall in love with them in the first place.

Noticing something new in your life can change your world literally.

A great question to keep track of your observations is by asking "What new thing did I notice today?"


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "What new thing did I notice today?" is a great way to notice change.

Noticing something change is important, because it is the visual representation of growth.

If you noticed something new existing without, it can only be due to the growth that took place within.

Growth on the exterior, or outer world is always a reflection of the growth that has taken place inside.

These shifts of growth inside are represented by changes in our attitudes, preferences and perceptions.

Here is an example that you can probably related to:

You pick up a new car, get a new dress, or buy a new cell phone and the moment you got it you started noticing everyone else who had one like yours.

All of a sudden, you see your purchase everywhere you go but can't recall seeing it around even a day before you bought it.

The growth that took place was in a part of the brain called the Reticular Activating Cortex, sometimes referred to as the Reticular Activating System (RAS for short).

Whenever you notice something new, it is because of this part of your brain that acts like an operator switch board for your perception.

Your RAS acts like your personal secretary, a gatekeeper that decides what goes "in" to your awareness and what stays "out".

Before you had your new car your RAS didn't know it was important to you, but now since you have one, your RAS is trained to point out more of what you are looking for.

It searches for more of the people, situations and circumstances that you desire and filters out what it feels is unnecessary.

Your RAS works subconsciously in the background by tirelessly filtering your experience based only on what you programed, it will never let in anything you didn't ask for.

This is important enough to state again, your RAS never lets in anything that you don't ask for.

If you want more happiness, joy, prosperity, friendships, peace, love in your life then you first ask for what you want.

Attracting something new in your life is as easy as imagining it was already there.

Your job is to tell your RAS that these things are important to you and that you want to see more of them in your life.

The way to program your RAS to show you more of what you want in the future is by consciously intending for more of it now.

Your consciousness is the program writer for your RAS, it does this through a number of things including the way you feel and act, and the self-talk that you have with yourself.

For example you can program your RAS by feeling as though you had it, acting as though it was already yours, and talking to yourself as if your desire is now a part of your life.

As the world begins to respond to your desires your next immediate goal is to become aware of the signs and evidence of possibilities and potentials manifesting.

A great question to train your RAS to search for new things is to ask yourself "What new thing did I notice today?".

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you ensure you are using your imagination the way it is supposed to be used.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"How will I use my imagination today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question for awareness into the way that you use your imagination.


THE TIPS

When you wake up tomorrow ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

The moment you begin to ponder an answer to that question you will begin using your imagination.

Each answer that you "think" of is visualized as a picture or symbol inside of your mind's eye.

These pictures and symbols trigger other pictures and symbols because they are linked together by "emotional association".

This means that when you think of the picture or symbol you also simultaneously experience emotion.

The combined union of thought and emotion produce what is known as our feelings.

The feelings that we have either enable or dis-enable (disable) our success.

This is because the way that we feel determines the way in which we experience the moment.

When we feel a low-energy, non-confident, confused emotional state we hold ourselves back, reserve our energy and tend to withdraw from life.

When we feel a high-energy, confident and enthusiastic emotional state we will always give more of ourselves, succeed easier and be more connected to life.

This is why it is so important to choose to only empower emotions that enable you to experience the moment as "authentic" as possible.

We experience life authentically when we are fully in the moment without judgment or reservation.

Feeling authentic means feeling purposeful, passionate and playful.

We all live to experience more of these moments in life, so why does it appear to be so difficult?

Because we are confused about what we can control and what we cannot.

We spend to much energy trying to control the things we can't, for example other people or foreign countries.

While we fail to try to control the things that we can, for example our attitude, belief system, and most importantly our imagination.

Imagination is the starting point of success, if you don't understand how this occurs you need to re-read this from the beginning.

When you actually understand how important your imagination is, you will ask yourself "How will I use my imagination today?" everyday.


THE SECRET

Take time and ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

Each one of us was born with an imagination despite the popular belief that people think they are not creative.

Even though the way that each on of us uses our imagination is different, we all have been using our imagination every single day.

However, despite the diversity in ways that we use our imagination, the standard measurement boils down to two things:

We either use our imagination to enable (empower) our lives, or we use our imagination to disable (dis-empower) our lives.

We imagine by associating certain pictures and symbols together and grouping them together based on the way they make us feel.

For example, when you think of the word "Love" you probably picture the word first in your minds-eye.

