Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will turn you into a lean mean achievement machine.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Am I happy with what I have procrastinated?"

THE PROMISE

Asking this question at the beginning and end of your day and you will begin to organize your life around your highest priorities.


THE TIPS

Do you procrastinate? Do you feel that procrastination is a bad thing to do?

Is procrastination a dirty little secret that you keep from your high performing peers and partners?

How do you feel about procrastination? Is this something that you have been struggling with for a while?

What if you were told that procrastination was not only needed, but should be welcomed and encouraged?

The reality is that procrastination happens in life just like change happens.

Avoiding change is not natural, and doing so will keep you playing small, struggling to adapt and coping poorly with life.

Just like we must learn to deal with change, if we want to be successful under any standard we must first learn how to properly deal with procrastination.

Procrastination is something that people use as a tool to succeed, and it is also something that people who struggle with use to beat them self up.

How do you view and use procrastination?

Do you feel that procrastination is a bad thing to do? If so, consider this...

There are simply not enough hours in each day to accomplish all the tasks that we need done.

This is not a bad thing, think about this for a minute and realize if you only had one task to complete all year it would be pretty boring and uneventful.

Generally speaking each of us has more packed onto our plate than we could ever hope to handle in one sitting.

As a result we choose to procrastinate something when we decide to do another thing.

The root of the word "decide" is from the Latin word "decidere", which translates "to cut off."

When we accept to act upon a particular course of action, we have decided to cut off the alternative, even if just temporarily.

Human beings can only focus their energy and attention on one thing at a time, especially if they expect that something to grow.

Procrastination is not only needed but it is a valuable tool that allows us to direct and discriminate our decisions.

The true problem with procrastination is when we procrastinate the critical and important stuff.

For example if we want our career in life to take off, we tend to focus on it above anything else, including our families.

Sometimes we have to temporarily sacrifice in order to produce the desired long-term benefits, like being able to retire early and spend time with your loved ones.

Asking yourself "Am I happy with what I have procrastinated?" will help ensure that you are committing your time and attention in the right areas.


THE SECRET

Ask yourself "Am I happy with what I have procrastinated?" at the end of your day to get a snapshot of your daily success.

Ask yourself "What is the benefit of my procrastination" is a great follow up question to gauge your intentions.

Do you feel like you were able to move forward directly due to the actions that you have decided to take today?

If you fell short of your goal and spent time on the usual attention eaters, relax and try not to be too hard on yourself.

If you do not feel good about what you have procrastinated write it down and record your thoughts.

Keep track of your priorities as well as how you spent your time.

Time management is really how well you can manage the priorities of your life.

The fact is that everyone would be living the life of their dreams if fear wasn't such a cunning adversary.

Fear works in mysterious ways that cause people to focus on perceived problems and potential barriers.

This become a big problem because we constantly attract into our lives that upon which we focus on.

So by focusing on potential problems they soon turn into actual problems that hold us back from our goals.

The best way to combat procrastination is by taking the time necessary to figure out two important things:

1. First you need to really figure out what you really, really, really, want.

What do you want to manifest in your life, what type of people do you truly want to connect with, what type of experiences would you most enjoy?

The big tip here is to avoid forming desires and dreams that fall into the "must-be-nice" or "wishful thinking".

2. Second, once you have figured out what you really, really, really want, your next task is to figure out why.

Why do you want what you really, really, really want? What would having or accomplishing your dream or desire give you?

The big tip here is to keep asking yourself the question "why" and drilling deeper until you have uncovered a value.

A value is something that is core to your being, an expression of the energy and life that is within you.

Imagine how allowing the expression of your core being would feel like for you.

When you align yourself up with your values, you can more easily express yourself.

Asking yourself "why" you want something connects you with your thoughts aund feelings, the automatic guidance system that will reveal the answers.

When you know what you want to express in yourself and why you want to express it, the answer of "how" to express it will also show up.

This is important because many people try and figure out "how" they will accomplish their dreams first, rather than after figuring out what those dreams will truly provide them.

