Four Rules of Time - By Brian Tracy

There are four rules of time.

The first is that time is perishable.

This means that it cannot be saved. In fact, time can only be spent. Because time is perishable, the only thing you can do with it is to spend it differently, to reallocate your time away from activities of low value and toward activities of higher value. But once it is gone, it is gone forever.

Time is Indispensable

The second rule of time is that time is indispensable. All work requires time. No matter what it is you want to do in life, even looking out a window or sleeping in for a few extra minutes, it requires a certain amount of time. And according to the 10/90 Rule, the 10% of time that you take to plan your activities carefully in advance will save you 90% of the effort involved in achieving your goals later. The very act of thinking through and planning your work in advance will dramatically reduce the amount of time that it takes you to do the actual job.

The Currency of the Future

The third rule of time is that time is irreplaceable. Nothing else will do, especially in relationships. Time is the only currency that means anything in your relationships with the members of your family, your friends, colleagues, customers and coworkers. Truly effective people give a lot of thought to creating blocks of time that they can then spend, without interruption, with the important people in their lives.

Spell the Word Correctly

There is a question: "How do children spell the word 'Love?'" And the answer is "T-I-M-E." It is the same with your spouse, as well. The important people in your life equate the amount of time that you spend with them, face to face, head to head, knee to knee, with the amount that you actually love them. Grow Your RelationshipsThe more time that you spend with another person, especially a member of your family, the deeper grows your understanding and affection for that person. If you get too busy to spend time with your children, you eventually lose contact with them and they go off into their own personal world of school, peers and other activities.

The Key to Goal-Achievement

The fourth rule is that time is essential for accomplishment. Every goal you want to achieve, everything you want to accomplish, requires time. In fact, one of the smartest things you ever do, when you set a goal, is to sit down and allocate the exact amount of time that you are going to have to invest to achieve that goal. The failure to do this almost always leaves the goal unaccomplished.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action: First, decide today to redirect and reallocate your time away from low-value tasks and toward high-value activities.

Second, make a plan to spend more time face-to-face with the most important people in your life. The more you think about the use of your time, the better you will become.

Life's Biggest Secret Revealed, And It's NOT The Law of Attraction!

“The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.”
- Oprah Winfrey

Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren't for COMMUNICATION Differences by Connie Podesta

Life Would Be Easy... If It Weren't for COMMUNICATION Differences by Connie Podesta

Sometimes it seems that folks just don't get it. No matter what you say or how you say it, they simply don't have a clue - and don't seem too worried about getting one either! It's not their nature to understand; that's just how they "are." Maybe so, but more often than not, the problem is a result of a communication breakdown.
In this digitally inter-connected world, you'd think we could "fix" such basic differences. Unfortunately, it's not as easy as plugging another device into the system. Maybe they're the problem. Maybe you are. We all know difficult people - and, in fact, we can all be the difficult person.

A little background on communication styles can help us understand the issues and learn how to alter our approach to eventually make life a little easier for both parties.

The Basics

Every time we speak, we choose and use one of four basic communication styles: assertive, aggressive, passive and passive-aggressive.

Assertive Communication

The most effective and healthiest form of communication is the assertive style. It's how we naturally express ourselves when our self-esteem is intact, giving us the confidence to communicate without games and manipulation.

When we are being assertive, we work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. We communicate our needs clearly and forthrightly. We care about the relationship and strive for a win/win situation. We know our limits and refuse to be pushed beyond them just because someone else wants or needs something from us. Surprisingly, assertive is the style most people use least.

Aggressive Communication

Aggressive communication always involves manipulation. We may attempt to make people do what we want by inducing guilt (hurt) or by using intimidation and control tactics (anger). Covert or overt, we simply want our needs met - and right now! Although there are a few arenas where aggressive behavior is called for (i.e., sports or war), it will never work in a relationship. Ironically, the more aggressive sports rely heavily on team members and rational coaching strategies.

Passive Communication

Passive communication is based on compliance and hopes to avoid confrontation at all costs. In this mode we don't talk much, question even less, and actually do very little. We just don't want to rock the boat. Passives have learned that it is safer not to react and better to disappear than to stand up and be noticed.

Passive-Aggressive Communication

A combination of styles, passive-aggressive avoids direct confrontation (passive), but attempts to get even through manipulation (aggressive). If you've ever thought about making that certain someone who needs to be "taught a thing or two" suffer (even just a teeny bit), you've stepped pretty close to (if not on into) the devious and sneaky world of the passive-aggressive.

So now what?

Clearly, for many reasons, the only healthy communication style is assertive communication. Surely you can identify many people in your own life that favor each of the four styles. Most of us use a combination of these four styles, depending on the person or situation. The styles we choose generally depend on what our past experiences have taught us will work best to get our needs met in each specific situation. If you take a really good look at yourself, you've probably used each throughout your lifetime.