After picturing the word you then associate that word with a memory, in this case of something that you love.

This picture of what we love then has an emotion associated with that picture.

This emotion embodies the feeling that is associated with the word love.

Providing that we do not have any negative associations such as the experience of heartbreak, before we know it we are fondly reminiscing over memories of a loved one.

Each time we think of the word love this emotional association triggers the memory of the experience almost as if we were experiencing it for the first time.

You only have to picture a loved one in your mind and have the feelings of "butterflies" in your stomach to confirm this happens.

What is amazing is that this process happens in the blink of an eye and we can repeat it over and over again.

Imagine how great you would feel if you took time every day to only think about joyful, passionate, loving experiences you've had?

Recalling cherished memories and re-living positive experiences are just a couple ways that we can benefit from our imagination.

Unfortunately, the same process of re-living the experience occurs for all other emotions including negative ones.

For example, have you ever found yourself in a bad mood just because you pictured someone who makes you mad?

You don't even have to be in the same room as that person before your blood starts to boil right?

Good, bad or indifferent your imagination acts like a switch board, whose job is to summon experiences that support the picture we hold in our mind.

Therefore, your only job in each moment is to consciously create the type of experiences and emotions that will be worthy of re-living in the future.

If you only picture great things coming into your world and learn to see them as great when they appear, then you will create future memories that will be fondly remembered.

You will either use your imagination to empower the creation of positive new experiences or not, the choice is entirely yours.

When you wake up tomorrow ask yourself the question "How will I use my imagination today?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more peace and love in your life.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:
"Am I a lover or a fighter?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question and you will become more conscious of how you radiate emotion and energy in your environment.


THE TIPS

If you are looking to find more love in your life, a great question to ask yourself is... "Am I a lover or a fighter?"

Re-stated a bit differently, the question could be asked as, "How do I contribute to this world, through cooperation, or coercion with others?"

Do you add joy in the world, or do you contribute to the anguish?

Does your heart pump stronger than your fist?

Do you make the people around you feel idolized or intimidated?

If the former is the case versus the latter, then indeed you may be a lover.

Why is being a lover important?

First of all, being "a lover not a fighter" is not just a good idea referenced in the lyrics of a Micheal Jackson song.

Here's why... Each and every moment of our lives, every single one of us are faced with a question.

Although this is a single question, the outcome that results from how this question is answered is as varied as the individuals answering it.

Everything that you see in the world, the love, the war, and the indifference, was created out of people answering this single question.

The one question that we continually are challenged with is whether to create out of fear, or to create out of love.

When people create, do and act out of love, the power of their passion reflects the bliss and beauty of life.

If you ever watched Tiger Woods play golf or listened to Pavarotti sing opera you would see a demonstration of this.

Other examples of the transcendental quality of beauty of nature when created out of love are expressed through classical art, music and poetry.

You are instantly connected when you come in contact with energy that has been molded from the fabric of love.

To feel love, or as some refer to it as, to feel God, satisfies our innate desire to experience everything in this world that is wonderful and great.

Therefore to feel "good", which basically just adds an extra "o" to the word God, also refers to seeking this connection to supreme source.

Feeling good, feeling God and feeling love should be the answer that you choose to express at all times.

The way to remember where the focus your creations resides is by asking yourself the question "Am I a lover or a fighter?".


THE SECRET

Human beings are energetic entities, which means that we are all made of energy and we require energy to survive.

You probably learned, if you remember way back that in school, that energy cannot be created nor destroyed.

However, what you probably weren't taught is that not all energy was created equal to begin with.

Some energy appreciates and supports our lives, while other forms of energy deplete and depreciate our lives.

Many people inadvertently feed on energy that depreciates their lives because they don't know any better.

For example, if you constantly watch the news, participate in rumours or gossip, or spread negative stories.

The energy that it takes to maintain those acts above should give you an indication of whether the energy is good for you.

It is important to pick good sources of energy because there is no getting around the fact that we need it.

Human beings are complex energy systems that require different types in order to function and feel good.

For example, we require food in the form of carbohydrates to fuel our physical self. If you don't eat in 3 weeks you'll die.

We require energy in the form of sleep and oxygen to regulate and maintain the mental aspects of our self, for things such as analysis and calculation.

The energy that our emotional self feeds on comes in the form of feelings, and the feeling that trumps them all is love.