Obstacles arrive when people try and figure out how to get something rather than determine why they want it.

When we don't have the why built behind our behaviour, the logic of how and fear of change tend to trump our ability to move forward.

The bigger the why, the smaller the how.

When you take the time to figure out what you want and why you truly want it, you will quickly witness yourself doing everything and anything to make it possible.

Ask yourself "Am I happy with what I have procrastinated?" to see how on track your time management skills are.

Balancing your procrastination away from the urgent and towards the critically important is the key to life management.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will pump up your problem-solving muscles.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What don't I already know about this?"

THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question whenever you come across a road block and you will solve your problems faster and more easily.


THE TIPS

Whenever the path before you appears blocked, or you come across a mental block, try asking yourself "What don't I already know about this?".

This will help you shift from seeing the problem in the same old ways and tap into the power of your creativity.

The next time you reach an apparent dead-end you must first realize that you have reached this block even though you know what you know.

Therefore, even though you know what you know, what you need to know is what you don't know already.

The best information in a solving a problem that has been plaguing you is by approaching it from a completely different angle.

Asking yourself the question "What don't I already know about this?" will help you uncover some strategic solutions.

Often we make the mistake of believing that we have all the information necessary to deal with a situation, or form an opinion, when we haven't taken the time to dig deeper.

When this happens we tend to make assumptions that eventually hinder our growth and keep us feeling frustrated.

An example is if you have struggled with something like weight management throughout your life.

What you already know about the situation is the gamut of diets, programs, exercises and training systems that you've gone through that don't work.

What you also likely already know is how many months and years you have been trying to lose those last pounds.

The problem with knowing what you already know is that by studying the things above, it won't move you closer to a solution.

Instead, chances are likely that studying what you know has probably lead you to ask yourself something along the lines of "What's wrong with me, how come I just can't get past this?"

You might be tempted to compare your result to others and wonder why "Tae Bo" or the "Atkin's Diet" worked for your best friend but not for you.

Instead of asking yourself a question based on a problem, your challenge is to shift gears by asking yourself a question based on a solution.

By asking yourself "What don't I already know about this?" you will find out new areas and angles to approach your weight management.

Repeatedly asking yourself this question will automatically enlist the help of your creativity in order to try and solve the problem.

You might discover that what you don't know already about your weight management is why you want to manage the weight to begin with.

You might uncover that what you don't know already is how your personality plays a role in your weight management.

You might find out that what you don't know already is why you have chosen to approach the problem in the way that you have.

The more that you ask yourself "What don't I already know about this?" the more easily that you will be able to come up with new empowering answers.


THE SECRET

To really turbo charge your results, when you sit down to ask yourself "What don't I already know about this?", write down your ideas on paper.

You might want to start with listing all the things that you already know about the problem you are trying to solve.

The more you can understand your problem and the better you are able to formulate the question, the better answers you will come up with.

It has been said that a problem well-stated is a problem half-solved.

The best way to solve a problem that has been challenging to you for a while is to make a "creative map", "concept map" or "mind map".

A concept/creative/mind map is a diagram used for linking words and ideas to a central key word or idea.

It is used to visualize, classify, structure, and generate ideas, as well as an aid in study, problem solving, and decision making.

A concept map is a great way to come up with ideas that you may not have otherwise thought of.

Use your creative map in conjunction with the question "What don't I already know about this?" for a very powerful problem-solving combination.

However, you can apply this question and creative-map technique to many other areas of your life, not just problem-solving.

Some areas that are great to apply this question to are your Judgements, Justifications and Tolerations.

When it comes to judging people, places or things, asking yourself that question that might prove helpful before making any false assumptions.

For example, you might be tempted to form an opinion about someone because of something that recently happened.

Before you cast judgement on another, put yourself in their shoe's and ask yourself "What don't I already know about them?" to better understand where they may be coming from.