Understanding the four basic types of communication will help you learn how to react most effectively when confronted with a difficult person. It will also help you recognize when you are using manipulative behavior to get your own needs met. Remember, you always have a choice as to which communication style you use. If you're serious about taking control of your life, practice being more assertive. It will help you diffuse anger, reduce guilt and build relationships - both personally and professionally.

Take Action!

Begin to pay attention to which communication styles you use throughout the day. How often do you use a communication style other than assertive?

Watch and identify the communication styles some of the difficult people in your life use. Can you begin to notice how others use manipulative techniques to get their way.

Powerful lessons in your house number

Powerful lessons in your house number

There are no accidents. You subconsciously choose your specific home for a reason. Apart from the energy patterns in the shape of your home, you can also look at the numerology of your house number you discover additional energies that are supporting you, and energy that's there to provide the lessons you need. The more aware you are of the energies impacting you, the more you can intentionally use them to empower you on your journey through life.

Each vibration gives you what we need. Here you can discover the energy you were unconsciously attracted to when you chose your home, present and past. Used in conjunction with Feng Shui you have tools to use in choosing your next home.

How to calculate the numerology of your home:

Add each number and if the total is more than 9, add those numbers to get a number between 1-9. For example:

658 Knoll Street is a 1 vibration
6+5+8=19
1+9=10
1+0=1

1006 Wellington Road is a 7 vibration
1+0+0+6=7

If you have an apartment number and a street number, the apartment number will have the strongest impact, but both will influence you. For example:

#59-2520 Johnson Road. Your primary influence is a 5 vibration, and secondary is a 9 vibration
5+9=14
1+4=5

2+5+2+0=9
Below you'll discover the energy each number represents. Have fun with this. The flow of energy in your home and the energy associated with your house number are important aspects of the big picture of your life.

What your number means

These are the energies associated with each number and the challenges you could experience living in this energy. There is always a balance of yin and yang and you can use both to support you.

One Energy: independence and new beginnings, self-development, individuality, creativity

Possible Challenges: completing things, going it alone, you may feel isolated

Suggestions: intentional self-growth, ask for and receive support

Two Energy: marriage/partnerships, relationship lessons, giving to others, connection with others in the home, peace and diplomacy, empathy

Possible Challenges: oversensitivity, can appear to exclude others

Suggestions: listen to your inner voice, be involved in the outside world

Three Energy: miracles, openness, optimism, expansion, self-expression, big vision for your life, rich social life

Possible Challenges: expand too quickly, scattered energies, 'enjoy now pay later' tendency

Suggestions: time in nature to stay grounded, focus on self-care and balance, stay connected with others

Four Energy: stability, healing, wholeness, being grounded, fulfillment and security in work, service to others, productivity

Possible Challenges: healing and work can make it seem like there is no play

Suggestions: take time to have fun, focus on balance

Five Energy: change, freedom, adventure, excitement, manifesting desires, communication, travel, romance

Possible challenges: things get magnified – the good and the bad, life can seem like a whirlwind, you might feel hemmed in

Suggestions: take time to make important decisions, be intentional about your goals, make use of this powerful energy to manifest what you want

Six Energy: self-harmony, balance, social responsibility, family, creativity

Possible challenges: giving too much, becoming reclusive

Suggestions: seek balance between giving to others and self-care, get out into the world

Seven Energy: solitude, inner wisdom, contemplation, sanctuary, dreams, visions

Possible Challenges: difficult space to share with others, spiritual rather than material focus, "no one understands me"

Suggestions: use your creativity to find like minded people – they are out there

Eight Energy: wholeness, abundance in all areas, empowerment, leadership, public recognition, inner peace

Possible Challenges: mo.ney issues, being self-centered

Suggestions: express gratitude, use this energy to learn abundance lessons, consider the welfare of others

Nine Energy: completions, humanitarianism, wisdom, generosity, compassion, good fortune

Possible Challenges: in seeing the big picture you might miss seeing an aspect of yourself that needs energy

Suggestions: live your truth and be an example to others, use this energy to experience life mastery

What is the energy of your home?

Where is your challenge?

How can you use this energy to support yourself? Knowing the meaning of your house number, how can you use the gift of this energy to set a powerful intention for yourself?

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Vicky White is the go-to-gal when it comes to Feng Shui and the Law of Attraction. With her expertise and gentle nature, she helps people feel empowered and clear about what they're doing in their lives - even during difficult transition periods. Get her free report, "The 5 Biggest Attraction Mistakes: and How You Can Avoid them" and see what manifests in your life! http://www.lifedesignstrategies.com/

Cruical Tips To Clearing Clutter

Cruical Tips on Clearing Clutter

We must constantly clear clutter to expand and grow by creating space for the new and moving away from things that don’t work for us. Holding onto things will most likely result in self-sabotage, because by focusing in the past it keeps us who we used to be, which in turn makes creating lasting change unlikely. Ideally everything in our environments should raise our energy and inspire us to be the person we truly are. It is our responsibility to create a vacuum internally and externally to create room to attract what we want in our life. It is then the role of the Universe to fill the void with good fortune and abundance.