Love is an emotion that makes the giver, the receiver, and even the observer, feel more powerful as a result of its expression.

Being able to express love and feel powerful is important to everyone because of one very special reason.

People inevitably tend to go where there emotions (feelings) take them, and not necessarily in the direction of their dreams.

Therefore, to get better results in life what we need to continually practice learning is how to experience more love.

By developing a loving relationship with your emotions you will develop your intuition and feel like you are able to follow your dreams.

The decision to act from love is so powerful that it can manifest instant change and bring about expressions like peace, harmony, and joy.

Just imagine how the world would be if everybody loved what they did for a living and felt blessed to be able to do it?

How much better would the world be if people did things because they loved to, and not just because they had to?

A world like this is not too far from the reality that we live in now, in fact it is only as far away as your imagination puts it.

To start living with more love, begin by imagining yourself putting more love into your day, your actions, and your daily interactions.

Check-in with your intentions by asking yourself the question "Am I a lover or a fighter?"

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live with more purpose and integrity.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Do my highest values still serve me?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many opportunities as possible and you will become more valuable, to both yourself and others.


THE TIPS

Tomorrow morning first thing before you get out of bed ask yourself the question: "Do my highest values still serve me?"

Take a few minutes to ponder the question and the answer before your feet touch the ground.

What you are trying to determine is whether or not the values that you hold most dearly support the lifestyle that you most want to live.

To determine whether or not your highest values serve you, you must first figure out what your highest values are.

In order to figure out what your highest values are, you must first determine how you personally define value.

For the purpose of this mindset a value is a system or set of consistent beliefs and measures.

Values are considered subjective, vary across people and cultures and are in many ways aligned with belief and belief systems.

Types of values include ethical/moral values, doctrinal/ideological (political, religious) values, social values, and aesthetic values.

We derive many of our personal values from situations with the external world and these are known to evolve over time.

What you do with your time, how you spend it and who you spend it are but reflections of your values and these values tend to change as we get older.

Ask yourself the question: "Do my highest values still serve me?" to start the process of taking a personal inventory on the values you have accumulated.

For example, if one of your highest values is to be organized, is this reflected in how you live your life? Does being organized serve your life.

If the value supports or serves your life, evidence of this beneficial relationship will be clearly visible.

In the above example, you should be easily able to recognize how the value of being organized has resulted in more peace of mind and less stress in your life.

Since you like feeling less stressed and having more confidence and peace of mind in your life, being organized is a value that serves that need.

Therefore, you would be able to state with confidence and conviction that organization is a value that effectively serves your life.

The point of the exercise is to uncover any unsupportive values that you have adopted over the years that no longer supports the lifestyle you want to live.

Ensure that any values that have been derived from particular groups or systems, such as culture, religion, and political party are still in line with your highest aspirations.

Asking yourself "Do my highest values still serve me?" is the first step to successfully evaluating your values.


THE SECRET

Most of our values and belief systems are determined between the ages of 7 to 11 years old.

As a result, personal values developed early in life may be more resistant to change.

Personal values are influenced by one's family, nation, generation and historical environment.

Personal values are subjective and not universal; always neutral, and are never inherently good or bad.

This is to say that to value peace is not more noble, effective or favorable than the value of making money.

It is our associations with making money and with peace that determine the good or bad feeling of our actions.

This is not to say that the value concepts themselves are not universal, merely that each individual possess a unique conception of them i.e. a personal knowledge of the appropriate values for their own genes, feelings and experience.

Another way to look at whether your values are contributing to the lifestyle that you truly want to live is to switch around the question.

Instead of asking whether or not your highest values still serve your lifestyle, ask yourself whether or not you still serve your highest values.

The question to sit down and honestly ask yourself is: "Do I still serve my highest values?"

"Do you still happily serve the values that best support your life?"

The best way to tell the truth and get an objective opinion is through your actions.

Do your actions indicated that you live in principle with your highest values?

A "principle" is often referred to as a primary source, a rule or code of conduct.

A principle value is a foundation upon which other values and measures of integrity are based.

Therefore to become a person of principle, is to become a person of their word, a person of integrity.

Do your past actions indicate that you live in integrity by the values that you have identified earlier?

Are you willing to act on a daily basis by the values that you hold highest?

In the organization example, are you living by the value of being organized? Is this value reflected in your daily actions?

In the example of being organized... Do you have a place for everything? Can you find everything in its place?