When it comes to justifying thoughts, feelings and behaviours, asking "What don't I already know about why I do them?" might provide some critical insight.

When it comes to areas in your life that have been continually tolerated, such as a bad relationship, poor organization, work stress, etc, asking yourself "What don't I already know?" might help change your mind about why you are doing it and what you can do about it.

The key is to use the information that you discover to help you re-frame the situation in a more beneficial and positive light.

After you have discovered what you don't know, ask yourself "how can I use this new knowledge to get better results?".

If you are still drawing a blank or feel blocked then keep in mind that you can always ask a friend to be an objective mirror for you.

As long as you are open and willing you can stand on the shoulders of giants, mentors, coaches, heroes and sheroes to overcome your problems.

The more you practice asking yourself the hard questions in life, the more easy your life will become.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will make you feel love and gratitude.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What do I have to be grateful for?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many times as possible this week and you will be more grateful about your life's situation.


THE TIPS

The first step in counting your blessings is to write down all the things you have to be grateful for.

Before your start this exercise you may think that you don't have a lot in particular to be grateful for, if so you will definitely be surprised.

Start by finding a quiet room away from any distractions.

If you live in a busy place and cannot get complete silence then either wait to do this until you can, or just do the best you can.

You will also need a pen/pencil and note pad of paper, or a journal would be even better if you have one.

Next ask yourself out loud "What do I have to be grateful for?"

Think carefully, take your time and don't let yourself off the hook when it comes to answers.

One way of doing it is to brainstorm as many ideas that come up for you in a five or ten minute period.

Then you would take the ideas you generated and filter them into the type of gratitude expressed.

For example: People | Things | Other

People: Write down all the people that have made a difference in your life.

Things: Name at least 5-10 things that you enjoy doing on a daily basis.

Other: This could be an area where you keep track of miscellaneous things like "feeling grateful for being able to be a great dad"

Take five or ten minutes every day to jot down any new items on this list.

Be selective and choosy of what you put on your list, if you don't feel gratitude don't feel pressured to put up a convincing answer.

It is important to feel the feelings of what you enjoy, as if you were truly enjoying them in the present moment.

The above step is critically under-rated to the success of your ability to manifest using the Law of Attraction.

If you don't feel gratitude when you first do it, there is an extremely slim chance of manifesting more gratitude.

The reason for this is because like attracts like, thoughts become things, and what you focus on expands.

Therefore, if you feel grateful, think about being more grateful, you will inevitably attract more reasons to be grateful.

This is such a straight-up and simple-to-implement strategy for changing lives you probably are wondering why so many people don't it?

Because we seem to want to make things difficult for ourselves by default.

To make things go smoother in your world, start by concentrating on the things you feel grateful for.

Ask yourself the question "What do I have to be grateful for?" to brainstorm ideas.

Keep this list near by you and continue to add to it as you remember more things to be grateful for.

If you are feeling down and out and experiencing a bout of low energy, a great resource you to help "pick you up" is this list or journal.


THE SECRET

The secret to feeling truly grateful for a person, situation or thing is in the way that you express appreciation.

A great question to follow up with the first question is: "How do I express appreciation?"

In order to express appreciation you must first know what exactly you are thankful for, which means taking inventory of your blessings.

The good news is if you have done the work in the first exercise, you will have already written down a lot of blessings.

Now that you have a list of things that you feel grateful for, the next step is to ensure that whatever that is on that list feels appreciated.

Nothing feels better than feeling valued and appreciated, so consider it as the outcome when giving others feedback.

If you are really grateful for a loved-one or friend then consider when the last time you did something special for them to let them know.

We often don't show appreciation or express our true feelings until it's too late, make it a point to not let this happen this week!

You can also show you appreciation for material items, even though a lot of people might think different.

Contrary to popular beliefs it is ok to appreciate material wealth and material goods, in fact the more you appreciate them, the more you get back!

There is nothing wrong with appreciating material items, as long as you make sure that you show gratitude for them by taking care of them properly.