Start with assessing your physical clutter. Make a plan and schedule time to start in one portion of one room, somewhere you’ll feel the biggest difference when it’s done. Set a timer, put the music on and go for it. Even 20 minutes a day will add up to something big. Clearing physical clutter will support you in clearing other kinds of clutter. Use the following points to create your action plan.

These are 6 kinds of clutter – how many of these can you relate to?

1. Everyday Clutter: unused, unloved, unnecessary, messy, extra stuff, dust. Result: emotional constipation.

Look at your belongings and ask yourself honestly: Do I love it? Do I use it? Does it make my heart sing? Does it fit into my current lifestyle as I am currently living it? Does it bring me joy and ease? Does it inspire me to live my best life?

2. Body Clutter: feeling off track with your eating and bogged down physically. Result: feeling sluggish, low energy.

Get yourself back on track with some kind of cleanse. Please check with your medical practitioner before starting as for some people and some conditions it’s not recommended. The principle is that by giving your body a break periodically from dealing with some of today’s unhealthy junk food, it has a chance to renew and repair.

3. Symbolic Clutter: unconscious negative messages, gloomy artwork, unfinished projects, things that remind you of a bad experience, broken stuff. Result: energy being pulled downwards.

Take note of your emotions around certain items in your home or workspace. What is your artwork saying to you? Does this support you? Are you really going to finish that quilt? If so, create a plan to do it and if it doesn’t happen give it another home. Are you going to fix your broken part? Can the item be delegated? Can the item be bartered? Is this action/item truly needed?

4. Invisible Cord Clutter: unresolved emotional issues, people/clients who drain your energy, something you’re not saying, someone you haven’t forgiven, incomplete relationships. Result: you remain attached to the very person you don’t want to be attached to and you give them a lot of power over you.

What is it costing you to hold onto resentment? Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. It doesn’t mean what the other person did was right. It means you are putting yourself first and moving on with your life without dragging a load of dead weight behind you. What are the stories you’re telling yourself about someone else? Are they the same stories you told yourself when you loved them or were friends with them? Holding onto resentments has a high price. Cut the cord and free yourself to get on with your life and your dreams.

5. Living in the Past Clutter: books and stuff from a past career or interest, files kept longer than necessary, wedding dress from your first marriage, things kept ‘just in case’, clothes you don’t fit into any more, old collections. Result: stops you being fully committed to the present and moving forward.

What do you really want to be committed to in your life? Holding onto things that remind us of the good old times will not support us in living the lives we dream of. And holding onto things because we might need them one day is coming from fear and lack. We need to cultivate trust – trust we’ll have everything we need when we need it.

6. It’s in your Mind Clutter: stuff to remember (to-do’s and information), stuff to forget (worries and grievances), too much TV, too much busy time, unchallenged beliefs, crowded Inbox. Result: keeps your mind foggy and stops creativity

We cannot possibly take in the entire information coming our way, or keep hold of it ‘just in case’. What would happen if we cut off the stimulation for a time? We’d get in touch with ourselves, our hearts, and make space for our own creativity and inspiration to emerge. We’d move through transition times in our lives more easily and emerge stronger. Imagine having a sabbatical with space to explore some long cherished dream or goal. Imagine having the space to get clear about your journey through life. Long before you feel stretched and out of touch with yourself, it’s time to schedule a mini sabbatical – a renewal day or half day. Turn off the computer, TV, phone too if that’s an issue for you, and arrange childcare. This is your time to do whatever you like.

Take back your minutes! Take back your day! Take back your life!

Let me know if I can help…

Forward Towards Success

Response to Everything Counts Entry on Influencing Future Generations

The following is a copy from a post made first on 43things.com

See more progress on 43things.com at: Influence future generations

The comment that vevveh makes is so true because we all are co-creators of our lives, whether we actively choose to participate or not.

However the Success Sensei might add that in order to influence future generations one should take the following into consideration:

Since we all influence future generations by default as being co-creators, an addition to the goal of your influential actions should be to leave the situation with the potential for positive power.

Whenever you are in a situation you can choose to make the situation better than when you weren’t a part of it.
That means leaving people feeling great versus small and to do this we must leave energy deposits into the emotional bank account of others rather than making withdrawals.

Yes of course, we all know that already… Which is great because in fact that my friend is the easy part.

The real test comes in when you consistently try harder to make it better.

When we are constantly operating out of a balanced state of being can one claim the positive and effective influence of future generations.

Let’s help one another get stronger. The world needs your contribution!

Let me know if I can help.

Forward Towards Success