If evidence of these actions are not present, then perhaps you are not serving your values, in this case organization.

Do not become alarmed when you uncover values that no longer serve you or actions that no longer serve your values.

Celebrate the new found information for the gift that it is. The gift is awareness.

Awareness is the first step of change. In order to change one must first become aware of the need to.

When you discover that you are no longer living by your values then awareness become the first step in correcting it.

When you discover that your values are no longer serving your life you can then find new ones that do.

If you are not already acting on your values then the question "Do I still serve my highest values" will help you uncover the gaps and contradictions in your thinking.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you live guilt and regret free.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"


THE PROMISE

Ask this question at every minor and major case you find yourself offended and you will be able to better respond to those situations in the future.


THE TIPS

The next time something or someone rubs you the wrong way, and before you give it too much of your energy and attention, stop and ask yourself:

"Will being offended solve my problem?"

The universal answer to that question is... Never!

Ask yourself "How many times has being offended solved anything in my life?"

And the universal answer to that question is still... Never!

Yet being offended, passing judgement and criticizing situations is something that we all do, many of us on a daily basis.

Being offended does nothing to satisfy the situation, and it certainly doesn't benefit the person or thing that offended you.

It is good to detach yourself from these situations because many times the offender doesn't even know they committed the crime.

Asking "Will being offended solve my problem?" is the first step in effective problem solving.

Instead of focusing on the reasons to be offended, or justifying your revenge, take a look at what is really bothering you here.

Becoming and staying offended cannot help you, but challenging yourself to look at the reason why you were offended in the first place can help you tremendously.

Anytime you are "overly opinionated" about anything it is reason for you to explore deeper.

There is no shame, guilt or regret involved with getting to know what offends you.

In fact there is nothing wrong with being offended, the problem becomes when we don't know or don't care why.

To know why you are offended is a chance for you to get familiar with your values.

Everybody must strive to put our values and motives under the microscope of truth.

Why not? After all we expect to keep our Government and Elected Officials in-check.

Why shouldn't we take the same approach of scrutiny and standards to the main motivator behind our own behaviour?

Ignoring the reasons why you are offended will not shed any insight whatsoever into what to do about it, or how to get over it.

Whenever you feel emotion about something or someone it is more a reflection of yourself than of what you think caused the feelings.

You are responsible for self-governing your feelings and asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" will help you put your thoughts, feelings and behaviour into clearer perspective.


THE SECRET

Asking yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" helps remind you that being offended is not at all productive.

If you want to be productive one of the first questions to ask yourself whenever you feel offended is "what does this situation say about me?"

What do the thoughts and feelings that you have towards this situation say about you?

Being offended in a situation only shows people the way in which you judge others.

Continuing to remind others of how and why you are offended can only bring you more of being offended.

This can be summed up by the saying "you get out what you put in". Putting in complaints doesn't grow roses.

If you had a banana and you continued to cut it up into pieces, no matter what at the end of the day you would still have a banana.

You would never cut up a banana and expect to have orange slices right?

Being able to see why you were offended and what that insight reveals about what you are made up of on this inside is priceless.

With humility and practice you will develop the ability to respond better and offer a more balanced perspective.

A well-balanced perspective comes from being able to ponder yourself in the equation, both as the problem and as the solution.

This detached state of being is called introspection, or reflection and is generally accomplished through meditation.

With gentle introspection you will see reflections of both the conscious and subconscious programs that operate your world.

Yet for some strange reason many people fear stillness and shy away from taking a serious look inward.

Maybe because unless you grew up with a Yogi next door we were not taught how to meditate or exposed to the value of it.

Whatever the reason, it is an illusion that we can some go through life and avoid getting to know our self.

It is in our best interest to get to know the person we are stuck with no matter what.

No matter where you go, there you are, so the faster you get to know all aspects of your self the better.

Keeping the above metaphor of a self-government in mind, wouldn't you like to know if your elected "body" was doing a good job?

If you wanted to keep things accountable you would definitely require studies and analysis.

Don't be afraid to study your self, your motives, your behaviours, your thoughts and your habits.

Be your own best friend, become tag team partners with your self and together you will wrestle the challenges of life.

The better your relationship with your self, the better results that you will get.

When you are not getting the results that you are looking for, or find yourself emotionally attached to something, ask yourself "Will being offended solve my problem?" to move forward faster.