For example, you can not say that you appreciate being able to drive if you never change the oil or perform maintenance on your vehicle.

The currency for showing your true appreciation is your undivided attention.

Attention is energy and when focused is the most valuable and priceless gift that we can offer.

How would any one of your relationships feel if they could have an extra dose of a fully conscious and present you?

Try donating your complete and undivided attention to a loved one as a no-strings attached gift.

See if you can focus your attention for just twenty minutes. How about an hour? Can you make it a full day?

If you aren't sure what to focus on, you could start by showing appreciation of the common things we take for granted:

-Health

-Wealth

-Freedom

-Opportunity

-Relationships

When it comes to spending your attention there are two trains of thought:

A. You can spend your attention on the tried and true avenues of appreciation, the sure winners, perhaps if they like chocolates or flowers.

B. Another effective method to spend attention and show appreciation is simply by asking the recipient: "I'm here to help, please tell me how"

Notice in the last example it isn't "asking" whether or not you can help, that is too often rejected, but rather you are going to help!

Last but not least is it important to show appreciation to the person that we all have in common.

That is, of course, always no matter what above and beyond all instances, remember to respect and appreciate yourself.

When you put yourself into a state of gratitude your frequency changes, which changes your thoughts.

Change your thoughts, change your feelings, change your actions, change your life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you help find stillness and inner peace.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"What is the true source of my suffering?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question as many times as you suffer each day and you will become aware of the source of your salvation.


THE TIPS

As you go about your day today ask yourself "What is the true source of this suffering?" whenever you feel down and out.

Try to limit asking this question to situations where you feel negative, versus times that you are just thinking negative.

Negative thinking can lead to the feeling of suffering but it is important not to dwell too much on the source of negative thinking.

There is really no sense in trying to determine the source of each negative thought that you have because there will always be another negative thought to replace it.

Negative thoughts are repeated in the mind throughout the day as if on autopilot, hence the term A.N.T.'s, for Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Negative thoughts are something that we cannot avoid and will never go away fully, no matter how enlightened, successful or positive you are.

However the most enlightened, successful and positive people have came to one crucial and critical realization.

What they've realize is that negative thoughts pose no inherent danger to anybody, in fact a negative thought itself has never caused a single negative event.

Negative thoughts must first be acted upon in order to create negative events, situations and suffering.

Therefore, there is no problem with negative thoughts if one learns to ignore them, however the problem with most people is that they believe they are their thoughts.

How frequently you believe your negative thoughts will determine how often there is pain and suffering in your life.

If most of the time you believe that you are your negative thoughts then you are extremely likely end up on a psychiatrist's couch or in a psych ward.

This is because the more firm and passionate we are about our beliefs the more emotional energy we encode into our experiences.

When we believe a negative thought passionately we give power to our negative thoughts which generates negative emotions.

Our negative emotions are interpreted by the body as negative feelings that inevitably motivate us to take negative action.

Negative actions are action, often sub-conscious, that are taken in the heat of the moment and that move us away from our highest hopes and dreams.

If this happened to you, you might be thinking well at least I took action, and besides... at the time it felt like it was the right action to take...

Beware of the beast called Justification... Justification sneaks into every situation and sedates the suffering with apathy.

Justification clouds the truth, like in this case hides the fact that you are taking action from a negative state of being and expecting to get a positive result!

How can you ever get a positive outcome to result from a negative intention? It's like squeezing an orange into a glass and expecting apple juice to come out!

Once you realize that the end of suffering comes as a result of many small paradigm shifts you will then be more encouraged to seek out and feed only your positive thoughts.

You will definitely invite more happiness in your life by putting your energy, attention and focus on areas of your life that are more positive.

Ask yourself "What is the true source of my suffering?" to uncover areas in your life that may need some attention shifting.


THE SECRET

The secret to ending your suffering is to first realize the true source of your suffering.

Suffering is not some invisible phenomenon that is floating around in the air waiting to attack its victims.

Suffering does not happen randomly to certain people while arbitrarily avoiding others.

Suffering happens as a direct effect of a cause, the cause being because you allowed it.

The reasons why people allow suffering into their lives is as varied and diverse as there are people.

This is because suffering is subjective, meaning that what makes one suffer does not necessarily make another suffer.

Suffering happens as a result of your beliefs, a belief that a person, thing or situation should be a particular way.

When the person, thing or situation does not conform or meet the standard you've imagined suffering is created.

For example, let's pretend that you drive your significant other to work everyday and it takes five minutes.

Pretty soon, after a few months of driving like this you would start to believe that 5 minutes was how long it takes.

Let's just say that all of a sudden traffic jams start happening due to construction and the drive now takes 45-minutes.

Many people just like you would be very upset with the new commute, and rightly so, because of how it would affect the rest of their day.

In this case when asked "what is the true source of your suffering?" you might reply something like "the incompetent city or slow construction!"

What you aren't realizing is that the source of your unhappiness and suffering stems only from you being attached to something.

In this example you have become attached to a particular way of thinking, the belief that the drive should only take 5-minutes.

However, what you would have failed to recognize is that the real source of suffering is the failure to update your current reality with new information.

Since the fact has become that the drive now takes 45-minutes, believing that it should take only 5-minutes is an attachment to an old and false belief.

It doesn't matter if 999 times in a row that the drive took only 5 minutes, the new reality is that the drive now takes 45 minutes.

When you fail to update your reality and try to operate with your old reality in a world where only a new reality exists, this undoubtedly creates suffering.

Imagine a butterfly trying to eat the same food in the same manner as it once did as a caterpillar, it wouldn't survive long after transforming would it?

Believing in your negative thoughts generates negative emotions and that suffering in turn produces a vicious cycle of more low energy and negative feelings.

To avoid the slippery slope of stinking thinking ask yourself "What is the true source of my suffering?" and look inside for answers.

Inside of yourself holds the key to everything you ever need in life, including the answer to the salvation of your suffering.

The Buddha summarized this best when he said "All unhappiness stems from attachment".

Once you realize that the true cause of your suffering is the result of attachment to a belief your mind you will feel more empowered to work with and release that belief if necessary.

In fact, every time that you come across suffering, by evidence of your experience, you should learn that it means its time to let something go.

Letting go of your attachments is the true secret to success.

Therefore, finding what you are attached to in the first place is the first place to start.

Asking yourself "What is the true source of my suffering" will help you uncover clues to your attachments.

Once you have found the source of your unhappiness ask yourself "What am I prepared to do about this?"

Stay strong to see the truth, be courageous enough to let go and always find a way to move forward from what is holding you back.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you overcome limiting beliefs and build unstoppable confidence.

THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"How did I grow today?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every day and you will gain confidence, momentum and belief in your own abilities.


THE TIPS

Just before you go to bed today sit down in a quiet place and ask yourself the question: "How did I grow today?"

Paying attention and acknowledging your own growth is a very important skill that you must develop.

After all, only you have a vested interest in your own growth, after all, no matter where you go you'll be bringing yourself.

Unfortunately for whatever reasons, talking about and celebrating growth is a massively over-looked life skill that is not often learned.

Instead we are often taught to conform to the norms and told not to brag or show-off.

Have you ever heard this phrase said right after a compliment was given to you?... "Don't let it get to your head now!"

It's like we aren't allowed to enjoy our celebrations for too long or else it makes us a bad person.

We avoid attracting attention to ourselves to avoid looking conceited, cocky or over-confident.

As a result many of us grow up not knowing how to properly work with positive praise or how to learn from criticism.

This then leads us to experience growth as difficult, a struggle that remains for only positive people to pursue personal growth.

When it comes to living your life you are doing it such a way that is either helping you grow or die, and the best part is the choice is entirely up to you to decide.

Choosing to grow move you towards your hopes, dreams and the life that you know is possible for yourself.

Ask yourself "How did I grow today?" to map and track your rise to the top.

Look for strengths and successes that were revealed throughout the day, if needed keep a pad of post-it notes near you throughout the day.

Write down any challenge that you overcame, any problem that you solved, advice given, advice taken, or anything that you see as growth.

Find a journal to record all your observed strengths, achieved goals and documented growth.

Your "growth" journal is an invaluable asset in gaining self-confidence and building momentum.

Before you go to bed for the night take a few minutes and journal the answer to "In what ways did I grow today?"

List the ways that you grew today, find at least one way each day and as you get better try and come up with at least three ways per day.

Before you start your day in the morning take a minute to reflect in your journal and take notice of yourself as an amazing being that's always growing.

Celebrate your previous growth, strength and life lesson's by reading and remembering them.

Picture your previous successes in detail and remember how it felt to succeed, feel it as if it were happening again.

From that elevated state of emotion you can begin to tackle your day and any challenges that come along with it.

Whatever the result at the end of the day take a moment to record your new observations and successes.

If you commit to doing the steps laid out in this success cycle you will gain massive confidence within only a couple weeks.

Your self-esteem will improve as you repeatedly write and review the recent victories had over your challenges.

The more you stick to the simple process above the more capable and confident you will see yourself.

Ask yourself "How did I grow?" as many times as possible and watch yourself grow exponentially.



THE SECRET

When asking yourself "How did I grow today?" it is important to remember that growth doesn't always come from winning first place.

Your growth can also be derived from experiences taught from nature or lessons learned from strangers.

Growth often comes from unexpected places, a perfect example of this is your mistakes.

Many people think that growth only comes from acing tests and achieving goals, but failures can help us grow equally, if not more.

The absolute truth is that true growth can come at any place by anyone at anytime, it is only our judgement about the situation that negates the opportunity.

Read that last sentence over again because it is huge!

Every single one of us we're meant to enjoy the experience of our lives, but the single biggest problem for all is that we get in our own way!

The good news is that if you are responsible for being your biggest problem, then you must be equally equipped to provide your best solution.

To become a solution you must first take an honest look at how you are choosing to "grow" right now.

How are you spending the moments of your day, are they spent in ways that allow you to grow?

Are you choosing to move forward in your life on a moment-by-moment basis?

Are you aware that every single moment can and will reveal the path to your joy?

The trick to allowing the path to unfold is to first perceive yourself and your world with full unconditional love.

In order to learn from your mistakes you must be willing to let go of any attachments, expectations, or beliefs that don't serve your highest self.

This is undoubtedly the hardest step for most people to do, primarily because humans have a tendency to judge or label every single situation.

Instead you need to find a way to love yourself no matter who you are, who you were, what happened, what might happen, what should have happened, etc.

Always remember that when it comes to growth, it doesn't matter when, where, or how you start, the only thing that matters is you start.

When people realize the truth, beauty and simplicity of growing they even fall in love with their imperfections.

This symbolizes the first step on a never ending journey back-to-bliss as an unfinished masterpiece in the making.

After you've fallen completely in love with yourself you start to count both your wins and failures as growth opportunities.

You realize that you are always on purpose and that every moment offers the ability to increase knowledge and improve yourself.

What's even better about the whole process of growth is that you don't have to learn all the mistakes yourself.

The ability to learn from the mistakes of others is the magic bullet train to shortcut your fast track to success.

Do you have a support team such of mentors, heroes, coaches, mastermind groups, business partners?

Find people that hold the vision of your higher self for you at all times, eliminate naysayers and negative people at all costs.

This is your life to grow and you can choose who you want to enjoy that process with.

Asking yourself "How did I grow?" alone or in good company is the quickest path to a successful life.

Monday Motivating Mindset

THE HYPE

This weeks Motivating Mindset will help you lift burdens, clear clutter and feel lighter.


THE CHALLENGE

Your Mindset challenge this week is getting in the habit of asking yourself:

"Am I tolerating this situation by default?"


THE PROMISE

Ask yourself this question every chance you can and you will pave the way for massive changes in your lifestyle.


THE TIPS

Take a quick moment and ask yourself right now, "What am I tolerating?"

This is the same question that was posed as a Monday Motivating Mindset many months ago.

Just in case you have forgotten or aren't sure what a toleration is, the definition we are using is:

A toleration is any person, situation, or action that you put up with that you really don't need to.

A toleration is an undesired consequence, an unfinished agreement or simply a situation that needs re-framing.

This weeks mindset is a derivative of that question, "Am I tolerating this situation by default?"

People get caught up in the illusion believing that they have little or no choice to way they've been doing it.

The problem for most people is that they convince themselves that they need their tolerations to begin with.

The next time you find yourself facing a continual roadblock or swimming against the current ask yourself:

"Am I tolerating this situation by default?"

The feeling that you are swimming against the current is a sure sign of a toleration.

Life is meant to be sailed downstream and tapped into the flow of abundance.

If you don't feel tapped in then it is because you are blocking the flow of it.

So how do you get out of your own way when you are blocking yourself from joy, love and happiness?

You do it by first realizing that the blockage is due to a toleration that is based on an assumption.

What belief system, attitude or approach can you let go of in order to go more with the flow?

Tolerations zap our energy whether we consciously realize it or not.

Tolerations are unresolved demands on your attention, energy and focus.

They can be as simple as tolerating a squeak in the door or neglecting to repair a leaky faucet tap.

Tolerations can also include our relationships with other people, the standards we uphold and the work we do for a living.

Over time people tend to settle in their comfort zones, challenge their beliefs less and gain more tolerations.

The next time you find yourself stuck in a situation you don't enjoy ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?"


THE SECRET

Often the only reason a situation is allowed to endure is the assumption that answer is difficult or even impossible.

For example, a friend recently confided that she finally finished tolerating her old shower head and finally put on a new one.

Before fixing it the shower head would often unscrew and water would launch into the air everywhere.

Even though her and her roommate had already purchased the replacement shower head, in other words already possessed the solution to the problem, it was just not implemented.

When queried why she didn't change it sooner she admitted her assumption that changing over the shower heads would be a long and hard job.

Apparently the shower fixings looked like they were stripped or at least appeared very difficult to take off.

Fearing that there would be problems when removing the old shower head she settled everyday for an annoying shower experience.

However, one particular day the inevitable happened again while taking a shower and the head came off and the hose sprayed everywhere.

Tolerations can only last so long and in this case it was the proverbial straw that broke the toleration.

Finally, after having enough of the daily morning mayhem she grabbed the old fixing with her bare hands and started to unscrew it.

To her complete surprise the fixing came undone easily and without any hassle.

Then she was able to replace the brand new shower head and was showering new and improved again in mere moments!

Most importantly this whole process occurred without all the anticipated fuss and work that she previously worried about.

After enjoying the next couple days in the shower she realized that not only did she avoid the negative feelings associated with a leaky shower head, but she actually felt an increase in her happiness.

Was it because she no longer had to silently account for all the emotional energy that came with the old shower?

Or maybe it was because she could enjoy her morning showers with relaxation and the added benefits of the newer style nozzle.

One thing is for sure is that the next question that she wondered out loud was "why did I put up with this for this long in the first place?"

People often put up with unfinished and unresolved actions that could be addressed with just a little time, effort and attention.

We often walk with a limp because we are taught or convinced to, but when we learn to stand tall and take everything in stride we find out we are even more capable then we first thought.

Ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?" to find out where you can gain some precious energy back.

At the very least what will happen when you brainstorm an answer is that you'll start to attract new information and experiences that will lead you to a higher perspective.

This is important because the higher your perspective in life the less that you will tolerate in your life.

The truth is the only limits that exist are the ones that we hold ourselves down with.

Ask yourself "Am I tolerating this situation by default?" in order to stretch your perspective to the sky and never settle for less.